I had a really nice night tonight. Hung out with some newish friends, and we enjoyed each others company...but

Today, 10 months ago

If you had a good time chatting, they probably did too. Sometimes i have an extra drink and get too talkative and laugh too loud, but my friends look past my faults and like me anyway. I’m sure yours will too.

D-ISS-O-CIA-TED, 10 months ago

I hope so, thank you

Brkdncr, 10 months ago

Some people will say “it’s ok to be yourself” and I don’t agree. Social interactions come naturally to many but not everyone.

Its good that you’re thinking about how those interactions went, and learning from that post-interaction review.

It’s bad that you feel bad about it. You shouldn’t feel negative about who you are. Look at each interaction as a learning engagement that you improve upon each time.

D-ISS-O-CIA-TED, 10 months ago

What you say is true. I agree, myself isn't a good thing to be. But it's hard not to fall into "Possibly did bad -> feel bad"

vyvanse, 10 months ago

I struggle with this as well. I try to remember that I should offer myself the same compassion I have for others. Chances are you weren't thinking that they were dumb or attention-seeking, and they weren't thinking that about you. I think it is so awesome that you were able to visit with them!

D-ISS-O-CIA-TED, 10 months ago

Thank you. It's so hard to give yourself compassion, isn't it? It feels like dismissing the issue entirely, and I do think I need to be better

numbscroll, 10 months ago

@D@kbin.social YES! Giving yourself compassion and having patience with yourself is really hard, I struggle with that too. I’ve heard people say treat yourself like you treat others, cause I am usually way more understanding of others than I am myself. It’s not as easy as simply thinking that and it becomes reality, but it is helpful for me to remember and come back to.