@JoscelynTransient@chaosfem.tw
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JoscelynTransient

@JoscelynTransient@chaosfem.tw

Most of the alphabet soup: Queer Bi Lesbian and Non-binary Trans Woman.

Disclaimer: I am a bimbo, so assume that any claims I share are likely more nuanced and careful than my ditsy ass can put into words at any moment. Apologies in advance. ๐Ÿ˜…

#ProfessionalTranssexual
#BimboAcademia
#ADHDisaster

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Patreon: https://patreon.com/JoscelynTranspiring

Gender Euphoria Basics:
Gender Euphoria Basics for Trans Fems (https://chaosfem.tw/@JoscelynTransient/110226818047150799)

Transpiring Considerations: https://chaosfem.tw/@JoscelynTransient/109886947900877778

Trans Music Monday:
https://chaosfem.tw/@JoscelynTransient/110911825722130749

Sapphic Music Sundays:
https://chaosfem.tw/@JoscelynTransient/111359295995560251

Profile picture: Photo of me dressed as Dr. Harleen Quinzel lowering her glasses and looking inquisitively at camera

Banner image: A comic panel of Harley Quinn saying "mmm...waffles" and daydreaming about a half-pug, half-waffle

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JoscelynTransient, to trans
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While I've found trans musical artists in almost every genre, there is still one I have yet to find someone whose music I can get easier access to: Rockabilly/Psychobilly.

It is one of my favorite genres and given the affinity so many trans folks have for camp and horror, I'm kinda mystified there aren't more. It's even more confusing because Lux Interior, of the Cramps, was gender non-conforming as heck and basically pioneered the sound with his wife, Poison Ivy.

JoscelynTransient, to trans
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Artist: Girlpool (Avery Tucker, he/him)

Why? While they may have split up for now, Girlpool's music is something that keeps re-emerging for me. Towards the start of their career, the sound might remind you more of the 90s and 00s indie scene, but their style was restless and traveled into spaces that are haunting and intimate, frivolous and lively.

Where to start?

This live performance is the mood I've been feeling:
https://youtu.be/Wetwcgepz2Y

(1/3)

JoscelynTransient,
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Both Avery Tucker and Harmony Tividad's voices have evolved over time, and it is interesting to see how both of them adapted as each other's creative directions evolved.

To get a sense of their most recent album, I suggest "Lie Love Lullaby>" It has a really good hook to it, and give you a sense of how Avery adapted his voice over transition too.

https://youtu.be/kj0oE-_naHk

(2/3)

JoscelynTransient,
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I also would suggest people check out the interview with Avery on the Gender Reveal podcast. Tuck and Avery go to some interesting places, both about music and trans life, that I've chewed on for a while. This includes our relationship to our voices and what it means to reckon with the footprint your pre-transition self has left our your life and career.

https://gender.libsyn.com/episode-118-avery-tucker

(3/3)

JoscelynTransient,
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Also, friends, especially folks, could you comment to this post about some other trans masc and trans men musical artists you love and songs of theirs that speak to you?

I have a few that I go back to again and again, but I feel like I need to expand my rotation of transmasc musicians/singers and want to share more here for . I'm especially curious about music that maybe speaks to you all in the intimate ways some of my favorite trans fems can do.

HeavenlyPossum, to random
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How, Iโ€™ve been asked, do people in nonstate societies prevent bad guys from taking over?

Itโ€™s a bit of question begging: it presumes that the state (bad guys who have taken over) is required to prevent other bad guys from taking over.

But letโ€™s take a serious look at some of the scholarship on how and why nonstate societies arenโ€™t quite as vulnerable to this as people seem to commonly assume.

This is neither exhaustive nor comprehensive.

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JoscelynTransient,
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@HeavenlyPossum This makes me think too that the narrative of "the warlord" when applied to real contemporary situations looks at a society in isolation from its neighbors and colonizers. When decolonization happened in the 20th century, especially in Africa, the UK, France, and Belgium often installed warlords or had trained, armed, and cultivated a violent group that took over. And this involvement was often ongoing, like the US funding of the Taliban in Afghanistan.

JoscelynTransient,
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@HeavenlyPossum I'm curious, any thoughts on how anarchistic societies can survive that though? I think that's one problem I often wrestle with, because anarchistic societies can thrive on their own, but they can't be built in isolation of the powerful states that exist now. And given how that they tend to fund and empower bad actors in the ways that they can destroy our attempts to organize outside the state, it just makes me rather despondent

GossiTheDog, to random
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Current thinking of where social media will land post Twitter:

  • Mastodon = Tech Twitter, punks and misfits

  • Threads = general use mixed with Mastodon replies, celebs and brands

  • BlueSky = journalists cranky about what happened at Twitter

  • Twitter = cryptobros and web3 people getting scammed, confused journalists hanging around at the funeral unaware

JoscelynTransient,
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@GossiTheDog

This vibes with my impressions except for Twitter....pretty sure twitter is gestating into like a slightly more functional Gab or more mainstream kiwifarms. I would not be surprised if it becomes the primary platform for identifying targets for mass hate campaigns and generating real world violence.

JoscelynTransient, to LGBTQ
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Got questions about what is actually going on in the lives of , , women and people that center women in their family and romantic lives?

Check out this cool report I worked on from the National LGBTQ Women's Community Survey! I worked on some of the analysis and did 95% of the data visualizations. It's been exciting data to work with.

https://lgbtqwomensurvey.org/resource/we-never-give-up-the-fight/

JoscelynTransient,
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One the big factors that is affecting our community that is largely ignored: Disability. Roughly half of LGBT+ Women identified at least one disability condition and this rate is higher along intersections of race, transgender status, etc.

Many of us are especially dealing with mental health and neurodivergent conditions, "invisible disabilities," and we need to start talking about how to actually build our community spaces with us in mind.

JoscelynTransient,
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One of the coolest things about this data is that it measured gender identity and expression for all participants using the following options: femme or feminine, butch or masculine, non-binary or androgynous, genderfluid or genderqueer, and other.

It actually reveals really important contrasts in needs across all of us in the community, and is a rare situation where we can directly compare the experiences of Femmes, Butches, Enbies, and Fluid folks.

JoscelynTransient,
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Some cool things we learned through this first report:

Bed Death is actually not common - we are having more sex, more satisfying sex, and more authentic sex than most of our cis het peers.

JoscelynTransient,
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While both lesbian and bi/pan women experience IPV, the who and how differs. Lesbian partners are more likely to engage in gaslighting and isolation. Bi/pan women are more likely to be physically & sexually abused by a cis het man. Queer trans women are most likely to be abused by cis het women.

deilann, to random

highly suggest taking a listen to this podcast covering the lives of two nonbinary lesbian artists who fought nazis

https://caelanconrad.squarespace.com/respectthedead/47

JoscelynTransient,
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@deilann Ooo, I'm so excited! I hadn't seen the latest episode, but this seems like a nice departure from the theme. And I actually have heard of these two, but never got around to learning more.

ben, to Futurology
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So much of gender essentialism is self-feeding: the idea that men are born to be aggressive hunters was conducted by men who made assumptions based on contemporary societal sexism. Of course women hunted. Of course grandmothers hunted. There's so much value in re-examining the prejudiced assumptions of the past. https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2023/07/01/1184749528/men-are-hunters-women-are-gatherers-that-was-the-assumption-a-new-study-upends-i?utm_source=werd.io&utm_campaign=mastodon&utm_channel=mastodon

JoscelynTransient,
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@ben One of the things feminist anthropologists observed decades ago about a lot of our beliefs about hunter-gatherer, herder, and other indigenous lifestyles is that what was observed was shaped by the observer. Anthropologists who were men assumed men were the important ones to talk to and the basis of the family unit, so they only recorded the activities and practices of women in relationship to the men. That kinda thing plays big into this.

JoscelynTransient, to random
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Can someone explain to me how this didn't come up in the discovery process in court? Can people just name you as doing harm to them in a case and you don't even get contacted?

ICYMI standing for the SCOTUS case that will now allow for legal segregation of services against LGBTQ people was justified by saying a man made a request for a website for a same sex wedding she didn't want to make.

The man never made the request, and has been married to a woman for 15 years ๐Ÿ˜‘

futurebird, to random
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Listen. My husband and I paid off all of our student debts the old fashioned way. When I heard younger people getting relief I could only think one thing:

Thank God someone noticed the huge negative impact debts have. It was one of the best things Biden did. And only fair considering PPP relief and bailout happened.

Going of your way to reverse what was already settled is spiteful. Especially when the PPP relief isn't even questioned.

SOCUTS is full of spite for ordinary people.

JoscelynTransient,
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@futurebird heck, given how little oversight and accountability there was in PPP funding, and how much was stolen from that funding, the grounds for invalidating that action and demanding repayment with interest from most borrowers is far more justified. The obviousness of kleptocracy these days is just so transparent....BLARGITY blargh blargh ๐Ÿ˜“

FuchsiaShock, to random

Pride month is only over if you let it be

JoscelynTransient,
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@kkarhan @FuchsiaShock I mean, I live in San Diego, so July is actually our pride month! And then there's pride elevenses up in Palm Springs in November....

JoscelynTransient,
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@NicolaElle @kkarhan @FuchsiaShock happy July pride! ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€โšง๏ธ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€โšง๏ธ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€โšง๏ธ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŒˆโœจ๐Ÿฆ„

recursive, to random
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As someone who tends to operate on a lot of (rather effective) intuition, something I've sometimes experienced is being stonewalled by people who want extensive data before they'll even entertain your (slightly unconventional) idea.

What's a good approach in this situation? Ask the rest of the organization to support an effort to gather that data? Spend all of your "free time" trying to gather that data and then make a case for this idea? The latter sounds like a recipe for burnout.

JoscelynTransient,
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@recursive back when I was that confident-speaking white guy, it definitely led to my suggestions being considered more often without that extra labor. That said, I got resistance back then too sometimes, with demands of evidence sometimes being a way to distract from something they just didn't want to do. A lot of times I realized that was just a way for them to shoot down an idea or say no while preserving their self-image of being open minded.

JoscelynTransient,
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@recursive I can imagine! I think for most folks it goes that way because they get more comfortable in themselves. I just used to have an amazing ability to completely dissociate when talking with confidence in a work setting ๐Ÿ˜…

If anything I actually got more anxious because now I'm not completely disconnected from how I feel in the moment.

JoscelynTransient, to random
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Does anyone actually prefer or like Windows 11?

I have suddenly been forced to use it for work and it feels deeply hostile to what helps my ADHD brain function. It also adds extra steps to accessing a bunch of basic functions and does not give you the option to just go back to a Windows 10 style interface.

Like, this doesn't feel like just another "this is unfamiliar and I'm cranky about it" version. This feels like one of versions where there will once more be a consensus it was horrible

JoscelynTransient, to TransJoy
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Gosh, love seeing myself in pictures these days. Look at that girl! That girl is me! And she's happy? ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€โšง๏ธ

Me just smiling with unreserved joy, with my wonderful blond curls on full display

eveiswurzig, to blackmastodon

May be interested to hear that Aveta, the community organizer in black tech Twitter has launched a defederated Calckey instance that will be prioritize safety, privacy, and accessibility for minorities.

Iโ€™ve been working with her and others and while launched it is still invite only as we address T&S, accessibility issues and how to best grow the platform focused on users.

https://wibblur.social

bipoc people can DM me for an invite, if youโ€™re willing to help us with improving the onboarding experience give a shout as we have product people collecting data and they need volunteer.

@blackmastodon @BlackMastodon

JoscelynTransient,
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@eveiswurzig @silmathoron that's hopeful to hear at least! I've found a lot of the Black folks I follow here keep having these same bad experiences, so it's warranted to not federate. But it makes me hopeful that you all will find some of our instances to be in solidarity with you all and we can share community.

I've loved the little corner of the fedi a bunch of us have cultivated for trans folks (by defederating from asshole instances, etc.), but it's still such a white space and needs change

JoscelynTransient,
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@eveiswurzig @silmathoron if you feel like sharing how you all have approaches stuff, I'd be curious if your instance is being built as a place with LGBTQ Black folks in mind too? Figure if there's intentional support built for them, I can refer folks who have bad experiences on federated instances your way.

Also, would be super curious what kinds of things you all are implementing that is addressing issues maybe we could all work on? May be things we can all learn from ๐Ÿ’–

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