Women of Lemmy Can a Guy be too muscular to be attractive?

MrsDoyle, 23 days ago

No, not attractive. That’s a man who spends a LOT of time in the gym, looking at himself in the mirror. He eats and drinks weird stuff and possibly is on drugs that make him angry. Not my cup of tea.

Sizzler, 22 days ago

That is a man who was the Govenor of California. Eats and drinks weird stuff? You mean healthy and lots of protein?

fishpen0, 22 days ago

I think they meant stuff like pre workout mixes and post workout mixes. Hyper processed proteins, BCAAs, Caffiene, Beta Alanine, argenine, creatine, taurine, etc… followed by a chaser of a dozen or so pills like ZMA. Then of course the HGH, T, Sermorelin, Ipamorelin, & CJC-1295.

Aside from the wealthiest, body builders generally destroy their hearts and bodies filling them up with dozens of cheap suspect supplements that don’t have solid lab testing. And they are always pushing new frontiers on shady pseudoscience to get a fresh edge with whatever side effects that has on longevity.

Arnold got out before that part of the scene got super out of control. But even with him, you can see it in the way his forehead and gut shape have changed over time. The very clear signs he’s juiced, just probably under a lot more perfect control from medical professionals due to his wealth.

RBWells, 20 days ago

I like fit guys, anywhere from skinny and wiry lean to strong and somewhat padded.

Bodybuilder not so much but those guys don’t look like competition pictures when they are just walking around in the world. Yes of course there is a limit to what I find attractive but I do admire the physiques even of those I think too big.

I think my subconscious interprets fit as likely to survive and active enough to want to do things, but super fit as self-centered or obsessive.

littlewonder, 22 days ago

Go look up thirst trap woodchopping videos or channels of people really good at whip cracking. The type of natty, muscular physique these people have is great.

Where I’m personally turned off is when people start to use steroids to go beyond how bodies look when they’re natty jacked because of an active hobby or job (talking about the look—it’s ok to get muscles at the gym instead.).

Fwiw, I’m strictly talking about muscles here, regardless of fat. If built, construction homies have a lean look or if they are a teddy bear, it’s all cool with me.

TLDR; Steroids can make muscles unattractive.

garbagebagel, 22 days ago

Do not like the Arnold level picture, but I like strong people. From my understanding of muscular & strong people, strength muscles =/= show off muscles, and you can be strong without spending all day at the gym.

Alexxxolotl, 22 days ago

Non-binary, but yes.

My preference is non-femboy soft twinks. Buff men are usually a turnoff with VERY few exceptions.

Kolanaki, 22 days ago

Not a woman, but I am pan and no I don’t find this kind of body attractive. In anyone. Normal tone where muscle is obvious, but not the main show so to speak, is the limit for me.

Devi, 22 days ago

Not attractive at all to me. I don't mind if a guy is toned, but muscular is really unattractive to me. The thing with attraction is that it's individual, and I know some women who would love this look, I tend to like geeky guys, but I have friends who like big guys, bald guys, short guys, skinny guys, attraction is just super individual.

MudSkipperKisser, 23 days ago

No, that level of vanity is unattractive to me

WeLoveCastingSpellz, 23 days ago

I personally (bi man), like both really muscular women and men

LemmyKnowsBest, 23 days ago

Yes. The amount of time a man spends in the gym to build muscles like that is inversely proportionate to how much time he has available to spend fortifying a relationship with a woman.

thisisdee, 23 days ago

Nicely toned is probably ideal. But I prefer skinny than overly muscular like body builders. Tall and skinny or lanky was pretty much my type especially when I was younger. Now my husband has a bit of fat around the belly and I love that too.

captainlezbian, 23 days ago

Not into dudes, but my guy friends seem to like their men more muscular than my women friends

grasshopper_mouse, 23 days ago

Personally, I do not find men (or women) that are as built as that photo of Arnold attractive. I do like nicely-toned arms though, I am definitely an “arms” chick, as in, I find muscular arms in particular attractive. But there’s definitely a point where if the muscles are too big, it starts to be less appealing.

Today, 23 days ago

For science, it’s cool. For snuggles, it’s not for me.

ReallyKinda, 23 days ago

Even though we generalize that we’re attracted to categories like men and women I think most people are only attracted to a handful of singular people rather than a whole gender (or a more muscled or less muscled subset of one).