Alok says, about people accidentally using he/him instead of they/them:
"It's not you speaking when you misgender me, it's everyone that has spoken to you before."
I really like this. It's true, and acknowledges our interconnected minds. And also, it's like, every time you use the right pronouns for someone, you're making a better world for everyone, going forward for a very long time, because you're a part of someone else's language.
New rule: Anyone who says "they" is only plural is not allowed to use any new word invented since 1375, when the singular "they" first appeared in print.
#Pronouns can apply to anyone. As a straight cis female I still make make my pronouns known because of misgendering on the Internet. I am assumed to be a dude when I'm anonymous or by guys when they see a picture of me and think I am a man unless I have some ultra-feminine profile picture. Dumb stereotypes and that stupid no girls on the Internet joke. Pronouns prevent too much misgendering online regardless of whether you are #LGBTQ+ or not so that we can stop assuming everyone is a man.
Some Narrative Conventions of Scientific Discourse
Rom Harré, 1990
"The academic ‘we’ might seem at first glance to be just a version of the editorial ‘we’. Like the latter it is mutedly egocentric but it is not mainly used to imply teamwork. Rather, it is used to draw the listener into complicity, to participate as something more than an audience. "
I'm sure that, as a nonbinary person, you've had many people tell you what words you should and shouldn't use.
I won't repeat the twisted arguments that aim to stop you from calling yourself trans, bisexual, gay, lesbian, straight and more. You know them chapter and verse by now. I don't need to remind you of the push back against micro labels, or just new labels. You're well aware of how nonbinary people are not allowed to use binary pronouns, yet every alternative is "grammatically incorrect."
What magical combination of labels and pronouns will people finally accept in a nonbinary person, you might ask? What do they want?
They want you to stop being nonbinary. You can't placate them.
Nonbinary people must wear bigots out by existing, boldly, despite them. And we will, because suffering for the sake of truth is easy compared to suffering to preserve one's fear.
serious question: why do many (most?) people share 2 grammatical versions of their pronouns, like he/him, she/her, they/them?
Why choose these arbitrary ones, instead of only the first one, trusting people know how to decline them? Or use all declensions like he, his, him or they, their, them?
genuinely curious how this developed, since I was kind of late to the pronoun party.
Oddly many #indigenous#languages do not have gendered #pronouns and are highly likely to #misgender you on accident because its not an important thing to them. My partner has a friend in the Philippines who can't get her head wrapped around the pronoun discussion and why its such a culture war here. Many indigenous folks are now gendering themselves as they/he or they/them just as a protest against colonizer forced gendered pronouns.
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The Human Rights Campaign has a really great primer on pronouns and pronoun etiquette. It’s a good share for folks who want to better understand this and be good allies.
Finally got around to putting pronouns in all my email signatures.
I started leaning on the "Ann" part of my name when I lived in Europe and there was no obvious way to communicate that my first name didn't match my gender (i.e. Michele with only L and no accent is masculine).
Declaring pronouns is just another example of normalizing accessibility being a benefit to everyone.
Not correcting people about my #pronouns is not because I submit to identifying as a woman as expected.
I just don't need your validation, you being wrong is actually none of my business.
Don't get me wrong - it's uncomfortable.
But I won't focus on the things that victimize me. I am exactly the same #enby even if you refer to me with pronouns that aren't my preferred ones. Pronouns aren't a gender, just the external validation of it.
Go ahead, be wrong, and I'll keep being my authentic self.