shepherd, 11 months ago (edited 11 months ago)

Hi friend, you got this.

I've been exactly there, and you got this.

Obviously, there's a lot going on here, so right off the bat:

Give yourself time to change, don't expect everything to be different right away. Every day, what you do adjusts your ship's direction like maybe 1° lol. Maybe 0.0001°.

The goal is to eventually be aiming somewhere that you like, but it's okay if you're having trouble steering today. If you had a shit day yesterday, and you steered 3° the wrong way... It's okay. Today, it's time to steer a tiny bit back. Just a bit of work. Tomorrow hopefully a little more work, we'll find out when we get there.

Good luck, captain!

It's okay to ask for help with this. Therapy is professionally trained help so that's extra good, but asking someone you trust for support can make a big difference.

I'M SERIOUS THOUGH, IT'S YEARS MAYBE DECADES OF GENTLE STEERING. WORKING SLOWLY BUT SURELY. GOOD LUCK CAPTAIN.

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So two things helped me, and maybe they'll help you too.

1. LOOK FOR GOOD ENOUGH.
2. WHAT IF CHAOS WAS THE GOAL?