Apytele

@Apytele@sh.itjust.works

I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.

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Apytele,

That’s fascinating I would’ve thought most of it is in stars and the rest is a miniscule amount by comparison like 98% or more was in stars or something.

Apytele,

Reminds me of the monsters from John Dies at the End

Apytele,

Pen tricks too. I also had one of my psych patients who had dermatillomania learn to make those paper stars. They also make “paint by sticker” books.

Apytele,

I would try pinching them first to see if it helps but I think most people just go to a piercer. I was thinking about having the spot marked by an acupuncturist then going to a piercer but haven’t got round to it.

Apytele,

Best description I’ve ever heard. The only winning play is to stop giving so much of a fuck. When you’re enjoying a nice, super wholesome, really well written drarry fic and a third of the way through you realize it’s mpreg and it totally was tagged you just didn’t read the tags thoroughly enough, just close the fucking window and move on with your life.

Apytele,

Honestly there’s only one sub I still go back to reddit to read so I’m very out of the loop otherwise. I think I remember seeing the words IPO in an email but that’s literally the most I know.

Apytele,

:)

Apytele,

Oh yeah all the best dudes have been bi.

Apytele,

I’m not even sure what I would report it for. Right now all I’ve got is “bad vibes,” I can’t lay my finger on anything concrete.

Apytele,

They’re two data sets with categories that correspond to colors, but it’s hard to fit some things into those categories, and they have slightly different categories, and some have items the other doesn’t.

Apytele,

How’s this?

Apytele,

Haven’t done his net yet! And not really I’ve been googling as I go myself! I really do recommend stablehorde though. In the midst of complaints about art theft, and the ethics of how the data sets were obtained, it’s important to me that a quality public resource be created and maintained. That cat is already out of its bag, the least we can do at this point is not privatize it.

Apytele,

I’m hosting it through a service called elestio: lemmy-czja7-u9009.vm.elestio.app:443

I don’t suppose you know how to get it to fetch things based on the domain I picked?

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I grew up Christian and knowing that the Romans associated Jesus with Dionysus is the one thing that might take me back to Christianity. That said, it would be pretty hard to find a church that is willing to participate in a pagan-christian bacchanalia. But c’mon, who doesn’t want to throw parties that are a “murderous instrument of conspiracy against the state” according to their biggest contemporary critic? Also let’s be real, by all known accounts Jesus loved booze and prostitutes, and returning to its roots is the only thing that can save Christianity.

Apytele,

Honestly my first thought looking at that is literally just oh god how much would that bill be. The heights of alcoholism get really expensive. In multiple ways!

Apytele,

Take pictures of yourself; it will help illustrate the point much better. You could also make them a short video or pay for stock photos. Most stock photography is in one of a few very specific styles because they best show objects and actions, so they should be relatively visually consistent but you could also use gimp to help keep the colors consistent. Gimp does also have some cartoon filters, but they take a lot of editing to look good. Might still be easier than trying to draw it yourself or commission something.

Apytele,

Oh, bless! I wish you as much health as you can get!

Apytele,

This took me a few months and I’m fairly skilled at both training animals and working with people to change complex behavior patterns. So this is gonna be heavy on the behaviorism side and somewhat show how little I know about cats in particular. Repeat each step a couple times. if you have trouble with a step, try going back to the previous step and repeat it a few times again.

  1. Make sure the cat knows how to take treats out of your fingertips safely. This is a trick that is actually usually easier to teach an older animal because it requires patience. Start a fun new game where you literally just give them treats from your fingers for doing nothing and the only rule is to not hurt you. Give them up to a normal maximum of maybe 5 in a row depending on the size of the treat. But if they get too excited and hurt you trying to get the treat, yell OW and stop immediately, AND do everything to prevent them from eating the treat you just offered. Eventually they will learn to walk up calmly and gently take it. This is very helpful considering you are about to put the treat near your face.
  2. Give cat treat near your face
  3. Give cat treat in front or your nose.
  4. Swap the treat for your nose at the last second and boop their nose with your nose.
  5. Decide on a word or sound to correspond to their nose touching your nose. I make a noise somewhere between clicking my tongue and kissy noies.
  6. Stop using the treat to directly lead them into the motion and just hold it off to the side so they know it’s there, but instead try to get them to boop your nose just by using your verbal signal.
  7. Hide the treat, but still give it for a successful snoot boop.

Quality Control Moment! It was important to me to get a good firm snoot boop, or no treat. This communicated to the cat that I did really want a full snoot boop, not just face proximity. So I didn’t reward snoot boops I wasn’t sure I felt. Almost always with people and animals you’ll get whatever behavior out of them that you reward (although sometimes with both people and animals it can sometimes be difficult to tell exactly what they’re getting out of it, but I digress), so if there’s a way you do NOT want to be snoot booped, this is the part where you communicate that to the cat. Do not give treats for snoot boops you do not enjoy.

  1. Introduce intermittent reward to fully solidify the behavior. This isn’t actually about your comfort, intermittent rewards are actually more powerful than consistent one (it’s one of the key things that makes negative consequences so hard to successfully implement; any inconsistency is just a highly powerful reward). I usually start with every other, but if you have a particularly clever or stubborn cat you could even skip only every third or fourth treat at first. You then wanna move from there to every other, then start giving a treat only every third time and so on. You’ll never taper the animal all the way off the reward, but you can definitely get it much closer to a “when I feel like it” schedule.

These last two are just cuteness fluff on top of the core trick.

  1. Cross-taper the command into a slow blink. Do this by doing the command and the slow blink one after the other, or by using a verbal command to get the animal’s attention, then utilize the slow blink. After a while, try the slow blink alone. If it’s not working to back to strengthening the behavior, maybe by increasing the treats at least for a bit.

For this last one it’s ideal to have a cat that really likes attention from humans. The more of a human attention whore they are the less repetitions you will need since they will be excited to get pets in place of food. It helps for the other steps to have a cat that is comfortable with humans, but anyone can be a ho for treats. To accept love as payment you have to actually like the person.

  1. Transition from treats to pets. You should already be intermittently rewarding. Keep giving the same amount of treats, but occasionally pet them in their very favorite bestest scritches spot. The one that makes them go bonkers. It’s usually on the head or neck, or somewhere on the spine. My cats is her cheeks, as stated. If they’re a super human attention ho cat sometimes you can even give less treats or even just discontinue giving treats entirely.

Now my cat is like "damn all you wanted was snoot boops and I could’ve been getting prime cheek rubs this whole time???

Translating across entirely different types of cognition (as between separate species) is exhausting.

Apytele,

You made the mistake of getting me to talk about something I love teaching. The cool part, to me, isn’t that it works with dogs too, it’s that it also works with people. The only difference is people, for the most part, get to decide what they want to be trained to do. Cats and dogs tend to react more directly to the environment. This is a pretty critical part of DBT Theory which is one of the core theories I use whether I’m dealing with a substance use patient or some one who’s chronically self-injurious.

Behavioral Chain Analysis is also pretty cool and fun! It doesn’t even have to be about anything serious. The example given in the class I took was “I want to remember to drink more water,” and the easiest link to break in the chain (iirc) turned out to be proximity to the water, so the solution was to keep the water bottle at the work desk. Here’s a good worksheet if you ever wanna try it but need a good way to write it down.

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I'm being harassed by mosquitoes, how do i kill them all?

To my knowledge there’s no stagnant water on my property, I’ve run water through all my ptraps, and I’m careful to not leave doors open. Yet at any given time there’s at least 3 in my house. I can’t sleep, i can’t sit on the couch, i can’t exist in the fear of being sucked dry....

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Auditory sensory overload

I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD, and I’ve noticed that I sometimes get sensory overload, when my kid (5, also neurodivergent) starts humming, or other loud conversations etc, I get physical pain from the sustain loud (or just high level) noise. I’ve been using my AirPod Pro with no music with just noise cancelling to help....

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