When someone parks like a complete asshole with a spot open on their driver’s side, I park like an asshole right up next to them so they have to get in another way. This teaches them not to park like an asshole so they don’t bother others.
I guess I do the opposite, I rarely see cars that are parked badly, So I’m not worried about that, but when I see a spot open next to a driver’s side of a car, I purposely don’t park there because I want to leave that space open for their comfort.
Is the opposite specifically giving asshole the space or specifically giving good drivers the space? Or is it giving absolutely everyone space and not caring how badly they park?
What I mean is this, when I see an available parking spot but it’s right next to a driver’s side door of another car, I leave that spot alone and find another spot.
I already told you I don’t encounter “asshole” parkers very much. And if I do, I park extremely far away from them and don’t let it bother me.
You assume they are an asshole when they could just be having a bad day, a lot on their mind, and were focused on something else more important in their life than parking straight.
And quite frankly, even if they are an asshole who the fuck are you that you have any right to “teach them a lesson.”
If someone looks like wanting some help, and I’m able+willing to help, I ask the person “do you want help?” before touching whatever they’re doing. Because a good part of making the others’ lives easier is not making it harder; and if I were to screw shit up with my “GoOd InTeNsHuNs” + assumptions/idiocy, I’d certainly make it harder.
It only takes about an hour a week and once you establish a relationship with them you just bring them along when you are doing something fun anyway. You feel a sense of purpose and they fare better in nearly every measurable statistic of emotional well being and academic success. Men in particular are needed to mentor young men and can have the greatest impact. Many organization will match you with a kid who has your same interests too so you’re just doing stuff you both like. I really can’t recommend it enough.
This one might seem to be a bit silly, but for the last few years I’ve made my girlfriend’s breakfast every day and she’s packed my lunch.
She has a hard time getting up, so it helps her to have a fresh coffee and whatnot ready for her. She in turn makes my sandwich for lunch because even though I like eating it, I don’t like touching the lunch meat.
So while we’re doing the same amount of work, we’re doing a job for each other that the other doesn’t really enjoy. It also irrationality suggests tastes better, because it was made with the other person in mind, not as a chore we have to do for ourselves.
You’re still touching the lunchmeat. It’s touching you inside. All over. It’s rubbing against your tongue, teeth… the roof of your mouth. It massages its way to the back of your throat rubbing itself against every inch of your esophagus, until it finally reaches the inside of your stomach.
But it’s not done there. Your lunchmeat - the same thing you revile touching with your fingers - begins to lay against the walls of your stomach lining as it is slowly digested. Some of it may even make its way into your small intestine completely intact. It touches you all the way through.
Take my meds- man I never thought I was that different on or off meds until the recent ADHD medication shortage combined with some personal issues last Fall made me fall apart. My poor SO was worried sick because I was losing my damn mind, turns out I do not mask well. I didn’t realize that being properly medicated is as much of a public service as a personal one. May your meds always be available and well balanced.
I'm the SO of someone with ADD who was similarly affected. It messed her up for months. Things are just getting back to normal now. On the bright side, she has less insomnia on the new meds.
Good on you for sticking by her while she was working it out. Changing medication is so hard and takes a while especially if you’re taking more than one kind. I am really happy you both got through it and that she found something better!
Yeah …after about day 3 or 4 without meds, my short fuse is back and I’m just a ball of nervous, irritable energy. And can’t focus. Or motivate myself. I’m sure I am a pain in the ass normally let alone when off meds. Definitely a service to others to take it. Then there’s the anti depressants.
I know, right? Over the years, I’ve built wheelchair ramps for people several times and not once in the those cumulative weeks of hammering and sawing and pouring concrete did one of the wheelchair users deign to get off their ass and help us. So lazy.
When I go to the grocery store, I grab my shopping cart from the outside corrals instead of from inside. That way it’s one less the employee has to take back in.
Bonus: I’ll also always put the cart in the stack of the same kind when I put it back - a lot of places have various-sized carts and most people just shove them in there haphazardly.
I’ve found most people who have worked retail tend to do little helpful things like that without even thinking about it.
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