Bisexuals are not always attracted to men and women. A bisexual is simply someone that is attracted to two or more genders. That typically includes men and women, but doesn't have to.
Navigating split attraction and the correct labels is a challenge...
I'm a trans woman. I spent most of my life dating women, and even before I transitioned, I had come to accept that I'm not attracted to women, even though I've loved my partners. I started working through that, then I transitioned. I dated a woman not long after that and it didn't work out. I told myself it was because I loved her but wasn't attracted to her.
So, I stopped dating women. I called myself straight, because men and strongly masc aligned enbies are really the only people that I am attracted to (though not the only people I can fall in love with)
And that sucked. My queerness was invisible to folk. Most of my dating pool was actively not queer, and I never got what I was looking for in my relationships with men, despite my attraction to them.
And now I'm an amazing poly relationship with my girlfriend.
So I've mostly given up on labels and just settled on queer :)
You know, back over in /r/Australia if you even sneeze you get censored. If you ask why you were censored you got banned. Anything apposed to the mods views had you post taken down....
Im joining in on the reddit ditching thing, and was kinda worried at first that i wouldnt be able to like use it the way i did reddit as it feels like a whole new place, but after engaging with posts and people and actually being a part of lemmy rather than being lurk mode all the time i was pleasantly surprised with how easy it...
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I'm just happy to see more users and more activity. I admin an instance, so I'm not too worried about toxicty, as I can dump any regular sources of trouble
I'd like to set up and federate an instance of Lemmy with the purpose of inviting friends and family. I imagine that they'd appreciate having spaces limited to family members where posting information or photos wouldn't erode their anonymity elsewhere in the fediverse....
The main issue is that lemmy is basically just 2 devs trying to work around their own lives, jobs and running this instance. Now that more attention is coming to lemmy, it will be interesting to see if they start to get more devs offering their changes to the project
I believe the closest you can do at the moment is make a community moderators only, and then make the people you want moderators of that community. That isn't really what you want though, because everyone can still read it.
Quick question: I wrote a comment on a post hosted at lemmy.ml, and it shows up here, but when I check on lemmy.ml itself, my comment is not visible. Did I do something wrong, or is there a technical reason that my comment is not going through? I do see posts and comments from others from this instance at lemmy.ml…
As part of the fediverse, posts and content don't back date when federating. Which is to say that if you are the first person on an instance to follow a community on another instance, you will get all of the future content to that group, but not the previous history.
You can however manually force specific threads from other instances to load on this instance by putting the URL for the post in to the search box on this instance
What a lemmy group does is something akin to "boosting" any content published to it.
So, lets say you make your post from beehaw to lemmy_support on lemmy.ml. lemmy_support will see your post and then "boost" it, so anyone that follows lemmy_support (ie, is subscribed to it) will see the "boost" (though it doesn't look like a boost through the specialised lemmy interface).
If you're on beehaw, then beehaw is the source of truth for your posts. Other instances (such as lemmy.ml) will see and store copies of your content (and can choose to reject it outright), but the original is always your own instance.
I'm browsing this community from my own instance (Lemmy.studio) using Jerboa. I can see the posts, but they all have zero comments... But if I go to the community directly I can see the contents....
Make sure you have "undetermined" set in your list of spoken languages. And if you're the admin of the server, make sure it's listed as an available language for users to select.
Most content that comes to lemmy doesn't have language tags, and "undetermined" is the only way to see that content
They are based on a fork of lemmy that added features that made it incompatible with lemmy. However, there is an active body of work taking place to bring it back to lemmy compatability and allow federation to take place again.
The lemmyverse sounds perfect, but it ignores alternatives like kbin etc. It would be better if we didn't end up with the situation we have with Mastodon where people assume Mastodon is the fediverse....
I've been poking around and I've noticed there some communities on this instance that say they have 5 posts or so, but when I open them, it says there are no posts. I also tried making a post in a community on the instance, and it shows the community as having one post now, but it isn't visible....
And my edits now make me wonder if there is a bug with the reply count. I replied from Calckey, and edited it twice, and it shows 3 comments instead of 1
Edit - Yep, confirmed. Editing from Calckey (and presumably other non local instances) pushes the reply counter up by 1.
what is everyone's sexuality here?
I'm just a bi guy. I found out pretty recently
As an Aussie, just posting here to see if I get banned or censored?
You know, back over in /r/Australia if you even sneeze you get censored. If you ask why you were censored you got banned. Anything apposed to the mods views had you post taken down....
How has ur lemmy experience been so far?
Im joining in on the reddit ditching thing, and was kinda worried at first that i wouldnt be able to like use it the way i did reddit as it feels like a whole new place, but after engaging with posts and people and actually being a part of lemmy rather than being lurk mode all the time i was pleasantly surprised with how easy it...
Comparison of Lemmy Instances (github.com)
I created a repo on GitHub that has a table comparing all the known lemmy instances...
How to Join Lemmy and Find and Subscribe to Communities
(These instructions are for using Lemmy in a browser. If you are using an app, some steps may differ.)...
Users from before the current wave of Reddit refugees, how do you feel about the incoming monsoon of refugees?
I imagine there's excitement for the increase of activity but worries about the potential toxic side of Reddit coming along too....
"Whats your gender?" "Undetermined!"
now that ive got the language issue sorted out, tis time for a proper hewwo :3...
Can Communities be Made Private?
I'd like to set up and federate an instance of Lemmy with the purpose of inviting friends and family. I imagine that they'd appreciate having spaces limited to family members where posting information or photos wouldn't erode their anonymity elsewhere in the fediverse....
What are some of your favorite complex/complicated game?
Title. I like games that require a lot of work to get into. Here are some of my favorites:...
tfw you run a lemmy instance
My email at the moment...
Comment I made not visible on lemmy.ml
Quick question: I wrote a comment on a post hosted at lemmy.ml, and it shows up here, but when I check on lemmy.ml itself, my comment is not visible. Did I do something wrong, or is there a technical reason that my comment is not going through? I do see posts and comments from others from this instance at lemmy.ml…
Where are posts stored?
Hi, I’m new to the fediverse and trying to wrap my head around lemmy specifically....
How to see comments from other instances?
I'm browsing this community from my own instance (Lemmy.studio) using Jerboa. I can see the posts, but they all have zero comments... But if I go to the community directly I can see the contents....
Why isn't Hexbear federated?
Hexbear has a bit over 20 thousand users, similar to Lemmy. Both Lemmy and Hexbear would benefit from federation. So, what's missing?
What do we call the Lemmy/Kbin Universe?
The lemmyverse sounds perfect, but it ignores alternatives like kbin etc. It would be better if we didn't end up with the situation we have with Mastodon where people assume Mastodon is the fediverse....
(Solved) Missing comments/posts
I've been poking around and I've noticed there some communities on this instance that say they have 5 posts or so, but when I open them, it says there are no posts. I also tried making a post in a community on the instance, and it shows the community as having one post now, but it isn't visible....