I constantly struggle because my brain has made connections that are not obvious to others, and when I try to guide them through my thinking I confuse them with details or by skipping explanations that seem obvious to me but completely surprising to anyone else.
@mariyadelano@actuallyautistic@actuallyadhd I often go with: "you busy? do you want the whole story of just the executive summary?"
If they answer "whole story", it's a pleasure to let them have it. And possibly a lesson learned for them. 😂
If they just want the cliff notes, I pretty much go with the advice given in the old 70s book "the one minute manager", which basically says people want the conclusion and easy-tu-understand stories with no nuances.
@sebwhatever@actuallyautistic "I have a bit of a long to-do list before I can leave the house this morning, I'll text you when I'm done. Hopefully it doesn't get any longer before it gets shorter."
@Susan60@dyani@dave@actuallyautistic yeah likely that... if I recall correctly, the "title writers" are a totally different breed than article writers.
<trawling wikipedia>
Yup. A Quora response says the titles are written by copy editors, and lo and behold, copywriting is done by marketing: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Copywriting
@Claydisarray@actuallyautistic OMG. I didn't know the name for that swing but... how many here remembers/knows it's actually how phone numbers used to be pronounced?
It's said the phone number PE-6-5000 (we'd now say 212-736-5000) is disconnected now, but the tower to be built at the address of the old Penn Hotel, wants to leep that same phone number... 😂
@ashleyspencer@actuallyautistic fwiw Google went to hell some time ago, with barely any result on the first page that isn't spam, ads, or clickbait. It's become so useless that I've went back to my pre-Google habit of running searches through 2-3 search engines when I really need to find something.
Do allistic people really need constant interaction with others? In person? It sounds horrific. I lived with other people for years. Often they want interaction. That's just brutal for the autistic mind isn't it? #Autism#autistic#neurodiverse#lgbtqi#ActuallyAutistic
@ideogram oh and don't forget... In the workplace, you actually get punished if you don't do enough of that constant social exchange! "We want people who bring other people together, individual contributors are just immature." And of course you get punished if you do it wrong, as well!
Autistic meltdown much? Well, that's a job for HR to fix... we don't want anyone ruining the synergy between our carefully-trimmed allistic workforce! #actuallyautistic@actuallyautistic
@ideogram@actuallyautistic Gvt as well, opposite side of the planet but same King. ;)
Somehow they can talk effusively about Equality-Diversity-Inclusion and how important "these people" are to the organization... and on the same breath discuss authoritatively (with wide nods all over the room) on how they value networking and how they all need to push back on promotions (even on the technical path) until someone has developed better social skills. 🤷♂️
@actuallyautistic
I had my appointment for ADHD treatment today. With regards to ADHD that went quite fine. Some check ups need to be done, but there is no questioning on that.
Sadly he thought it would be calming information for me that I don't appear autistic to him...
I told him that I really don't appreciate that comment and that there are aspects about my personality and history that can best be explained by autism and that he can't see anything from that in our half hour talk.
@Dr_Obvious@danimo@actuallyautistic Even just as a medical professional, as far as I know he should've been taught to keep his impressions to himself lest that comes across as a formal diagnostic. Glad to hear he apologized, sorry to hear you had to press him for that to happen.
It's hard enough as it it to live with autism, it's a pity we have to live with other peoples careless mistakes on top of that!
A couple of weeks ago, in another place where I generally feel safe, someone made a scathing comment - not to me, or even about me - about "self-diagnosed autistics". Without a signed certificate, apparently we aren't worthy of the label.
I've been stewing about it ever since, and sometimes doubting myself. This morning I'm peeved. Who the hell is that person to make declarations about other people - including me?
@ScottSoCal@actuallyautistic
> Without a signed certificate, apparently [one isn't] worthy of the label
Oh! That sounds exactly like my HR department, trying to avoid the slightest inconvenience from accommodation.
Let me assure you... for the right amount of money, you can have any diagnostic you'd like. If not... lather, rinse, repeat. If anything, self-DX is more valid than any other kind of DX.
One big advantage of being #actuallyautistic is, for me, that I'm so used to #crises in my life (heck, life is one big #crisis to me), when something happens that NT's perceive as a crisis, I usually don't blink an eye.
"Oh, but you stayed so calm and handled the situation!" – Nope, you're just used to see me on a daily basis in constant crisis mode.