I swear I’m smart and have pretty ok reading comprehension…but when I pick up a new game I have the hardest time understanding the rules and mechanics by just reading the instructions. Watching videos is helpful but I still really only pick it up while playing the game and going through the motions....
Understanding how systems work and fit together is pretty much my super power, so I tend to be pretty good understanding the rules on a read through. Of course, I need to play it before I understand some of the complexities and nuances of how those rules work in play, but still, I’m generally the person everyone at the table gives the rule book to
I had my surgery before the wait lists were crazy. I’ve been thinking about a revision though, to sort out some complications, but the sheer length of the wait times now has been enough to make me consider going overseas for it.
We have a large number of blocks too, but that’s because we auto sync our blocklist between our instances, so we end up with lots of non Lemmy instances on the list
Lots of people who are seeing top-level postings about Hexbear. Net are probably confused about what has been going on and I want to give an SRD-style overview of the whole thing....
You’re talking about an ideal, a theoretical idea of what politics is.
Abigail is talking about her ability to use social media without being drowned out by transphobia and other awful events.
It’s not 100% achievable, but we can work towards the experience we want. Abigail has made her preferences clear, and this space exists specifically for that reason. There will be no “what aboutism” or “just asking questions” style of transphobia. Anything like that gets banned/blocked immediately. Shitty stuff happens, everyone in this discussion is aware of it. We do our best to make sure those conversations are opt in instead of opt out though.
Everything is influenced by politics, but not every discussion is about those politics. So no, in this space, not everything is political, except in an abstract sense.
If you’re looking for a different experience to that, you may struggle with the moderation policies of this instance.
You can be an advocate, you can be visible and loud and queer. But what you can’t do is insist that everyone else has to do the same.
I’m like you in that I’m openly, loudly and proudly trans and queer. I do advocacy work, community building, public speaking, I’ve done queer community radio and will likely do so again in the future.
But for my own mental health, I sometimes need spaces where my life isn’t that. Where I can browse and engage and talk about stuff in a light hearted way, without having my guard up all the time.
What I would suggest is that you take it to cis people, and you take it to gender diverse folk who are looking for those discussions. What you shouldn’t be doing though is pushing politics on trans folk who, like you, have to navigate the reality of anti trans politics already in their daily life. Give them space to recover spoons and exist without the doomscrolling.
And what I’m saying is that this sort of talk of the semantics of queer discourse needs to be opt in for your peers, because not everyone has the spoons to deal with that discussion. Some people are explicitly trying to get away from it.
The only people that you should be forcing conversations on to are the people who oppress us, not your peers who share your oppression.
I’m telling you, as the instance admin, you need to respect people’s right to opt out discussions like this. I understand that it’s triggering for you, but you having a reaction to the language because of the way it’s been used against you in the past does not mean that everyone is using it that way. If someone attacks you, even in a dog whistly, non obvious way, if someone invalidates your identity, if someone throws any kind of queerphobia at you, I will boot them from the instance without missing a beat. But if they’re using language that bothers you because you associate it with folk who have done that in the past even when it’s what’s happening, you need to find a way of moving forward that doesn’t involve getting in people’s face about language.
The reason that we created this space in the first place, is to give gender diverse folk a space to exist where they can let their guard down a bit. You need to allow people to do that.
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What is your email used for when signing up to Lemmy?
What is your email used for when signing up to Lemmy? Is it just for password reset?
Trans Australians waiting years for gender-affirming surgery, as Medicare bid looms (www.abc.net.au)
How quick are you to understand new game instructions?
I swear I’m smart and have pretty ok reading comprehension…but when I pick up a new game I have the hardest time understanding the rules and mechanics by just reading the instructions. Watching videos is helpful but I still really only pick it up while playing the game and going through the motions....
Political Compass of the Lemmyverse (lemmy.basedcount.com)
cross-posted from: lemmy.basedcount.com/post/114721...
A summary of what happened between Blahaj.Zone and Hexbear.Net
Lots of people who are seeing top-level postings about Hexbear. Net are probably confused about what has been going on and I want to give an SRD-style overview of the whole thing....