Lol anon’s a dumbass. I work in healthcare and miscarriages are pretty common and for most people it’s pretty easy to get pregnant again, by the story she wasn’t admitted to the hospital so the pregnancy couldn’t be very far. So it’s not that big of a deal. That said, even if it isn’t a big deal if you see someone crying you don’t crack jokes lol. Have some tact and empathy. All that if the story was real, which it isn’t.
Poor anon. Should've said that research found miscarriages to be more common than previously believed and that this specific one likely wasn't the first and definitely not the last.
It's these little details that make all the difference...
Look on the bright side, now you and hubby can have your DNA tested and find out how incompatible you are and that you have about a 25% chance of producing a healthy offspring. Yay, knowledge!
Depending on the woman, this will either help, or shatter them.
The actual odds are around 50% self abort. Mostly within the first month. 10-20% happen between 1 and 3 months. Critically, almost none of the risk is down to the mother. It just happens.
I couldn’t get the fear out of my wife’s mind on this. All I could do was quantify it, and lay the groundwork that it wasn’t her fault if the pregnancy failed.
When I had a colleague who had 3 heartbreaks, and she was expecting her 4th we treated her with proper kid gloves, no carrying, no stress. It felt like a team effort.
I hope she had a happy, healthy baby and that she and the baby are doing well. I’m not normally a fan of euphemisms, but calling a miscarriage a heartbreak is fitting.
Do you just assume autistic cause people are weird?
Not every autistic person is bad at social. And as an actual autistic person who wouldn't dream of acting like that, I take offense to people dubbing everything they find odd or socially unacceptable as autism.
I was using odd as a catchall term, plus I was tired and couldn't think of better phrasing. And I was using it to try and question why is it generally a common thing to label something as autism just because it isn't a socially 'acceptable' response.
Non autistic people can be just as socially inept. And not every autistic person is socially inept. So it's just tedious seeing a lot of stuff labelled as autism, when it could be a plethora of other things.
Yeah sure, but those patterns are super clear and obvious to someone who’s not autistic. You probably do just a lot of non autistic stuff being labeled that way by dumb people hooked on the new buzzword though.
Yes, I'm well aware of that. I went through the whole diagnosis process.
But, it's not always a symptom. You don't have to tick every box in the symptom list. Some autistic people have that symptom, some don't. None autistic people can have social issues too, it gets kinda tiring seeing every social issue being labelled as autism.
Oh, okay then. Sorry for getting defensive, I just see this kind of thing a lot. And I know that people are quick to label social difficulties as autism, so it gets kinda of tiring that people generally label everything out of the ordinary as being autism.
Question, if you don't mind.
Does not being able to interpret others emotions make you anxious or avoid talking to people?
I'm oddly hypersensitive to others emotions, which can be pretty tiring in itself actually. So I'm curious how it affects someone who isn't.
People are different, happy to hear that you have good relationship with your parents - that’s not the case for everyone. Also there people who value their privacy and personal freedom more than the convenience of living in a big family.
I’m glad I live in a country where family value is strong and still living parents is less taboo, because the rent is too damn high. Although people who came from individualistic countries are judging. I remember ten years ago I have a friend from France who is weirded out we don’t move out even at twenty. But even if we want to, we have a housing crisis that persists to this day?
Oh yeah definitely most would move out. Many of us who can afford to move out of our hometown and explore. Some don’t return but many who do settle down, and live close to our parents’ home from just down the road.
Yup. My coworker’s wife lost a baby after announcing it to me and other management (he was excited), and it was well within the first trimester. I felt really bad for him, and the best I could do is not bring it up and just focus on work.
It’s hard to place yourself into someone else’s position, so if in doubt, it’s usually best to stay quiet.
I cooked at a restaurant with a guy who had something similar happen a couple years before I started there. His nickname was angry johny because he was so irritable. Whenever tears in heaven by Clapton came on he would would yell at the manager to skip the song and dissappear into the walk in. He ended up quitting for other reasons but a year or two later I ran into him at a bar and he and the same lady had a healthy birth and all his anger melted away and he turned into a really rad dood. He even apologized to me about his behavior in said kitchen.
Can’t help but think this why we use to have fertility rituals.
Some genes mixes are less compatible than others
Marry the one you can easily procreate with.
I know we’re not supposed to say it but consider where we’re posting here, a series a miscarriages actually is your fault, technically your genes faults but you are your genetic code.
Think how much hatred this fuck put out there because he chose a nearly incompatible mat.
Honestly I don’t even know where to begin with this comment. Like, blaming people for their miscarriage is a taboo and for good reason. It doesn’t matter how right you might be, it is still wrong on so many levels.
Yes, hilarious to think that we don’t blame parents of a miscarriage for their miscarriage? The fuck is wrong with you mate? I really hope you never have to go through that shit, because it’s fucking miserable and crushing…and you want to laugh about how “hilariously bizarre” it is to help people cope and deal with the pain of loss.
This is like some red-pilled, trolling 14 year old shit, and like any other teenage ignorant rationality, fucking incorrect and misleading.
Miscarriages can happen for so many reasons, in fact, it’s so common that around 1/5 pregnancies end in a miscarriage. It’s estimated that only around half are due to genetic abnormalities during development, the other half is due to structural issues in the uterus, nutrient and chemical imbalances, and other external factors outside of the uterus that can cause it. Hell, it’s not even been proven if the causes of miscarriages are hereditary or not, and you think your so “enlightened” as to why they happen that your willing to just casually blame the parents, like your some sperged abortion guru.
Knock if off with dumb, ignorant shit like this. It’s not to late for you to start being a better person.
Yes. Exactly that sort of emotional reaction is so fascinating. And I’m certainly not pretending I wouldn’t feel the same way about this or any other thing.
But try remove yourself from the humanity of it, if you can. Imagine looking at us as a distant observer, a few galaxy over.
Our lives are so silly and random and meaningless and we take much of it all so seriously.
How close were any of us to being naturally aborted?
Life is suffering only if you allow it to be. I choose to enjoy the ride. Sorry, not sorry that my life philosophy offends you. There is a beauty to having no purpose, purpose a limitation.
To pull from Rick and Morty like any edgelord should, “What is my purpose” – I’d rather it be “none, you fucking don’t matter,” than “you make baby” or “you pass the butter”
I am not, other posters have materially demonstrated that you are incorrect. My comment was advice for you. Take a moment to step back and consider the rational arguments made against you talking out of your ass about things you don’t know about.
And stop with that edgelord attitude. It won’t do you any good out there. You’re not the cold genius you think you are.
Of the fetus/embryo, not of the parents, you freak. You were talking about gene mixes, as if the combination of the two parents was the cause. While it can happen in some cases, there’s a plethora of environmental factors at play here. Stop with the bullshit broscience, you don’t know shit about reproductive science.
To illustrate: if genetic material is altered because the egg/sperm is dipped in overly acidic material, the source genetic material is not the cause of the unviability of the pregnancy.
Environmental factors are the parts the mother can control so as I see it, you’re the asshole here for blaming the mother for not creating a better nesting situation.
Please feel free to back up your accusations with facts.
Until, some more unasked for advice. I figure since you’re giving me some, politeness dictates i returned the favor.
Take some deep breaths. Find your inner peace. You seem to have a lot of hatred focused at me. That shits not healthy.
Where is your evidence that any of this is true? You are making bold claims about human genetics, though I am willing to accept them if you have sufficient evidence.
From what I understand miscarriages are common regardless as human reproduction is a very finicky process where many embryos fail to even implant. These don’t even get classed as conventional miscarriages or often even noticed as embryos are so small at this stage.
What I do find kind of funny is that people aren’t prepared for miscarriages when they are so very common of an occurrence. Especially if you want multiple kids it should be expected that you will miscarry at least once. Previous generations wouldn’t be this hung up on it as early infant death was common, nevermind miscarriage, and they understood that the process was fickle at best.
I think it’s all funny. I think it’s especially funny that people are so offended at me for noticing the funny surrounding this topic.
It’s emotional topic for people who have miscarriages and I am labeled as bad for having the wrong emotion. That alone is hilarious.
Your rose color glasses on how people of the past approach this is silly. Infanticide was widely practiced prior to modern history. Some estimates put it at 50% for distant eras. The preciousness of children is a modern invention.
For much of humanity’s existence children were a burden and pregnancy wasn’t a choice. Now that it is a choice, there is this added guilt that society chooses to wash away with comforting lies.
Your rose color glasses on how people of the past approach this is silly. Infanticide was widely practiced prior to modern history. Some estimates put it at 50% for distant eras. The preciousness of children is a modern invention.
So guessing they would care about a miscarriage, then? No?
I don’t get why your downvoting me, I agree with you that people shouldn’t be as upset over marriages.
What I disagree on is that miscarriages ever had anything to do with genetic compatibility. You’re going to have to present scientific evidence if you want to make that claim. It sounds like you just made it up to be honest.
I’ll admit I can’t source that one, most of the studies are on cousin fucking but it would reason the most genetically diverse a couple is the less common abnormalities.
And if people were killing their viable births why would they fret over the non-viable ones?
I am claiming that the reason people get upset about them now is because the process is highly planned and they are highly invested in the outcome.
And if people were killing their viable births why would they fret over the non-viable ones?
That’s exactly what I am saying. I put the wrong word in the last comment.
That’s the part you think I made up?
I’ll admit I can’t source that one, most of the studies are on cousin fucking but it would reason the most genetically diverse a couple is the less common abnormalities.
First off that’s not how that works. If two individuals are two far apart genetically they can’t breed at all or they would have disabled or infertile offspring. That’s why you can’t mix random species.
Second lookup how human mating selection works. There are mechanisms in place to ensure people with the right genetic compatibility are the ones breeding. Part of this is actually making sure they are similar enough to be viable, while still having some things like the immune system be distinct. This deals with inbreeding and makes the population as a whole less susceptible to a single infectious agent. Sure this is far from bulletproof but without extensive genetic testing you’re not really going to be able to do any better. There is no easy way to tell what your genetic compatibility is with someone.
There is no reason to assume they aren’t compatible from a single miscarriage. Not all miscarriages are caused by genetic issues. Thanks to things like de novo mutations and cross-over each embryo has unique genetics anyway, so genetic issues in any given symbiote don’t mean the couple which produced them has issues with genetic incompatibility in general. It could simply be bad luck, or many other factors like the age of the couple or exposure to radiation or environmental toxins all of which cause genetic and fertility problems.
This started specifically with a couple who had a series of miscarriages and me pontificating and the value of fertility compatibility before marriage being a thing.
There isn’t a lot of good data on could find on miscarriages as percentages. A lot of it is self reporting which isn’t trustworthy on this charged of a topic. It’s very rare for anyone to do the testing to determine why the pregnancy failed but what I could find was quite conclusive that it’s genetic incompatibility with life.
And I really don’t get the point of these strong emotions that it’s sometimes environmental causes, like drinking or drugs somehow makes it not directly the fault of the mother. At least genetics isn’t something we control.
People are fucking weird and not in the interesting way where they are expressing a uniqueness.
And I really don’t get the point of these strong emotions that it’s sometimes environmental causes, like drinking or drugs somehow makes it not directly the fault of the mother. At least genetics isn’t something we control.
I never talked about drink or drugs. Are you dumb or a troll or something? Environmental toxin means pollution, and things like lead pipes that are still used all over the world. You’re exposed to mutagenic agents everyday. Even without them random mutations happen anyway, like literally all the time. It’s the same reason why cancer is inevitable in all animals (and similar diseases in other multicellular life). None of that is the fault of the mother.
People are fucking weird and not in the interesting way where they are expressing a uniqueness.
Conformists need their placated reality. 🤷
I actually don’t understand what you are talking about now. What does this have to do with anything we have discussed? Please explain.
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