Honestly, I think this could be true. There’s definitely something to be said about willingly putting yourself in a vulnerable position with someone you feel safe with, for the sole purpose of their pleasure and nothing else. However, there’s definitely a balance. If my husband demanded blow jobs every day or something, I’d probably get the “ick” from him and not want to do it. But since he’s never been the one to be demanding about anything sexual, I do actually love making him feel good like that.
Sometimes I’ll make it hella silly and we’ll be sitting on the couch and I’ll just say something stupid like “GO GET ON THE BED KING, ITS TIME TO GET YOUR DICK SUCKED!” And he’ll roll his eyes and blush but I also see the corner of his mouth quirk into a small smile and I know he’s just like “She’s thinking of me.” And it gives me all the warm fuzzies. I also saw a meme once that said “LEMME STRESS EAT THAT DICK”, and that’s one that I’ve whipped out a time or two that makes him snort. Yeah, I’m goofy, not every time, but sometimes, because we’ve been married for 14 years this year and I just like to see him grin.
That being said, I also fucking love when he wants to take care of my needs out of nowhere too. There’s something amazing about just knowing someone is invested in your pleasure.
As a guy, snuggles can be faaaarrr harder to get than sexual release
(Yes I realize I worded that atrociously, my autism kicked in halfway through typing “harder to get than sex” but tbh if you’re hooking up with people you can probably sneak a snuggle in, but you need someone who’s comfortable snuggling with you to get snuggles, but sexual release can be a solo job. So thats how you get the more technically accurate, but 5000x creepier statement that I ended up with)
I fucking love giving oral. Like 100% legit would rather give oral than receive and when its with the right person giving oral is better than 90% of sex.
Oral is more intimacy focussed, at least as far as giving it is concerned. As the giver you also get immediate and obvious feedback that your partner is finding pleasure in what you are doing (Or that they ARENT enjoying it if you’re fucking it up)
As someone with a high sex drive, it’s not rational. It’s like hunger, or sleepiness. It’s a base biological need and the longer I go without sex the more irritable and depressed I get.
It’s not a need in the sense that I’ll die without it, but it’s a need in the sense that my mental health will deteriorate without it.
I’m mostly sex repulsed but I find giving oral way more manageable than penetrative sex. Mostly I just don’t like being touched but yes like someone else said, knowing that you’re causing the pleasure for someone else is the appealing part of it. Especially if they’re vocal about it.
See, I feel like I’m the exact opposite. I don’t mind being touched nor penetrated (toys only, w4w). Oral however just doesn’t seem fun for me either way. I guess I’m just more comfortable with someone’s hand than someone’s head.
TBF, sex in general doesn’t give me any happy chemicals so it’s not something I seek out or ever get excited about.
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