I sent flowers to my best friend, anonymously

Chriszz, 3 months ago

That last update shocked me, rip man worth the try

klemptor, 3 months ago

I think you had good intentions but the flowers probably made her feel uncomfortable. As a woman, receiving flowers from a guy who knows I don’t reciprocate his feelings would not make me happy. It puts the woman in a bad spot. If she says thank-you to be polite, it can be misinterpreted as encouragement. And if she reminds him that she’s not interested, she’s a bitch. Either way it’s unwanted pressure because a man giving flowers to a woman is always going to be interpreted as a romantic gesture, which she clearly doesn’t want.

squid_slime, 3 months ago

Anything good come from this?

Seventhlevin, 3 months ago

Narrator: No

blujan, 3 months ago

OP: no

shinigamiookamiryuu, 3 months ago

That’s sweet. I myself got multiple bouquets of flowers from people (almost out of vases lol). Thank you to any anonymous flower donors who might be reading this.

intensely_human, 3 months ago

I think it’s nice you told her it was you. I can’t speak for others but if I got anonymous flowers I’d be delighted at first but soon I’d be obsessing over who it was and feeling all sorts of weird stress about feeling the need to find out.

Khrux, 3 months ago

Hey apologies if I sound like I’m greatly underestimating your maturity but it’s probably better to act on the side of caution.

Flowers are lovely I really hope she likes them! I also have a best friend who I really want to be happy and would probably appreciate nice flowers, although I’d personally steer away from valentine’s as I wouldn’t want them to be interpreted romantically.

As for that, I trust you know if you want them to be interpreted as a romantic gesture and you should absolutely let her know they’re from you and if they are or aren’t.

If you want it to be mysterious if they’re from you, absolutely expect her to either figure it out or assume they’re from someone else secretly and show them gratitude, it’s a rare person who would receive something anonymously and not try to presume the sender.

It is a really thoughtful gesture to get flowers for someone you care about today in the want for them to be happy, but it’s not fun for anyone if it’s misinterpreted and someone ends up less happy for it.

blujan, 3 months ago (edited 3 months ago)

Thank you for the heads up, I let her know already.

Edit to add context: I do like her more than as a friend, I know she doesn’t and that’s why I did it anonymously.

I don’t want her to feel pressured, just cared for. We have been good friends for a long time, I think my feelings can become an obstacle for our friendship and I hate that.

I wish I didn’t feel this way.

willya, 3 months ago

I’d let her know they’re from you.

Worx, 3 months ago

And definitely clarify whether or not you meant them romantically

intensely_human, 3 months ago

“Those were me”

“Oh”

“And just to let you know, they weren’t meant as romantic”

“Oh”

“More just casual-sexual”

partial_accumen, 3 months ago

Its a nice gesture, but wouldn’t it mean so much more to her knowing they came from you?

dingus, 3 months ago

Maybe. Idk if OP is like this too tho, but when I want to do something nice for someone, I don’t like singling them out to make them feel uncomfortable. So I try to do nice things more covertly. I guess it sounds stupid, but that’s the way my mind works. Idk.

Blaze, 3 months ago

Nice of you!