Lights: Switching to light sources/bulbs with lower brightness/warmer light temperature (lower Kelvin/K-value) 3 hours before bed. (Light affects our sleep-wake cycle, aka the circadian rhythm. Our brain processes bright light as “the sun is still up so it’s not time to sleep yet”)
Screens: Gradually dimming electronic screens until bedtime (Computer: using F.lux and lowering the brightness gradually in the graphics card’s control panel. Phone: with a built-in Night/Dark Mode option that you can schedule or by using an app like Twilight). // Don’t take your devices to the bedroom, or keep them far away from the bed and set them on silent/shut them off.
Try not to sleep for more than 8 hours so you’ll need the sleep the next night.
Sleeping in a closed and completely dark room (including covering LED lights on electronics, or using a face mask) with something that makes a white noise (fan/air purifier/etc.)
Food: Having a light meal 3-3.5 hours before bed and light snacks 1.5-2 hours before bed, to not put the body into overdrive digesting a heavy meal or cause heartburn/indigestion, and also to not go to sleep hungry and get distracted by that.
If you sleep on your stomach with your head to the side, you can use a thin and narrow side pillow (but firm) along your torso to support your shoulder on the side that your head is pointing to. (you can also use a thin pillow for your head to not strain your neck/spine - there are ones made for kids if needed)
A while back I realized there was a particular topic I could ponder and I’d fall asleep. For a few years, I was able to konk right out by returning to that topic. It doesn’t work anymore, but maybe that’s just because I haven’t found the next sleepy topic.
Find out your sleep cycle length. Mine is 90 minutes. My life is better when I get 6, 7.5, or 9 hours (lol I wish) because I wake up at or near the end of a sleep cycle.
No electronics in bed. Bed is for sleep and sex. No TV either.
Wake up at the same time every day.
Don’t try to force yourself to sleep if it ain’t happening. Go do something boring for a bit.
Sometimes I’m worn out but can’t nap on weekends and I will just lay there trying to relax every muscle I can notice. Sometimes this makes me fall asleep and sometimes I just get some good body rest.
Make your room as dark as possible.
If you have trouble sleeping through noise, try a noise machine. It sounds counter intuitive but usually it’s new or sudden noises that are the problem, and your brain should tune out the noise machine after it becomes a usual sound.
Avoid caffeine 6 hours before bedtime.
If you get heartburn avoid acidic foods and drinks before bedtime.
Alcohol and grass will help you sleep sometimes but it will be worse quality sleep.
These are things that help me, they might not help you. Try to keep a sleep journal if you’re having trouble nailing down what might be disrupting your sleep. It’s all about being in tune with how your body works and feels. Take some time during the day to just feel how you feel.
If you try a bunch of stuff and you get sleep and drag ass every day anyways get checked for sleep apnea.
I think I read that average is somewhere like 85-100 and I took note of when I felt most alert when waking up and when I felt most groggy.
I also like a weekend nap so I tried setting alarms for different amounts of time and landed on where I felt most alert and refreshed upon waking.
Bonus via edit: if you wake up during the night at the same time it might fall on a sleep cycle divisor. I wake up to pee at 4:30 a lot and 6:00 is my wake up time, 90 mins away.
As someone who occasionally struggles with insomnia, I highly recommend the Insomnia Coach App for iOS or Android. It’s entirely free (no ads or in-app purchases) and based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It was developed by the US Department of Veterans Affairs, but it’s available and applicable to anyone who has trouble sleeping. It has guided meditation and other tools to help you sleep or identify causes of insomnia.
It requires some effort on your part: you follow a 5 week training plan and keep a sleep diary throughout. However the effort is minimal and again, it’s free. Following the sleep plan significantly improved the number of nights that I have good sleep.
Avoid doing things like reading, watching TV, or phone scrolling in bed. Make it a habit to turn out the lights within a few mins of laying down if not immediately.
Also use light filters so you’re not exposed to blue light near bedtime. I think these two things have helped me basically turn sleeping into my superpower.
Sleep advice is like love advice, it can never be applied universally. But back when I was learning the languages I now know, practicing them as I drift off into sleep not only seemed to be good for sleep but also the language learning process. So… maybe choose a language? Just throwing that out there.
A sleep tracker really helped me. The worst thing about sleeplessness is the fear of sleeplessness. Seeing that you did actually sleep, even though it felt like you were lying awake all night, really helped me put things into perspective. Also, it’ll show everything you do wrong, like go to bed too late, drink etc. That way you always know why things aren’t going well and you can also see how being disciplined helps.
One thing I haven’t seen mentioned yet is to try and build up a pavlovian association with bed/bedroom = sleep. Don’t do any mentally stimulating tasks while in your bed or even bedroom - no TV or youtube, no mindless phone scrolling, no gaming, etc. Bedroom should be for sleep and sex, and that’s it. If you cut everything else out for a while, your brain will much more strongly associate bed(room) with sleepytime.
Other things people have mentioned are valid too. Consistent sleep schedule, don’t eat/drink/exercise for 2-3hrs before bed, etc.
Some good suggestions here. But if you’ve been battling this for ages, it might be time for a sleep study? You may need a referral from your family doctor for this, but it’s generally not hard to get, and the sleep lab will be able to tell you if you have any bio-mechanical issues like sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome, etc. There are all sorts of things that can mess up sleeping. Also, it’s a rapidly evolving field of medicine, so even if you had one done years ago, it might be worth a revisit?
That’s always going to cause problems. More caffeine takes longer to fade from your system.
I’ve gotten the best results from limiting caffeine intake to before lunch, and just accepting that I’m going to be tired in the afternoon. I need that tired period of time in order to sleep well.
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