@futurebird@darnell I was spanked as a kid, by caring parents. I never felt abused, and when it happened, I saw the connection to my actions and it made sense at the time. My stepfather (who is still around, and lovely) had this funny practice of later coming to talk to me, and apologizing.
Here’s the thing - When I thought about it later in life, I realized that spanking never stopped me from doing stupid stuff. There was never a moment when I was doing something (that would earn a spanking) that I thought about possible consequences. Maybe you can blame ADHD impulsiveness for that. Anyway, for me, at least, it was useless as a preventative measure. If you take that away, it’s just an assault that might momentarily make the parent feel better, or give them a release. Not a good reason to hit a kid.
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