@msquebanh@Snowshadow Ah, thank you for clarifying. I understand the question better now.
It hurts, but if there is no acknowledgement of that and no apology, then I try to remember that this is on them not on me, and keep in mind thereafter that this is a person that I cannot trust — whether to have my back, or to consider my interest, particularly if they see it as conflicting with theirs. And that ranges from "This person is inconsiderate" to "This person does not actually see me as a real person."
msquebanh