I’ve lusted after people, but I don’t really understand crushes…
That being said, I have no idea where I sit on the romantic spectrum, because I can and have been in loving relationships that I strongly value, and actively desire, yet to me, they feel like an extension of friendship. Every one of my partners has been a really close friend, and we developed that friendship in to a relationship.
Probably because you don’t have your language settings configured correctly. You need to make sure it’s set to show you all of the languages you speak and undetermined
Honestly, I think the answer is because keeping breasts pointed forward, against the forces of gravity requires extra support, and as a species, we haven’t been wearing bras long enough adapt to that.
That and the fact that average breast size has increased significantly in the last few decades
In the long term, no one is quite sure what it is that causes humans to have permanent breasts, given that no other primates do. There are theories around fertility signalling, evolutionary selection via mate preference, extra insulation given the lack of body hair in humans, extra fat deposits to get breast feeding folk through feeding a new born in times of scarcity etc, but no one can say for sure…
But none of that has anything to do with why breast size has increased so significantly in the last several decades. Circumstantial evidence links that to increasing body weight, as the most significant increases are in countries with the biggest average increase in body weight.
I’m in my last year of college and for some reason, I decided to design my own major, and I feel like I made a mistake, I’m looking at jobs RN and feel like no employer is going to understand it at all. And that I don’t really have much in demand skills? (FYI - it’s a BA in community development, so kinda like urban...
2023 has been pretty bad for me injury wise. Between several niggling ankle and knee injuries, I was really starting to feel like I was missing out....
I’m always amazed how after just a few weeks my fitness levels go way down
What I find really strange is that my fitness goes away fast, yet my low resting HR doesn’t. Even with a couple of years of inactivity, my RHR was barely above what it was when I was super fit, even though otherwise I’d lost all of my fitness
I’m sympathetic to Ada, blåhaj’s admin, I think she really means well and I get that she might not want to rock the boat when the community in question is most of her site. But I don’t think hexbear’s reasons for defederating are that absurd.
This accusation always confuses me. Blahaj zone was around for half a year before the reddit migration, long before 196 was on lemmy and we did fine without them. They’re here not because they wield crazy power, but because they’re a queer lead community, with a strong queer user base. That means they have a home with us, because creating spaces for communities like that is the reason Blahaj Lemmy exists in the first place
The truth is, the hexbear admins asked me to talk to the 196 mod team and ask them to remove the “no tankies” rule, because hexbear users wanted to be part of 196. I told them to talk to the mods of the community directly, because I’m not going to force political opinions on a queer, trans fem lead community.
The 196 mods rejected the hexbear request, and like that, the hexbear narrative changed, and suddenly their users no longer wanted to join 196, claiming that it is transphobic and unsafe. So either they don’t believe what they are saying about safety, or they do believe it but were fine with that state of affairs before the 196 mods denied their request.
Either way, part of their narrative change involved painting 196 as being both harmful and unassailable, with blahaj admins being unable to act out of fear of loss of the community.
From my perspective, the biggest harm to trans people in all of this isn’t a trans fem lead community with politics that run counter to hexbear, but rather, the ongoing demonising and dogpiling of specific trans folk and trans communities by the hexbear community.
I think she really means well and I get that she might not want to rock the boat
This is also an interesting part of the ongoing narrative. It’s not a co-incidence that I’m being painted as naïve; well meaning but ultimately ill equipped to deal with moderating a large community. It allows people to attack me without attacking me.
The truth is though, I’ve been moderating online spaces and building and developing communities online and offline for nearly 30 years. I’ve managed tiny communities, and communities with hundreds of thousands of users.
You can disagree with my choices, but the narrative that they are naïve and ill informed is simply a tool to trigger an emotional response in people, to develop sympathy for the hexbear claims, to undermine my perceived competence, without them having to outright demonise me.
It’s a cheap tactic, and and a cheap tactic typically used to undermine women in positions of responsibility at that.
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Federation question (it doesn't work well)
Hello!...
Why nobody has been capable of designing a painless, ultra comfortable, daily usable bra?
Shouldn’t be that hard, right?
How often do you get asked how your day went?
It seems like a small thing, but the one person I’d think would ask me the most never really does
Does your major in college really matters?
I’m in my last year of college and for some reason, I decided to design my own major, and I feel like I made a mistake, I’m looking at jobs RN and feel like no employer is going to understand it at all. And that I don’t really have much in demand skills? (FYI - it’s a BA in community development, so kinda like urban...
Showing my pride! (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
@supakaity got me some trans shoe laces, and rather than taking out my current rainbow pride laces, I’m going for the mix and match!
I went for my first 5k run in almost a month today.
2023 has been pretty bad for me injury wise. Between several niggling ankle and knee injuries, I was really starting to feel like I was missing out....
Is there a way to block hexbear
I don’t like to see so many political posts in all and so many weird images in comment sections
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Suddenly seeing more hexbear posts. Did we re-federate with them?
If so, was it polled somewhere?
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