It’s so weird how Lemmy feels like old reddit and that was when I was more active but as reddit grew I began to lurk more except in four different communities. It’s still hard to not lurk here. I frequently will type a comment or make a post and delete it, haha. Anybody else experiencing this?
This would be my first comment. I mostly lurked on Reddit, probably here too. For me, I more appreciate the aggregated content and don't really want to take the time to engage in discussion as I try to minimize my overall screen time.
I constantly do the ‘type it out and delete’ move, both on Reddit and slightly getting there here. I’m just an anxious sort who’s thinking ‘surely no one wants to read this’ ¯*(ツ)*/¯
I’d never delete a post after submitting it, but I do find myself not finishing a comment when I feel it’s not worth the effort. I have been trying to get more people to post in my community so I don’t have to, though 😅
I never understood lurking. How can you just sit back and observe without ever engaging? Do you have no thoughts? Are you embarrassed? Lazy? We will never know because once the lurkers answer, they are no longer lurking. 😌
Im often socially awkward around people I don’t know well, and I have had many failed attempts to get past it. After a while I usually participate more.
I’m gonna be honest with you, I dislike the attitude of “I never understood sth” followed by confrontational and accusational language. Maybe you did not intend to be hostile, but you’re much less likely to get a straight answer with that tone. You’re much more likely to trigger “I know, right!?” responses by people already sharing your opinion/impression.
Seems like you already made up your mind about lurkers apparently. Let me tell you why I mostly lurk. I guess this applies to others as well.
Just because people don’t engage on social media does not mean they don’t engage in other parts of life.
Engaging takes effort, time and energy. Many people don’t have those to spare.
Contributions are also is not guaranteed to get positive feedback. Discussions with people holding different opinions is difficult for some people (various reasons). Open hostility is also a possibility.
Some (I guess most) people are not here to have discussions at all, just to consume. They are not primarily looking for a community, but entertainment or news. They have other priorities / more important things to do.
Maybe you actually were interested in an honest answer. Here it is.
I am moderating a whole damn community. I never reached this level on reddit. I still touch grass I swear. Also its a tiny community that no one really interacts with but me
I just toss a couple videos of people laughing there everyday. It’s a bit niche but I love it because these videos usually give me a good belly laugh. If you like that type of content feel free to post
I mostly lurk unless I think of something to say that’s interesting, additive, it funny. There’s no point in replying to a post if you have nothing at all to say - that’s just meaningless filler. That’s extra true for OC posts.
Yeah, early days of reddit when it was attainable to hit the front page made me much more of an active user. One time I had a meme that had 6000+ up votes in a short time, it was already front page of advice animals, and then the mods removed it. Pricks.
And then another time I had a strong post on DIY, and the mods removed it because I put a comment under one of my pictures that said “and then I cut it to fit.” and they didn’t think that was descriptive enough. Dicks.
And when I think I really became disillusioned with creating posts was when during the miss universe pageant, one of the women wore a dress where the fabric was made a print of flags of the world. So I posted it to vexillology, and it was getting good interactions. Only problem, someone else had posted a different picture of the dress moments before I did. Removed. After that, mostly just boring comments here and there.
I find it easier to comment on stuff if I just plop something down and send it. It’s easier to just express an opinion in the moment. It helps that you can see the responses people put too, keeps it interesting.
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