I have friends who are Afghan who have had arranged marriages so this led me to be curious to ask, why does this practice still persist into the 21st century?
You don't commit to a stranger really. Normally you've met them and spoke multiple times and the families have spoken throughout both kids lives. I had a friend when I was young who knew her intended spouse from 7 years old and there was no plan to marry until she was finished with uni. She used to carry a picture of him in her wallet like we all had boyband members.
Even once you get to the marriage bit there's chances to say no then.
It's not dating exactly, but there are dates involved. The parents pick someone that you're intended to marry, they bring them round and go "here, we think you should marry this person". You get chatting with them, go out for some dates, in the modern age you're probably texting each other etc, but it's not like western dating where you're just seeing how it goes, you're deciding if you want to marry.
After a short while you would say 'yup, this seems good'.
I've tried to find out if they ever did marry but I can't find her online. I like to think she did though and it went well because she did really like the picture.
My dad never spent time with me because we didn't share hobbies, I tried desperately as a kid to get into what he liked, but he never tried to get into what I liked. My mom knew the names of the kids on Barney, what snacks cheered me up, or what friends I had in school, my dad also lived in the house.
As adults we've found common ground in politics and TV, and we have a relationship now, but we'd have a much better relationship if he'd tried to hang out with me back then.
So I guess my advice is just hang out with her, whatever form that takes. Time is so important.
As a little background, I didn’t actively use Reddit for months following the blackout. I still barely stop in over there and if I do I’m never logged in our contributing to the communities there (where I was previously a daily poster/commenter)....
This was my conment on a post saying that pregnant people should always be used instead of pregnant women. My comment was under someone saying vitamins for pregnant women should say vitamins for pregnant people. I have a trans son and many trans friends. My comment was not promoting hate! Fucking reddit mods
First let me be clear: I’m not a crazy conspiracy person (…on this) I just don’t rely on a municipal well. As far as I know adding fluoride to the private well at my houses is not a thing, good or bad. I did drink municipal water for two years when I lived on campus in college....
It's worse than that, RODI water as it is just pure H2O it's desperate to bond to anything it can so it grabs minerals from your body as it passes through.
Yes, sticking stuff in it makes it work, you can even get mineralising powders that put the minerals back in so say you don't trust or like your tap water you can filter everything out and put the stuff you do like in
Kind of, but you don't get to choose what it pulls, so unless you have an excess of every mineral then it's going to make you deficient in something and then other things may not be affected at all.
My family immigrated to the UK from Poland when I was six. I’m 20 now, speak much better English than Polish and feel like this is my land/culture. However I have a Polish first and last name, Polish passport and “unique” accent everyone picks up on, so despite this I’m usually perceived as an outsider. It makes me...
You seem to be speaking as if genocide is the goal of every war. It's really not, and in fact it's against international law which most countries stick to.
Genocide is quite rare through history because generally once you have complete dominion over a people you stop and start to rebuild. In the Iraq war (which was quite an extreme war with quite a lot of rule breaking) they allowed the people to eat, they allowed aid trucks free access, there were even British hospitals that treated Iraqis. Most importantly they took measures to reduce civilian casualties, like avoiding conflict in populated areas.
This 'war' is not following any of those rules. The people are not allowed to leave, aid providers are being directly targeted, any supply of medical equipment is prevented from access.
Anyone at this point sitting on the fence going "Well both sides are in the wrong" is either misinformed or evil.
I kinda liked the made up stories, like some guy saying he hit his wife in the face cause she was 'being hysterical' just makes me upset about the state of the world.
Clearly fake "I sold my friends dog because she ate the last muffin" is fun.
For some reason began going down a rabbit hole thinking about this. Let’s say you are blind, and reliant on a guide dog, but end up in prison for a non-violent crime like possession of illegal drugs. Are you allowed to keep the dog? No, right? But if you are entirely reliant on the guide dog to perform daily tasks, how do you...
Just to clarify, nobody is entirely reliant on a guide dog. A guide dog is a tool that assists someone in certain situations, there's loads of tools blind people can use to navigate, they may have a preference but the prison systems don't really care much.
In sentencing, disability can often be used to get a judge to look at a non-custodial sentence, or custodial in an alternative environment, it can even be a mitigating factor to get a lesser sentence.
But if they do get put in there, then it depends so much on the system. In some countries they will treat you very well, in others you'll not survive long.
I picked up one of these fluval 13.5 gallon aquariums, and it has a little chamber for filtration on the back. SOMEONE ripped up the default foam block that fits in there, and it got me wondering if I could use some of that modular foam that comes in pelican cases? Or should I just buy the replacement?
I wouldn't use leftover foam, as someone mentioned, you don't know whats been on it, could be dyed or treated in a way you don't want, but absolutely don't buy the replacement either, you can buy filter foam in big sheets and just cut off whatever you need.
Just to illustrate because I assume we're not in the same country, this is what I mean.
It's like those doomsday cults that have to change the date after each time the world doesn't end, first they said everyone would drop dead in weeks, then months, I think now they're claiming that it's a slow burner like smoking.
I was talking to a female friend and young Arnold Schwarzenegger came up on conversation. I pulled up a picture of him and spent a long time looking at it. Then said "I am trying to decide if he is attractive....
Not attractive at all to me. I don't mind if a guy is toned, but muscular is really unattractive to me. The thing with attraction is that it's individual, and I know some women who would love this look, I tend to like geeky guys, but I have friends who like big guys, bald guys, short guys, skinny guys, attraction is just super individual.
Spouse and I have a discussion on what to do after you pour a sauce out of a glass bottle. I do nothing but my wife takes her finger and wipes the excess from the bottle before she puts the lid back on. I think touching the food is disgusting and she thinks leaving it there to gum up the lid is disgusting. What do people do?
If you touch food prior or during cooking then the cooking process is killing the bacteria. You shouldn't really touch after but even in that situation a small amount of bacteria in food that's about to be eaten isn't the worst. The big issue is bacteria introduced to food which is then stored where the bacteria then grows over time.
I’m guessing it’s from dry air god me but even with humidifier I always have to blow my nose a bunch of times in the morning. Sometimes my lungs feel tight for a while after waking up. This happen to anybody else? Why does it happen for you?
It's not one condition, basically when your respiritory system is irritated it produces mucus, that's why you get a runny nose when you have a cold for example, but anything going weird there can cause this reaction, infections, tumours, anything. When there's an overproduction of mucus you might not notice when awake and upright as it drains away but when asleep laying down it can build up in certain areas. Your description of having to clear your nose and tightness on the lungs sounds like this could be whats happening and I feel like someone with a medical degree should have a look just to be sure it's nothing sinister.
I live alone and I’m just wasting away my time here. It’s actually making me very depressed to be honest. I do live in the city which makes think there ought to be at least something to do out here. Though I can’t really afford to spent money on it every day....
Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures?
I have friends who are Afghan who have had arranged marriages so this led me to be curious to ask, why does this practice still persist into the 21st century?
Daughters and Fathers
This is a serious question, mostly addressed to the adult women among us but also to anyone else who has a stake in the matter....
If Reddit had a soul/conscience, I think it was us, and we're all on Lemmy now...
As a little background, I didn’t actively use Reddit for months following the blackout. I still barely stop in over there and if I do I’m never logged in our contributing to the communities there (where I was previously a daily poster/commenter)....
Got permanent ban in r/LGBT and when i asked why I got a 3 day ban for promoting hate. (lemmy.world)
This was my conment on a post saying that pregnant people should always be used instead of pregnant women. My comment was under someone saying vitamins for pregnant women should say vitamins for pregnant people. I have a trans son and many trans friends. My comment was not promoting hate! Fucking reddit mods
Do adults benefit from flouride?
First let me be clear: I’m not a crazy conspiracy person (…on this) I just don’t rely on a municipal well. As far as I know adding fluoride to the private well at my houses is not a thing, good or bad. I did drink municipal water for two years when I lived on campus in college....
Will I ever be seen as truly British?
My family immigrated to the UK from Poland when I was six. I’m 20 now, speak much better English than Polish and feel like this is my land/culture. However I have a Polish first and last name, Polish passport and “unique” accent everyone picks up on, so despite this I’m usually perceived as an outsider. It makes me...
The deep ocean photographer that captured a 'living fossil' (www.bbc.com)
Scientists are racing to trace deep ocean species before they are lost, with the help of photographers who have a taste for danger....
Eurovision expresses disappointment over performer wearing pro-Palestinian symbol (tribune.com.pk)
The musician was seen wearing a keffiyeh on his arm, a symbol commonly used to show support for Palestine....
A while ago one of my old accounts got banned from r/news for saying I wouldn't bone some celebrity. Now if I forget and comment on a front page post with any account this happens. (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
What happens to those who are severely disabled while in prison?
For some reason began going down a rabbit hole thinking about this. Let’s say you are blind, and reliant on a guide dog, but end up in prison for a non-violent crime like possession of illegal drugs. Are you allowed to keep the dog? No, right? But if you are entirely reliant on the guide dog to perform daily tasks, how do you...
Dumb question: could I use leftover foam from a pelican case as a filter? (lemmy.ca)
I picked up one of these fluval 13.5 gallon aquariums, and it has a little chamber for filtration on the back. SOMEONE ripped up the default foam block that fits in there, and it got me wondering if I could use some of that modular foam that comes in pelican cases? Or should I just buy the replacement?
Antivax quacks are continuing to make up fantastical biological mechanisms for COVID-19 vaccine “shedding” (sciencebasedmedicine.org)
Women of Lemmy Can a Guy be too muscular to be attractive?
I was talking to a female friend and young Arnold Schwarzenegger came up on conversation. I pulled up a picture of him and spent a long time looking at it. Then said "I am trying to decide if he is attractive....
Do you clean the opening on your glass bottles?
Spouse and I have a discussion on what to do after you pour a sauce out of a glass bottle. I do nothing but my wife takes her finger and wipes the excess from the bottle before she puts the lid back on. I think touching the food is disgusting and she thinks leaving it there to gum up the lid is disgusting. What do people do?
Sadiq Khan wins third term as London mayor saying he answered 'hate with hope' (www.standard.co.uk)
Who else wakes up and has to blow their nose or clear their airways every morning and why?
I’m guessing it’s from dry air god me but even with humidifier I always have to blow my nose a bunch of times in the morning. Sometimes my lungs feel tight for a while after waking up. This happen to anybody else? Why does it happen for you?
What are some free interests/things/hobbies you can do in the city?
I live alone and I’m just wasting away my time here. It’s actually making me very depressed to be honest. I do live in the city which makes think there ought to be at least something to do out here. Though I can’t really afford to spent money on it every day....