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alicemcalicepants

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Insecure mixed content. Web editor, erstwhile historian, book blogger, board gamer, short story writer. Own views etc.

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alicemcalicepants, to random
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TFW your IT department has done such a thorough job of making everyone suspicious of unsolicited external emails, they have to send an all-staff email swearing the staff survey invite is genuine 🤣

alicemcalicepants, to random
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this song is for everyone on fedi who needs the reminder it's not a personal failing not to fit into a capitalist, conservative world.

🎵 You're here and that's a gift 🎵

Death Lens - Slow Burner
https://song.link/gb/i/1603133867

@Kitty @derthomas

RickiTarr, to random
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How much alone time vs socializing do you need?

For me there are a few people who are usually equalizing, and I can just be around them, so I won't count that. But generally, I find about 3 times a week, I'm game for socializing. A day in between to rest is usually nice, but the larger the gathering or if we go somewhere particularly noisy or I'm meeting new people that involves more effort, and my social battery empties sooner. I'm very curious where everyone else falls on this!

alicemcalicepants,
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@RickiTarr definitely lean more towards solitude - eg I get tired and resentful about lack of alone time if I socialise two days in a row, and like to have a day to do nothing if I'm out all/most of one day. But too much alone time is bad for me too, as I feel shut-in/start overthinking.

alicemcalicepants, to random
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Never quite sure if I finally got the hang of social situations in my mid-20s, or if I just aged out of being stuck in places with people who were too immature/cliquey to make the quiet weirdo feel wanted and included.

Maybe it's just extraordinarily good luck that I've repeatedly found myself among people who 'get' and value me, and avoided assholes over the past decade or so 🤷‍♀️

alicemcalicepants, to random
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This morning's earworm, and contribution to , is Maw by Chelsea Wolfe.
https://songwhip.com/chelsea-wolfe/maw

alicemcalicepants, to random
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Today in 'Alice is ridiculous': the book I'm reading refers to 'Friday 16 August 1995'. 16 August was a Wednesday that year 😤

alicemcalicepants, to random
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@Kitty @HeatherInNZ

Couldn't decide between two, so posting both 😁

Creeper - The Ballad of Spook & Mercy
https://songwhip.com/creeper/the-ballad-of-spook-and-mercy

Rise Against - The Ballad of Hollis Brown (originally by Bob Dylan but this is the version I'm familiar with!)
https://songwhip.com/rise-against/balladofhollisbrown

purplepadma, to random
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Tell me you hate neurodivergent people without telling me you hate neurodivergent people… https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/article/2024/may/19/haircut-without-talking-salon-session-stylist

alicemcalicepants,
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@purplepadma 'It's called small talk, and it's painless'. Strange, I find it so painful that I only go to the hairdresser about once a year 😅

alicemcalicepants, to random
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When HIM's version of Solitary Man came out, the music channels would censor Ville's cigarettes but not the smoke. My friend went 'is he holding a small fire-breathing dragon?' 😅

alicemcalicepants,
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This recollection brought on by the warning at the beginning of Poor Things that smoking tobacco was depicted, because that's so much more shocking than anything else in that film 🤔

alicemcalicepants, to random
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I just want Winamp to show the length of albums/playlists and not jump back to 'A' when I go back to my library, or VLC to better remember what I was playing when I left off and compile recently/most listened to playlists, so I can settle on one of them.

alicemcalicepants, to random
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@neurothing

This was hard to narrow down! Album name in brackets.

AFI - Misera Cantare - The Beginning (Sing the Sorrow)
https://songwhip.com/afi/miseria-cantare-the-beginning

The Cure - The Kiss (Kiss Me, Kiss Me, Kiss Me)
https://songwhip.com/the-cure/the-kiss1987

The Dresden Dolls - Good Day (The Dresden Dolls)
https://songwhip.com/the-dresden-dolls/good-day

Tegan and Sara - Closer (Heartthrob)
https://songwhip.com/tegan-and-sara/closer-2013

Silversun Pickups - Neon Wound (Widow's Weeds)
https://songwhip.com/silversun-pickups/neon-wound

alicemcalicepants, to random
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@Kitty @satsuma I still buy CDs if I can, though I rip them to my computer and then just hoard them in piles 😄

A particularly well-loved piece of physical media in my life would be Step One by Steps. In 1999, I played the CD so much, all the teeth in the middle of the case eventually fell off! This song was my favourite and shows my love for haunting-sounding music started young.

Steps - Love U More
https://songwhip.com/steps/love-u-more

alicemcalicepants, to random
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Because I woke up with it stuck in my head.

Chelsea Wolfe - The Liminal
https://songwhip.com/chelsea-wolfe/the-liminal

RickiTarr, to random
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So, what's the thing, what's the big thing no one can help you with? How do you cope with it?

alicemcalicepants,
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@RickiTarr late capitalism - the rich getting richer and making being poor harder and more joyless than ever before. Benefits not being enough to even survive on, huge waiting lists for healthcare and public housing, university being prohibitively expensive, and everything being about productivity rather than wellbeing. Something's got to give eventually... right? 😕

alicemcalicepants,
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@RickiTarr and if they had a little empathy and wouldn't hoard more money than any individual could spend in a lifetime... okay, maybe that one actually is impossible 😒

alicemcalicepants,
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@RickiTarr heck, I've heard even people who can't really spare the money are more generous to others in need than the super-rich (as a proportion of their total wealth) because they know what it's like.

RickiTarr, to random
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Where do you live and how do you feel about it?

Obviously, don't tell me exactly where you live, no actual addresses please! You can be as vague as you like.

I live in Central Missouri in the U.S.

Pros:

This is an absolutely beautiful place, green rolling hills, lots of rivers, lakes, ponds, and natural springs, cool caves to explore.

Lots of farming here, so great access to quality fruits, vegetables, meat, eggs, and dairy.

It's relatively inexpensive to live here compared with other states, because it's a "flyover".

I'm close enough to three major cities, that it's an easy day trip, and I'm about halfway to anywhere in the U.S.

We have one of the best Conservation departments in the U.S. and this is one of the few things that is a bipartisan issue. Lots of awesome nature programs that are free or cheap, state parks, conservation areas, bird watching, hunting, boating, foraging available to everyone.

Cons:

Yeah, it's a big one, it is a RED STATE, while a lot of the cities are blue, there is a large rural population, that votes red. Abortion is not legal here. People often vote against their own self interest.

While I'm not against responsible gun ownership, lots of people aren't responsible, and people have access to guns that definitely should not.

We have very few employee protections here, while the cost of living is relatively low compared with other places, it's taken years to get to a $12 minimum wage, and it's still not enough.

alicemcalicepants,
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@RickiTarr I live in Colchester, UK.

Pros:

  • very historical, including a castle that dates back to Roman times.
  • lively creative scene with spoken word, music, art, and theatre well-represented
  • some nice pubs and cafes
  • relatively easy to get to the coast, countryside, or London.

Cons:

  • traffic can be terrible
  • buses can be unreliable
  • houses are expensive (but could be worse)
  • quite a few empty shops in the centre, including what were two big department stores.
alicemcalicepants, to random
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Oh great, it's garden music season.

alicemcalicepants, to random
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#JukeboxFridayNight #mothers Far - Mother Mary
https://songwhip.com/far/mother-mary

alicemcalicepants, to random
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Placebo - Allergic (To Thoughts of Mother Earth)
https://songwhip.com/placebo/allergic-to-thoughts-of-mother-earth

alicemcalicepants, to random
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#JukeboxFridayNight #mothers CHVRCHES - The Mother We Share
https://songwhip.com/chvrches/the-mother-we-share

ChrisMayLA6, to bookstodon
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This week I've been mainly reading, no. 151.

Holly Pester's short novel The Lodgers (2024), is a timely mediation on the unanchoredness of the peripatetic life of the renter/lodger. At times elliptical, with two narratives whose relations remains unsettled, this is a book which offers a real feeling for a key element of modern life; moving from one lodging/rental to another. While at time wry, it remains elegiac in its approach to tenant's despair & longing.


@bookstodon

alicemcalicepants,
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@ChrisMayLA6 @bookstodon if you're into crime thrillers (I don't know if you are) you might like Lesley Kara's The Other Tenant, where the characters are property guardians.

alicemcalicepants, to random
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Every now and then, I'm reminded that the edgelord (edgelady?) Lionel Shriver is coming to my workplace and get pissed off all over again.

alicemcalicepants,
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Also, another author who is everywhere at the moment because she's got a couple of new books out, but all I can think of is how I had to edit an article she'd written when I was on work experience at a magazine years ago, and her grammar and punctuation was pinches bridge of nose

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