Has anyone here stopped drinking?

Kindajustlikewhat, 11 months ago

I stopped drinking 3.5ish years ago. I didn't have a choice, drinking always made me super sick and vomit. In uni I thought it was normal to "puke and rally" everytime you drank. As I got older I wouldn't even be able to get very drunk anymore, because I'd vomit before I could even get there.

The final nail in the coffin was I had a heavy night of drinking and was vomiting for a MONTH after. So I finally stopped. 6 months later I had a single shot and vomited for a week.

Since then every now and then I'll try having 4 (literal) sips of wine, and I'll have gastric distress every time.

The first year or so was very difficult because I missed social drinking and didn't really know how to be social otherwise.

Now I'm just used to it. I don't even miss it anymore. I'll just chill with friends sober, or high. My friends don't give me shit for it, and when randos do I'm just super rude and blunt and tell them "it makes me shit myself" and maintain aggressive eye contact until they go away awkwardly.

Calvinball, 11 months ago

I've been sober now for a little over two months. Socializing is definitely more difficult, not because of not wanting to be around situations where people are drinking. I live in a small town, everyone I'm around knows that I checked myself into treatment, so that's not an issue. The issue is that I find myself being bored by normal social situations. I'm working on getting out more, and I do have a small but awesome group of sober friends. I think it's just different now. That's something I need to except and work through myself. Congrats on getting sober!

1000knives, 11 months ago

i was a social drinker, but had to stop when i went on psych meds. i’m off them now but i never started drinking again. it definitely is a little awkward in social situations, but also, i realized i just never really liked the taste of most drinks or how being drunk felt, honestly. i was just doing it bc i felt peer pressured to.

neamhsplach, 11 months ago

The awkwardness in social situations is a killer. Have you found it's gotten any easier over time to deal with that?

1000knives, 11 months ago

not really. honestly, if someone is being really weird about it i still say i can’t drink because i’m on medication, even though that’s not true anymore.

Dee_Imaginarium, 11 months ago

I stopped drinking but not by choice. I got a medical diagnosis that meant I go to the hospital if I drink and possibly get some intestines removed.

Sucks because I liked craft beer and didn't even drink a lot. Maybe a beer after work and a few on weekends.

One good thing though is that at least my waistline is pretty great without all those extra calories. My liver is probably pretty happy too.

neamhsplach, 11 months ago

Sorry to hear about your health troubles.

The weight thing is mad isn't it? It's been quite easy to keep weight off. Although I think I've upped my sugar intake to make up for it!

Dee_Imaginarium, 11 months ago

Thanks friend, the diagnosis was several years ago at this point so it's been a while and I've had my grieving time. Things are better now and it definitely gets easier with time, but the first year or so was rough for me ngl. The health improvements helped though like the weight but I also just feel overall more alert and aware than before I stopped drinking.

I don't go to the same social situations I used to either, going to a bar with some friends is not really a great time for me now. Being the designated driver was fun for a few months but I get tired of being sober around a bunch of drunk people. So that aspect is difficult as well, but you find different hobbies and activities and with that different friends. Doesn't mean you have to say goodbye to the old friends, but if all they like to do is drink then it will get harder to spend time together. Many of the friends from before I had to stop drinking are now just distant acquaintances on my social media friends list. So that's a reality I'd say to just be ready for and try not to let it get you down. That's life and sometimes life takes us in different directions. Do what's best for you.

Happy to hear that you're finding good resources online though! Wishing you the best with your journey!

Mbarasipo, 11 months ago

I stopped drinking almost 6 years ago because when I started drinking I drank way to much. Had no ability to moderate. And the hangovers were killing me.

I have achieved so much more in my life now that I dont drink. Got a degree, bought an apartment, had a kid...

These days I drink once a year (which occasion I choose changes) and I have a maximum of 2 beers and I find that I am able to manage that without going into binge drinking territory again. I also find that I dont really want to drink more than that.

I used to drink a lot to deal with loud social situations as an autistic person (especially bars, pubs and clubs) but these days Im very happy being a day time activity person and being in bed by 9pm. I feel like my community does not show young people enough ways to socialise and have fun without alcohol so it took me a long time to find that for myself.

neamhsplach, 11 months ago

I feel like my community does not show young people enough ways to socialise and have fun without alcohol so it took me a long time to find that for myself.

Hear hear! Since drinking I've realised that there's very little else to do where I live. Now that I'm not calmed down by drinking, sitting in a bar all night has me bouncing up and down off my seat from boredom!!

dustractor, 11 months ago

Everything I like to do requires some degree of brainpower. One drop of alcohol and the rest of the day is shot.

Lols, 11 months ago

barely still drink, ive struggled with memory problems and depression for years and am terrified of developing some form of dementia

on top of that drinking just gives me a massive headache nowadays, no matter what i drink or how little

neamhsplach, 11 months ago

on top of that drinking just gives me a massive headache nowadays, no matter what i drink or how little

I've noticed this too, the thought of even having one pint seems so dumb to me because I know I'll feel crap the next day.

On a completely unrelated note, I love your username!

Meatstick, 11 months ago

I found this community using The Community Browser

https://discuss.tchncs.de/c/stopdrinking

neamhsplach, 11 months ago

Joined! Thank you! It's very quiet in there right now but there's one very determined mod making daily check in posts. I'm going to keep them company. Anyone else in this thread who's sober or sober-curious, looks like a nice spot to hang out in the absence of a subreddit.

gingerrich, 11 months ago

Yes. 7 years. I stopped because I was a horrendous binge drinker. The first year was the most challenging but after about 18 months I was able to have a non alcoholic beer once in a while to take the edge off. I would say I get the urge maybe once or twice a year now but it's more of a 'Oooh, that would be nice' but I know it's a slippery slope back if I do have one.

Overall, much happier and I wish I'd stopped sooner but I can't change the past.

lockedcasket, 11 months ago

Nov of 2019 for me. I am quite happy i was able to quit before COVID hit. I probably would’ve drained my account having to stay indoors 24/7. I didn’t even notice (neither did my partner) the signs that it was getting out of hand. I never noticed how bad my hands used to tremble when trying to steady a knife. At my peak it was close to every other day and I easily would’ve upped it had my recovery time not prevented it.
I was forced to quit due to my severe anxiety getting so out of hand that I had trouble leaving the house and my insides starting hurting immensely after having only one drink.
I do miss the taste quite often and just being able to go out and have a beer or so with friends. Unfortunately in the end I was never good at just having ‘one or two.’

nowrongnotes, 11 months ago

I've been sober since February 2018, after my dad passed away. My drinking had been increasing since my marriage ended a couple years before that, and I knew it was starting to get out of hand, but it took my dad's death to give me the motivation I needed to stop. He was a lifelong drinker, and I realized that's just not what I want for myself. Good luck to you on your journey, OP.

worfamerryman, 11 months ago

I stopped drinking a few years ago.

I never had an alcohol abuse problem and didn’t drink frequently, but I hated how my brain got super cloudy when I drank even one beer.

Even divining one beer made me sleep terribly and wake up super early, so the next day was terrible.

I eventually had an unrelated medical problem that I dealt with for years alcohol seemed to make the symptoms worse. So I slowly stopped drinking over time.

It was hard to stop 100% as I worked occasionally have a craving for it and have a beer or two. But at this point I have not had any alcohol at all for at least two years. But I stopped drinking for the most part like 4 years ago.

I honestly do not miss it at all.

effingnerd, 11 months ago

My two year soberversary is coming up at the end of the month. I was a bartender for 15ish years, got cirrhosis and a liver transplant, now back in school for a career change.

I haven't found a so er community in the fediverse yet, though I through sobriety as a topic when beehaw was soliciting new community ideas the other week. Hopefully something comes of it.

I personally am finding it hard to make sober friends. My old drinking friends, I believe, find it easier to avoid me then have my presence remind them of the fact that making alcohol a huge part of your identity can have seriously negative consequences.

I've tried recovery groups, but the groupthink and religious emphasis of most of them do not jive well with me.

So, it's been a lonely experience for me. But the clarity and drive to accomplish things I've gained is amazing.

neamhsplach, 11 months ago

I've found my journey a little lonely too. I've tried some new hobbies, like dancing, to try make it easier, but like all things it takes a long time to break into a new group and actually become friends with with people. I'll keep trying though. I love dancing even though I'm not very good!

YourHeroes4Ghosts, 11 months ago

Yes, I stopped in Autumn, 2016. I was an alcoholic in my late 40s, from a long line of alcoholics in a culture that is infamous for heavy drinking. I spend a lot more time alone now, but that's okay- the whole reason I drank was to make socialising tolerable.

I will be honest, I used psilocybin to start me off on my sober life, and it worked. I wouldn't say it's for everyone who wants to stop, but it worked incredibly well for me. I lost the urge to drink completely and it has never come back.

Powderhorn, 11 months ago

My first psilocybin trip was half a year into sobriety and made a profound difference. Not only did I lose interest in drinking as an activity, I also started being able to connect the dots on what was actually making me miserable in a way sobriety alone couldn't provide.

NubTubz, 11 months ago

Congrats! That's a huge step.

Alcoholism kind of runs in my family. Frankly, alcohol caused enough problems in my life long before I ever had a single sip of it myself which turned me off from drinking for a very long time. I've occasionally drank as an adult, but recently a close family member went through some serious health problems because of alcohol and it was just the final straw for me. I don't know exactly how long it's been since I've had a drink, but it's been a few months and I just don't have any desire to change that right now.

I never had problems controlling my own drinking, but I don't want to risk going down a bad path by turning it into a habit. Seeing the people I love get affected by this poison just makes me question why it's such an acceptable substance to abuse in our society.