catdad

@catdad@tech.lgbt

Hi, I’m Adrian. I’m a friendly, nerdy, music-loving, proudly bisexual trans guy from New York. 💪:heart_trans: :heart_bi: I’m also a cat dad 🐈‍⬛ and a noob software engineer with a love for old web stuff. ❤️ Mid-20s. He/him.

You can read my pinned introduction post for more info.

Anyone 18+ is welcome to follow! (No need to interact first, nsfw allowed, all that.) But you will get blocked if you give off bad vibes lol.

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catdad, to random

Go to Google and look up “Barbie movie” for a fun little surprise. ✨💕

catdad,

Hehee fun

The google search results for "barbie movie", with dark mode off. Upon initially loading the page, the Google logo turns pink, animated pink sparkles appear on the screen, and the page slowly starts to turn a light pink color with hot pink accents.

catdad, to random

Anyway, here was my work fit today. ☺️🌿👓

catdad,

@yarndragon Thanks!

catdad, to random

My gender dysphoria and social anxiety has been slowly escalating ever since I started this new job a few months ago, and I didn’t quite understand why. Then it got really bad this week (hence why I haven’t posted as much lately) and it finally occurred to me where these feelings are coming from: I’m subconsciously reliving the past trauma of workplace transphobia that I experienced in my earlier transition years, when I was more “visibly trans”. Working this new job is bringing back those negative memories/feelings, sending my body into fight-or-flight mode, making me paranoid that if I look even the slightest bit trans my coworkers are gonna treat me terribly and violate my boundaries like at my old job. It sucks that this new experience is bringing back old trauma. But it’s a good wake up call, it made me realize that I definitely gotta start going to therapy again (idk why I even stopped tbh. Therapy is good for you, even when you think you’re doing well!)

catdad,

@jacobwittrock Thanks! Appreciate the kind words.

catdad, to random

Wtf so I’ve had light mustache hair for a while now, like it hasn’t changed much in thickness and color over past few years since I started taking testosterone and growing facial hair. But this past week or so, my mustache hair randomly started growing out longer and got a bit darker. 🤔 I actually needed to trim it a bit today. I hope this means I’m reaching the later stages of puberty 2.0.

mjdxp, to random

omg guys the person on the cover of "irreversible damage" is gonna be in the next super smash bros. game, so exciting

catdad,

@mjdxp yoooo! new main

drosophiliac, to random

I ran into Nardwuar today. I didn't say hi because what he does scares me.

catdad,

@drosophiliac Woahhh a friend and I were literally just talking about Nardwuar, then I opened this app and immediately saw this post. Weird coincidence. Also, that’s like witnessing a celebrity and a cryptid at the same time lol.

Terra, to random

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    catdad,

    @Terra I’m glad your clothes make you feel so free and liberated! That’s such a beautiful thing.

    It’s so funny, as a trans guy I always had the opposite perspective because it’s not socially acceptable for women to walk around shirtless and they’re often expected to wear a bra, wear makeup, maintain long hair, cover up parts of their body or else be seen as unprofessional/“a slut”, etc. I remember when I was in high school, the dress code said that the girls had to cover up their shoulders and they weren’t allowed to wear tops with spaghetti straps because “it would be too distracting”. 🙄 I also got in trouble for wearing shorts.

    But I definitely noticed that men’s clothes tends to be bulkier, and women’s clothes tends to be thinner and more flowy. With dress clothes especially, men’s clothes tends to be more rigid and layered. Sometimes I can’t stand wearing button-ups with dress pants lol. There’s also so much less variety in styles than women’s clothes! That’s the worst part for me ugh

    catdad, to random

    “You wouldn’t download a insert literally anything here.”

    People who play the Sims with mods: “actually…”

    catdad,

    @gumbyscout So true. I’ve gotten better at sorting through my mods but I used to have soooo many CAS mods and half of them looked nearly identical, especially the hairs. 😭 I just forgot what stuff I already had and would download more stuff that looked similar.

    SunnJax, to wildflowers

    Good morning from the very teeny tiny desert bluebell growing boldly between the patio stones. 💙

    catdad,

    @SunnJax I love that blue color, very bold. It reminds me of the old Windows “blue screen of death” lol.

    catdad, to random

    Personally I think this world needs more dominant fems and submissive mascs.

    catdad,

    And tbh I don’t just mean sexually, I’m talking socially too. I’m tired of aggressive domineering men and wanna-be “alpha males” who constantly try to put down fems and exert power over them. And I hate seeing fems feel obligated to deal with these men’s faux-machismo bullshit just because that’s the cultural norm. More malewives and girlbosses, please lmao

    catdad, (edited )

    @salad_bar_breath I agree with you. These ideals are already very ingrained in society and by flipping the roles to the opposite gender / gender expression it’s not necessarily changing things or damaging the ideals; it’s still borrowing roles from the original, flawed gendered power structure and reversing it. I think in an ideal society, the best way would be to eliminate the roles entirely. However… I just want to see a little more of the reverse honestly LOL. Mix things up a little.

    Edit: also I forgot to mention, the way of the househusband is soooo good lol

    catdad, to random

    When I have my arms crossed and I talk out loud, I can feel the vibration of my voice in my chest. Gives me gender euphoria every time.

    recursive, to random
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    Today is "International Non-Binary People's Day", and if you are a cis person, honestly the best thing you could do to support us is to do everything in your power to remove unnecessary "sex" or "gender" fields from everything from official government records to your random internal corporate databases.

    catdad,

    @recursive This would be a big benefit to all people, nonbinary or otherwise. I don’t understand why those fields are necessary on most records, I can only see it being used to discriminate against a person or make biased judgments about them based on whatever is listed as their “gender/sex”. Like genuinely, what’s the point?

    Honestly even in medical settings, it shouldn’t just say “gender/sex”. It should list out whatever information about their sex characteristics is necessary to keep track of, such as “hormone levels”, “chromosomes”, etc. Just using the terms “male” or “female” to describe a person’s sex can be generalizing, as it has the potential to exclude important information for people whose bodies aren’t perfectly “XY, high androgens, penis, etc” vs “XX, high estrogen / progestogens, vagina, etc”. I’ve heard stories of trans and intersex people being mistreated in medical settings because of this.

    rooster, to random
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    catdad,

    @rooster Kind of a different yet similar situation: I’m the only openly LGBT+ adult in my family, so a lot of younger family members come to me for support or advice when they’re questioning their sexuality/gender. My little cousin told me that they’re questioning their gender identity and they think they might be nonbinary. When they told their mom (my aunt) about it, she replied “You never showed any signs. Look at Adrian, he was always clearly uncomfortable in skirts. With him, it was obvious. You were never like that.” Not only is it wrong for her to compare us like that for many reasons, but it’s also pretty hypocritical/untrue considering when I first came out to the family, all of them were like “you never showed any signs. You always seemed comfortable in girl clothes”. 🙄 I’m glad my cousin told me about this interaction because I was able to call it out and say “don’t listen to them. You know yourself best. I support you.”

    yesjohn, to art
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    catdad,

    @yesjohn They are too adorable.

    catdad, to random

    Me after an anxiety attack: okay I need to relax and wind down a bit. listens to Hall & Oates

    catdad, to random

    I don’t get “post-nut clarity”, I get post-nut goofiness. Post-nut silliness.

    catdad, to random

    I feel like I constantly go back and forth with how I feel about my body weight/shape. Sometimes I love my body but other times I think it’s gross and I miss when it was thinner. I think lots of chubby guys have attractive and beautiful bodies, but for some reason I have a hard time seeing that same beauty in my own body. It’s a struggle. 😓

    catdad,

    Btw sorry if I’ve been posting lots of vents / negative shit lately! Idk why tbh, I haven’t been feeling particularly bad lately or anything. 🤔 I’m doing pretty well. Guess I just feel comfortable sharing thoughts here when they do pop up because y’all are chill. Don’t mean to bring ya down lol

    catdad,

    @yesjohn Yessss I’m the same way, like my body fluctuates between sort of thin and chubby. And for some reason my brain can never be satisfied with either! It’s so annoying how that works. I wish it was easier to treat ourselves the way we would treat others. I think it’s something that takes a lot of practice and mindfulness.

    catdad,

    @senders Ikr?!? Is there anyone who doesn’t feel that way?? I wonder if it’s just a part of human nature. I think for most people, the brain is constantly critical of itself and looking for ways to “improve”. It takes a lot of practice and mindfulness to stop that overly critical line of thinking.

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