Interesting. I have a mild (probably healthy) phobia of getting shocked when I’m doing wiring around the house. And I was “acquainted” with electric fences on farms as a kid. I’ve been imagining house wiring would feel similar.
We have next door neighbors that are Muslim and are so very kind. They bring us plates of food when they cook and they even scared away some kids trying to steal our car at 2 in the morning....
I work as a web dev, FE/BE, and company I currently work in took a project that is basically some kind of MLM structured business. It’s a challenge to do such project, not only from dev perspective, but also morally I’m not sure if I’m okay with it....
You must ask yourself how you will feel about providing professional support to this MLM. Can you imagine looking yourself in the mirror? Can you imagine how you will feel once the job has been completed?
I had a dilemma like this back in 2007. I was an auditor at a CPA firm, and my boss tried to assign me to a new client…a PAC… back when PACs were just starting to register in the general public’s awareness. This PAC was in support of a politician that stood for the opposite of nearly every social issue I cared about. I did try to keep an open mind. Auditors are supposed to be unbiased, but usually the worry is don’t get too friendly with your clients, not the other way around. But I couldn’t do it. I imagined what it would be like to go to this place for 2 weeks to do the fieldwork. And I couldn’t do it. Just 2 weeks of my life. Nope. The politician was too polarizing.
I told my boss to assign someone else. He gave me a little flack for it, but overall he was a good boss who appreciated me as a professional. He assigned someone else and that’s the last I heard of it… until that PAC was getting targeted by tv talking heads waving our audit report in front of the cameras.
I’m soooo glad I declined that assignment. Not only am I proud of myself for standing up for my issues, not actively undermining them by working for the “other side”, but I dodged a bullet by not being associated with them on actual television.
My mother and grandmother have come to me in dreams since their passing, and usually my dream self is aware that they are no longer with us, and is extra super fighty to wring as much dream time with them as possible before waking up. Sometimes I wake up upset and mournful, other times, I can still feel their hugs and feel all warm and happy. Brains are pretty weird.
“I couldn’t help it. It just popped in there … I tried to think of the most harmless thing. Something I loved from my childhood, something that could never, ever possibly destroy us…” 🐧
I love the Sealife Center in Seward. They do excellent rehab and release to wild if they can, but this little one probably won’t be suitable to go back to the wild after being bottle fed.
I can fall asleep almost anywhere. I routinely fall asleep in the break room at work. Once, I was helping a friend fix his car, and I fell asleep on his garage floor when he went inside to get water....
I’d read that too. I hadn’t let myself buy an Instapot either because I have a stovetop pressure cooker that I’m comfortable with using. I have crockpots, and a sous vide circulator (which I love dearly, omg, wanna talk about set it and forget it) . I already had accumulated all the things separately that an Instapot can do. But when COVID started, I let myself buy an Instapot, because I expected to be cooking so much more and thought maybe this miracle appliance everyone raved about would save me effort in the kitchen. And what I found is that for my recipes and cooking style, the Instapot may do all those things, air fry, sous vide, slow cook, pressure cook, but it can’t do them as well as my existing equipment. It might hold the water temp ok for sous vide, but it’s not circulating the water (an important factor in the cooking style). It ran too hot on the low slow cooker mode. It took fricking forever to come up to pressure. I could only air fry one portion at a time. I finally conceded that I’m just not the target user for those things. I never did try making rice in it though. We’ve since moved and it’s packed up somewhere. When I find it again, I might try it one more time, but otherwise it is destined for my MIL’s annual yard sale.
This is pretty much my list as well, sans the weed because my sense of smell is too sensitive during a migraine. The ice packs are the thing that pushes me over into recovery territory.
You don’t need anything fancy, get 2 gallon baggies, fill one about halfway with ice, add a little water, and then seal it up inside the 2nd baggie. I rest my head on it like a pillow but i have a lot of hair that acts a buffer. If it’s too cold, wrap it in a thin kitchen towel.
Then I let time and rest do its thing. If the ice has melted and the migraine isn’t gone, I make another bag.
“The Flying Train” depicts a ride on a suspended railway in Germany in 1902. The footage is almost as impressive as the feat of engineering it captures.
The controversy around Jason Aldean’s “Try that in a Small Town” got me thinking. What are some things that you wish you could do in a small town that you just can’t?...
If I’m going home to do anything around the house for family, I must plan ahead for the typical DIY snafu’s that happen. I can’t just run out to the Home Depot or the MicroCenter to get specialty parts (or even not so specialty just barely more niche than Walmart and Dollar General). Amazon Prime next day is not available.
Grandma has a leak under the sink but Walmart doesn’t carry 1/4" ferrules for the compression valve? Get a bucket, Grandma, and prepare to wait 3 days for the parts to come in the mail. Can’t call the plumber because he’s off this week on a fishing trip.
Getting quality groceries is hit or miss. On one hand, the produce available is excellent. Yet all the restaurants in town offer some version of deep fried. I like the 2 Mexican joints the best because they are the less greasy options.
Adderall 2 days in a row now makes me paranoid, and I’ve never really been able to get a doc to prescribe vyvance or anything else, and frankly at this point, I’m afraid to do stimulants. Strattera made me feel weird....
I was recently diagnosed as an adult. I tried for a few years to explain my difficulties to my primary doc, but was always told to try x,y,z organizational app. She was great and listened to me for everything else. Oh well. I decided I’d try getting a diagnosis from a LPC. After finding one that I clicked with, he told me that since we had had many sessions treating my depression, he felt the professional ethics would be murky for him to test me for ADHD (he wouldn’t be independent as he has knowledge of many of my issues). This was despite me telling him on day 1 that I’m here to get tested for ADHD and to do something about my depression. Oh well. A few more false starts with other providers happened. Then my husband encouraged me to try again in a new city, but I got there and got the diagnosis. Yay!
I decided I wanted to pursue medication via telehealth (the Done! marketing campaign got to me). But Done is a membership, and reading about the 15 minute follow up visits turned me off. That lead me to Klarity where you pay a reasonable price per visit and no monthly membership fee on top. Here’s where I bang my head on the desk…Klarity had me basically retest for ADHD. I did not have an option to send them my 3rd party diagnosis report and skip their own test. But their test is very straightforward and uncomplicated. If I had known about Klarity before my other testing, I could have saved months of following up with my scatter-brained psychiatrist and money.
Anyhow, if you want to give meds another shot, look into Klarity. After the initial screen they will give you a list of family nurse practitioners to choose from who can do the prescribing. And you can get your Rx filled at your local pharmacy or at your insurance’s mail-order service.
My difficulty has been in finding a therapist that can help me with ongoing coping strategies. I can’t find anyone who specializes in ADHD in my area. They mention ADHD as an “also treats…” but it’s not their primary specialty. I’ve built up a number of coping strategies myself since I’ve tackled 40+ years of life before diagnosis, but some aren’t exactly healthy or sustainable. I was hoping for some a-ha! moments. But it seems that forums like this are where I find those kind of tips - from people going through it.
tl;dr > try Klarity for meds if you’ve been turned down by old-fashioned doctors.
My therapist recently had me (mid 40’s) reconsider everything that has worked for me in the past and to list it all out in my journal (or something visual that I can keep relatively handy). I do forget to keep looking at it and choosing a tool from the toolbox so I probably need to rethink what I write it on and how I display it. She also advised that when I notice the helpfulness of the list falling off, that I REWRITE IT and change up the order.
The tools in my toolbox evolve all the time. Some of them work better for some tasks vs others. Some of them have lost their punch over time and need to be benched for a while. My current favorite tool on the list is to plop headphones on and crank some EDM or anything karaoke-worthy. This doesn’t work for work-work where I need to concentrate, but it works fantastically for anything physical like DIY projects or non-thinking things like laundry or dishes. For work-work, I still haven’t found one that is no-fail, but playing lo-fi instrumental hiphop like the study girl video does ok to keep me on task once I can get myself kickstarted. Oh and ChatGPT is my new work bestie for writing anything, especially emails. Sometimes it hits the target where I can just copy/paste, but usually it gives me enough material to edit into something intelligible. I also have to keep reminding myself to add a sensory something when I start getting off track. I have bicycle pedals that fit under my desk. They worked great when I first got them. They’ve been benched for a while now, and maybe it’s time to bump them back up the roster. I have an accupressure mat, back massage cushion, will light candles or incense, chew gum, just basically try to layer not-too-distracting sensory things on top of what I HAVE to do, and that usually gets me through it where I can then go be a potato for a while.
What’s a painful experience you haven’t had in years?
Question inspired by a Charley horse that hit in the middle of the night.
Gift for Muslim Family
We have next door neighbors that are Muslim and are so very kind. They bring us plates of food when they cook and they even scared away some kids trying to steal our car at 2 in the morning....
(August) What are you working on now, DIY? (beehaw.org)
Making any progress, you slackers? Tell us about it!
I was assigned to MLM project in work, have some questions
I work as a web dev, FE/BE, and company I currently work in took a project that is basically some kind of MLM structured business. It’s a challenge to do such project, not only from dev perspective, but also morally I’m not sure if I’m okay with it....
Help finding yarn
I’ve been thinking about starting a new project....
tell me about your wacky dream you had last night
A safe space to tell all about your weird ass dreams
Researchers in Alaska rescued a walrus too young to be away from his mother. Now, his treatment plan includes 24/7 care and cuddles. (www.businessinsider.com)
How do people sleep on planes?
I can fall asleep almost anywhere. I routinely fall asleep in the break room at work. Once, I was helping a friend fix his car, and I fell asleep on his garage floor when he went inside to get water....
ProTip: If you're cooking something, set a timer.
I only burnt the rice a little bit.
Anyone got any tips for knocking a migraine when medicine doesn’t seem to be enough?
Hey there!...
Moving from an electric stovetop to a gas range
Those of you who’ve used both, what do I need to know about the difference?
The Flying Train (1902) (youtu.be)
“The Flying Train” depicts a ride on a suspended railway in Germany in 1902. The footage is almost as impressive as the feat of engineering it captures.
What is the best "That's what she said" you've ever done or heard?
My wife was scooping ice cream and said “We’d better hurry up its getting soft!” I couldn’t resist.
What are some things that you can’t do in a small town that you wish you could?
The controversy around Jason Aldean’s “Try that in a Small Town” got me thinking. What are some things that you wish you could do in a small town that you just can’t?...
A priest and a rabbit walk into a bar
The rabbit says: “I think I’m a typo.”
Please don't tangle my rope.
It’s knot funny.
Everyone is sharing pics of dogs, cats and other pets. So let me present to you my parrot from Wish. (beehaw.org)
What is the craziest thing that's ever happened in your life?
Curious to know what people have encountered in their lives.
For those unmedicated, how do you manage?
Adderall 2 days in a row now makes me paranoid, and I’ve never really been able to get a doc to prescribe vyvance or anything else, and frankly at this point, I’m afraid to do stimulants. Strattera made me feel weird....
Had to stop taking meds, looking for advice.
I'm posting this simply because I didn't have any other place to post it, and I'm hoping I'll get some sort of cathartic relief by doing so....
Friday night frogging session (cdn.masto.host)
Send cake.