I find the """man up""" school of thought generally works for me when faced w a tough situation but 97% of the time it's presented as an obnoxious show of bravado. What are better ways to phrase this?
like, if i’m feeling bad but force myself to do something, i usually feel better. how to maintain the usefulness of this advice without presenting it as ‘fuck your feelings’, in that usual arrogant right wing sort of way
Face your fear. Do you feel scared to do something? That’s totally valid and understandable. Do it scared. My point is, don’t ignore the feelings. Acknowledge the feelings, then do it anyway.
It’s weird that I was thinking about this just yesterday. I concluded there isn’t much good way to make it not sound like an insult, but you could make it less about gender.
Things like “Don’t be a baby.” Or “Don’t be a scaredy cat.” Because it’s often just fear holding someone back that elicits these phrases, and I do feel that encouraging people to push past fears is a good thing overall. There just aren’t any established phrases I could think of that would work the same way without also making the one saying it seem cold.
Truthfully, I feel the response that said “Action over anxiety” is probably the best one I’ve seen in this thread.
I have a bunch of things I tell myself to try to keep up my motivation, and it does change depending on my mood. I’ll sometimes be kind and gentle with myself, silly, stoic, angry, and - try as I might to avoid it - even self-abusive sometimes.
But, really, though. It’s not about the phrase or the wording, it’s about motivation.
My ‘battle cry’ changes depending on how I’m feeling, but the underlying reality is that we must do these things.
It’s best if we don’t motivate ourselves with toxic masculinity or self-abuse, but it kind of doesn’t matter what we say: We must continue on.
The only other option is stagnation and death.
When I was strugging with motivation in getting out to go for a run or whatever I found “Just do it” to be fairly effective. Only later realizing I was lifting the Nike slogan. Still, it works for me.
You don’t get to the Promised Land without going through the Wilderness. You don’t get there without crossing over hills and mountains, but if you keep on keeping on, you can’t help but reach it. We won’t all see it, but it’s coming…
Stop being a pussy (I use this sparingly and only around people who I know can handle it. If they take offense, I tell them since I, being a woman, have a pussy, I get to say that. I am reclaiming the word.)
My mantras are: Just do it. 🗸 = stop overanalyzing, start with whatever action you can do right now Always eat your dessert first. = start with the most enjoyable or easiest part of the task Be someone else. = pretend it’s not you facing the tough situation but someone else who asked you to get them out of it
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