Sérieux les gars on a l’impression de se retrouver sur Facebook au début des années 2010 avec vos positions surannées de « droit au débat ». Entretemps, il y a eu Trump, le Brexit, la Syrie, … Il y a eu aussi #MeToo, entre autres choses. Serait peut-être temps de mettre vos logiciels politiques à jour, je sais pas.
The best thing about it is that it’s forcing Drake to defend some of the questionable things he’s been accused of, while doing a terrible job of doing that defending. So we’ve gotten a master class Rap beef out of these two, and hopefully we get a bit more, and a bit more of pedos and sex traffickers in and around the rap world being outed to hopefully face some accountability. This beef is becoming rap’s #MeToo movement.
The issue here is the way the message is delivered. We as a society need to bring attention to the issue of safety for women and sexual assault overall and try to find solutions for it. I think there are examples of great ways to do that (bring attention to it I mean, no clue how to fix it), one that comes to mind is the whole movement that I think was called #metoo or something along those lines? I think it brought a lot of attention to this and it allowed me personally to understand better the depth of the issue of safety for women. It made me more aware, it made me reconsider many things and made me want to be helpful.
Today there was another post around where it was asked of women “if all men disappear for 24 hours without consequences, what would you do in that time”. So many many answers were just “go party with my girlfriends and dress however I want and get hammered without feeling threatened” or something similar, and that post alone made the issue of safety for women so much clearer and stand out so perfectly than this meme, and more importantly the original question…
The problem is that this kind of discussion creates a barrier, it divides, it moves the discussion from the real issue, women’s safety, to a wrong topic, are men as dangerous as a bear. In itself it’s a question that promotes another type of sexism, it promotes fear, with the excuse of making a point and raising awareness. Instead of raising awareness it’s muddling the waters in reality which is not the way anyone will be feeling safer in any way.
After a lot of thinking and reading a lot of the answers here (only considering the actually serious ones, not the ones dismissing what it means that women answer the bears or the ones that dismiss the answers of men unhappy about the comparison) I’ve come up with what bothers me of the whole situation and since you seemed to actually be really polite in the discussion and spent the effort on giving me a different point of view I wanted to post my realization and thought process with an answer for you but also hoping others will see it.
The issue we are facing with this hypothetical situation and question, “would you rather meet a random unknown man or a bear alone in the forest?”, is that instead of raising awareness of the issue, instead of trying to find a solution, it is increasing the problem, it increases and promotes the fear. Let me explain better.
The issue I feel is clearer if we change the question not to aim sexism and sexual assault, but aim it at describing racism and violence due to racism. If you are a black person (we could simplify by assuming a man, to avoid getting again into the gender differences), would you want to meet a random white guy or a bear alone in the forest? Now, black people can and definitely are suffering racism at different levels constantly, depending where they live we can say that most have been the objective of some racist behavior. If they answer “I’d rather face a bear than a random white guy” because they are afraid they are going to end up meeting a white dude that is racist and would attack them due to race, it demonstrates a big issue that there’s that fear but there’s no way around the fact that the question is racist and pushes the racism forward by increasing the fear of any random white guy when in average no white person would wish any bad to any other race (which doesn’t mean racism isn’t a big issue in society).
The hypothetical question is a sexist question the way it is made that enforces the fear of any man. We need to make this very clear. Men are not rapists by default. Men won’t assault a woman when they get a chance. When a man is not attacking a woman it is not for a lack of opportunity. That’s what this hypothetical does, it tells that the only thing needed for a random man to assault a woman is an opportunity. Way too many women suffer sexual assault, it is a problem too widespread, but not because all men do it, but because most women suffer it. The answer to the hypothetical question should be “a man, because a random man out of the whole population is nearly without a doubt not going to be a rapist”. The fact that the answer is not that, means that we as a society are failing at making half the population feel safe. See, the problem is not the answer of women, the problem is the question, the question causes more damage than anything by enforcing the fear and dividing society between men and women. Instead of dividing society between rapists, assaulters and victims. Most women are victims of sexual assault, but not only women are victims. By setting the question as man vs bear, it enforces a different type of sexism. Men that feel that sexism and raise the issue are being marked as part of the problem, as assaulters. If I feel that the question is sexist and problematic it must mean that I don’t care for women and their safety, I’m a bear too… That’s what this question is proving to me, the amount of sexism still present both ways and how unsafe women feel around unknown men.
I think that this hypothetical is dangerous, it creates division based on gender, it makes sexism a bigger issue instead of fighting it. Instead, better ways of handling this topic could be such as raising awareness of how many victims of sexual assault there are the way it was done with the #metoo tag (if I remember correctly that’s what it was called) in social networks where many victims felt empowered to come out and show how many there are. Independent of gender. Another good way to raise awareness is another thread I saw yesterday asking women what they would do if they had 24 hours where there would be no men around without consequences for them, after 24 hours they are back and all continues as usual. Most were answering that they would dress nice, even provocative, put make up, go out with girlfriends and drink, without the fear of being abused, assaulted or worse. That shows the real problem. That tells a lot about the lack of safety for women specifically without making the men that are also victims feel like part of the problem. We can tell how women feel normally, without muddling the waters by comparing men to bears, and equating victims to women and men as the problem, when men can also be victims. We need to address these issues, yes. But not like this. Not making sexism a bigger issue.
In a new memoir, Christa Brown, one of the nation’s best-known clergy abuse survivors and #SBC whistleblowers, shares the shocking story of her escape from Baptistland.
"We all know he's guilty," says the Hollywood Reporter's Kim Masters of Harvey Weinstein. She looks into some of the consequences of MeToo accusations — who has lost their job or been brought to justice, and who hasn't — and what might happen next.
Depuis quelques années que s’étend la révolution #MeToo, nous avons compris combien des comportements masculins parfois jugés anodins étaient vécus par les femmes pour ce qu’ils étaient: des abus. Nous avons reçu en pleine face le caractère systémique de ces violences et leurs liens avec d’autres formes de discriminations comme le racisme.
Depuis quelques années que s’étend la révolution #MeToo, nous avons compris combien des comportements masculins parfois jugés anodins étaient vécus par les femmes pour ce qu’ils étaient: des abus. Nous avons reçu en pleine face le caractère systémique de ces violences et leurs liens avec d’autres formes de discriminations comme le racisme.
L’actrice française, qui témoignait sur France Inter d’abus subis au cours de sa carrière, a été gagnée par l’émotion à l’évocation du soutien tardif des hommes de la profession.
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elle se souvient du mantra de ses débuts face à la « violence d’un Pialat ou d’un Godard » : « Fais de cette solitude un art. »
As French actor Gerard #Depardieu awaits trial for #SexualAssault in October, we take a look at how the #MeToo movement has struggled to make a headway in #France compared to the United States. Monte Francis reports. Tom Burges Watson speaks to Mary Harrod, Associate Professor in French and Screen Studies at the University of Warwick about how the movement is still facing some resistance in French #cinema and #culture
As Donald #Trump said, 'all I have to do is touch a woman and she says yes' #Depardieu#metoo
French actor Gérard Depardieu in custody over sexual assault allegations
Total is still sitting at $195/$2000. Can someone give $5 to bring total to $200?
Everyday this survivor fears leaving their apartment and facing another assualt. Closer we get to this goal, quicker we can get them to safety while preserving dignity after the traumatic attack. ♥
Drake Drops New Track Inviting Kendrick Lamar Out To Coffee So They Can Clear Things Up (www.theonion.com)
“The truth is, Kendrick, I think you’re a sweetie / Does 2 p.m. work, or maybe 3?” Drake raps in his new single titled “I Miss You, Buddy,”...
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