@Impossible_PhD 🫂
I’ll often be in the shower, and a sad song will come on, and I’ll start to cry, rendering my mom. She never got to meet ME, and i regret that choice so much now.
My father did know me, and he died a few months ago. I had so much trauma from him, and I’d give anything to just argue one more time with him.
After he died, his friends and attendants told me over and over how proud he was of his “unexpected” daughter, and how scared he was for me in this world.
Miss them both. 😭
Okay, I'm doing one of those anonymous AMA thingies! I'm using Google Forms instead of that one app, but it's still 100% anonymous, and I'll be checking and posting replies over the course of the day.
I've been drawing strips for years about attacks on students' right to protest, yet strangely I've never been invited to give a TED Talk, speak at an "ideas festival," or pen a column for the Atlantic.
@jensorensen So, so true. I HATE that it’s true.
Here at the university of Iowa, trans people are the only ones targeted by the cops when bigots are invited to give speeches, and we protest them. We have them on record in court testimony saying they do this!
So I went to gencon once upon a time, and Marie-Claude Bourbonnais was cosplaying the whole weekend and made me FEEL THINGS I couldn't understand. Eventually, after much prodding, my wife got me to go up to her and get a picture of the two of us (I am, for clarity, on the right).
YALL.
YALL, LOOK AT WHAT THIS WOMAN LOOKS LIKE. AND LOOK AT HOW I TURNED OUT.
AAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH ANYONE WHO SAYS GENDER ISN'T INNATE IS NUTS! 😂😂😂
When a loved one passes leaving you the role of Executor of the estate, and you're going through who to notify about the recent death,
TELL THE BANK LAST!
They will freeze the account immediately upon hearing of the death and the only way to unfreeze it is to go through probate, which will take at least a month.
This is really important for things like online bill payments for utilities, mortgages, etc.
You haven't heard from me on the Cass Report because I'm busy at work, and halfway through the last of the Oh Shit articles. I haven't had a chance to read it in any detail.
But from the skimming I've done, and even early scholarly rebuttals, it sure as hell looks like a textbook example of how to produce sham science, even independent of its impact on trans kids' lives.
@Impossible_PhD@DivineKestrel@NicolaElle@Nikkileah and the whole thing will be disproven by peer review, and there will be retractions, and subsequent publications calling out how bad Cass is
And in the meantime trans people will be denied services. Which was always the plan. These fuckers have perfected the DoS attack irl
@lisamelton@rooster I can't afford the time for electrolysis. I've considered doing one of those services where you go in and they work on you all day. But I don't know.
Until then, it's the daily dysphoria of shaving.
Also, in tiny Iowa City, we have 1 person who does electrolysis. And she grew up in the Nixon white house and Daley Sr.'s mayoral mansion. She's trippy,
TRANS FRIENDS:
Would you be willing to let me share pictures of your transition timeline on my blog?
There are so many of us that feel like it will be impossible to ever be ourselves. I want to show what social transition, HRT, and/or gender-affirming surgeries are capable of doing for us because I know that would have made a difference for me once upon a time.
If you can reply or send me a direct message with your timeline or before/after images, and let me know whether you want your name/masto handle on it or if you would prefer to have no name/handle on it, I would really appreciate it! The piece in question will discuss a little bit of complicated history of the before/after transition images but then focus on the power of seeing how dynamic our bodies are and how much is possible through different kinds of transition. If you change your mind after sharing, I can always remove your images.
@JoscelynTransient Left is sometime in the 2010s, when I didn't know what was wrong. Deeply sad. (I swear I was living on Terrok Nor, pictured in the background)
Right is me sometime in 2022. Happy at last!