If both parties are reasonable people, there’s nothing wrong with vacating your seat so someone can have it if you’re done with that seat. It depends on how she asked because you’re not entitled to kindness or generosity if you’re a bully or rude. Since he seemed to have mind it, I am guessing either she asked rudely or he perceived rudeness in her ask.
Yeah I agree if that’s literally all she said, or I don’t know if he cut her sentence and only used the bit in his post that offended him.
I just know that sometimes if you look a certain way and dress a certain way people assume you’re rude no matter what you actually do or say. This happens a lot with young women because of sexism. Like if you’re not a soft spoken “good girl” you’re taken for a bitch.
I don’t think there is a proper way to ask. Leave people that are eating alone so they can enjoy their meal. Even if you ask nicely, you are still putting pressure on the person eating. If you need to be seated a specific time go to a restaurant with reservations.
Or you could just wait for a seat to open up and take it, because if you’re “asking correctly”, in which you aren’t pressuring anyone to leave, the end result would be exactly the same.
The result of getting a table or not remains the same, but knowing whether or not to pay attention to that table leaving is different. It could mean waiting for that table or going to another area in to see if another table is leaving or open.
i dont get why people are so against her, i totally see where shes coming from and you could prob finish your breakfast in 15 mins, its not like she did anything she just told him her situation.
She explicitly told him to “hurry up and finish so we can take your place” which is a ludicrous demand to a stranger.
You can ask politely if the stranger will be leaving soon, or even offer to pay for their meal with the condition that they leave, but making a demand of a stranger that has an exactly equal right to something that you want is very rude, no matter what appeal to emotion you couple it with.
I do think it’s pretty rude but we don’t actually know that’s a direct quote, it might just be how the tweeter interpreted what they asked. If those actually are the words she used, then yes that’s inexcusable, but given twitter, I think that’s unlikely.
Would have been totally fine if she said “hey I have a friend coming in 15, do you think I could have your table then?”, but she didn’t. She decided to be arrogant about it so fuck her ¯\(°_°)/¯
There’s being nice, and then there’s being a pushover. Don’t be a pushover. This lady had zero manners or consideration of that person. 100% selfish. I see absolutely no reason to be accommodating to that.
i see no problem in people seeing my as a pussy, something like eating faster takes so little effort and shes not taking anything from me. its not like im trying to assert my dominance as someone big that wont be bossed around. i am happy as the way i am and something so small wont come close to touching my ego.
i know i might be part of the problem encouraging this behaviour but i aint got time for that. hanlon’s razor: never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity
My sister and I were eating at a popular bagel place (buy at front, find your own table). Finishing up, one of us stood up to put on a jacket, woman from a table at the side immediately comes over and sits down, staking the ‘better’ table. No hello, no may I take your seat, just a Karen sit n grab.
Ah, you’ve met my ex. She’s horrible at this, hovering or whatnot. I on the other had walk up, hey folks I’d really like to grab your seats after you’re done and just didn’t want to hover. Almost always get it.
The fuck are you talking about? Nobody’s culture is even mentioned here. What do you propose we should be mad about that isn’t the rude person intruding on personal space without the slightest hint of a polite formality.
(to staff) I’ll tip you $100 to string that hag along, keep feeding me coffee, come and “ask” me about operations when they’re in earshot and then tell her I’m the owner and will sit where I damn well want.
LOL you’re on crack. The whole point of owning a business is that you can do whatever the fuck you want (within the law). There is no requirement to give tables up to customers.
That’s the funny part, if I’m the owner, I can do whatever I want. “It’s a must”? Too bad, it’s my restaurant and I want to sit here. “You’re being rude to a customer” I’m being rude to this customer, too bad.
Often the best thing you can do as a business owner is to “fire” your bad customers.
Often 90% of complaints come from 1% of customers. The amount of manpower wasted dealing with the complaints is not worth the sales - and these kinds of customers are always so shocked and appalled when you tell them that you don’t need their business.
Negative. Owner can do whatever they want with their business. That kind of attitude enables and empowers the entitled Karens, and I’m very happy to frequent establishments where the staff isn’t harried and stressed af, even if it means I might have to gasp wait a few minutes at the host stand to be seen, or don’t get bent over backwards for
We’re all humans, the money in your pocket doesn’t entitle you to a rent-a-slave experience for a meal, and I’ve never worked a customer facing job a day in my life
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