I never understand why some people are so taken aback by the idea that some people are uninterested in sex or relationships, like maybe its just cause I'm ace myself, but I cannot understand what's so unfathomable about that to some people
@fluttergirly ... find exactly the right words for it.
I guess there are folk for whom it's mostly about the activity itself, and folk for whom it's mostly about the connection? Which doesn't imply that they can't enjoy the other side, it's just where the fundamental motivation lies?
And it seems difficult for many in either group to understand that the other is a valid view, and not just some weird hangup they need to get over.
@fluttergirly I hate that. And yeah, it tracks with the amount of hostility that I've gotten when I've said I'm ace as well. You'd swear we're out here trying to murder every single baby on the planet and then kick every puppy, or something.
something kind of interesting with Grey Area, and the wider audience it has found compared to my previous games, is that I made some purposefully unconventional design choices with it, doing things in ways I personally found interesting and just sort of generally treating the medium of a 2D platforming video game in a slightly unusual way, and then I've watched some people get legitimately really turned away by some of said unconventional choices
most people have really enjoyed the game, but a few people really have not, and even among those who like the game overall, almost always the complaints are about my weirdest choices, ehe
like, Grey Area is the least conventional game I have made so far, so it's an entirely new experience for me to get such pointedly negative reactions towards things I came up with and made
I am proud of and stick by my design choices I made, but it's certainly been a new thing to learn to handle, going from criticisms being solely about little glitches or small things like that, to being about my ideas and things I put in the game on purpose, ehe
one thing I have learned from this is like, where to stick to my guns, I had one review say something along the lines that "the dev cares more about their own personal preference over player input" and like. yea. I do. it's my game, I made it, you're just playing it, ehe
like. if I get feedback and it spurs me on to make a change in the game, thats like. an honor, yknow? cause its my game I'm making, if you had an idea I liked then you should feel good about it, not entitled to me making the change
in the end, its my choice to make how the game works or not, it's my art, it's my vision, etc
especially when its not something technical or just accessibility, like much of the criticism I've received has been, I'm much less likely to change it, I don't want to compromise my vision, yknow?
idk, this has all been rattling around in my head a lot, ehe
I'm just making games I enjoy, and if anyone else enjoys it too, I'm happy, ehe
last night was the first time I learned that people actually like, celebrate? have parties? on st. patricks day? I thought it was just the day you're supposed to wear a green shirt
I know I am ace because apparently most people consider sex important? something they are interested in all the time, or at least often, or something like that? but I almost never think about it, never feel a need for it, never seek it out, etc
like, I've never quite understood the concept of having a sex drive at all