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Autistic, agender, formerly abused child

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Help on how to interact with my brother.

I have a little brother that is on the spectrum and he is obsessed with meme culture and memes to the point that he cares about nothing else. He can’t talk about anything else and always tries to say memes without context and understanding hoping to make us laugh. I would not have a problem with this unless it was not the only...

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How old is your brother? I’ve been hella awkward until about my mid 20s (there were complicating factors delaying my social development) but I’d like to think my social gaffes are a lot less intense now. AFAIK many autistic people adapt a little more with age.

I like what others said about learning how to communicate in memes to connect with your brother. Memes might be his native spoken language. It can help him a lot if he isn’t the only one speaking that language.

The tips you gave him probably don’t make sense to him. Trying to find a better time when he probably doesn’t understand social context well might have gotten translated to “wrong time of the day, try this one after 1pm”. If he is interested you could explain social context to him on a case by case basis an explain why sometimes things are funny and sometimes they aren’t. But it’s exhausting work.

If memes really are his native spoken language you asking him not to think in memes might have sounded to him like “don’t think in words” (because he doesn’t know another way to think) which is a confusing request and he probably only agreed to make the confusion go away.

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She loves holding onto my feet.

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“overconfident willful ignorance”

Well if that isn’t projection.

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DARVOing too I see.

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Oh and now you combined DARVO and projection.

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Thoughts and prayers!

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Ermahgawd I’m DYING!! HALP!!!

I can so hear it. In chorus with my own cat next to her half empty/full food bowl.

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They wanted to switch over to a subscription model. I assume many people like me who used to use infinity just bailed.

Edit: I actually dug up the source for this. It still worked for non subscribers until now. Apparently that will stop on august 30th. The headline is misleading. Starting in September it will be the aforementioned subscription model.

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That was a ride. I’m poor AF but even if I wasn’t I can’t see myself coughing up money for reddit.

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Good to hear an update on the issues that blind moderators face even if it is not a very positive one. And of course they came up with fancy stickers and flairs for helpful mods for a community where Admins are supposed to help mods. That’s what the mods really needed!

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That’s part of what made reddit interesting tho. Having these niche subs that still had a reasonable amount of activity. If they loose that this is the one thing they had over lemmy for me personally. I’ve never been particularly attached to say r/pics but r/aspiememes was the bees knees. They are coming to lemmy by now.

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Yup. But then that another reason for users to leave reddit behind. Which should interest reddit. But it’s been clear for a while they can’t even act in their own best interest.

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Sitting on the couch with no energy to do anything.

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Major sibling energy.

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They made noises about wanting to change the trans law as soon as they got elected and formed the coalition. The longer the process dragged on the less optimistic I was. And I’m now at the point where I wonder if I should change my legal gender at all. It’s not like people suddenly act like non binary people exist anyway.

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The true stealth is being on the roof, where nobody expects a raccoon.

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Huh. I’ll try that. She is generally not the biggest fan of beds or plastic (or cool packs…) But no harm in offering.

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A very credible assertion.

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I also use queer. I’m agender, I don’t indentify with any gender and I’ve given up figuring out whether the term “trans” applies to me or not. But I’m queer. That’s nice and easy to use in conversation.

If it helps I also was firmly over 30 when I figured it out.

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Yeah there’s certainly a lot of trans related things I discuss with my binary trans friend. Dysphoria most notably. But he wants to be seen as a gender that already exists (and is exposed to more danger for it) while I want to be seen as a category people don’t have in their minds at all which brings it’s own issues.

Figuring these kind of things out mid life certainly is a process isn’t it? I’m glad I also have younger cis friends who are just much more open to all sorts of queer identities. But it’s still hard for me the discuss at all IRL.

Those who are against iOS and Apple in general, have you tried their devices lately?

I am dissapointed in my peers. For years I have always been told to stay away from Apple devices and the company in general. However, no one who said that actually used their devices, or used them but not recently (some had like iPhone 4s in the past). Their knowledge was always based on some 3rd hand impressions or internet...

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I don’t have ADHD but same.

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Same. No w that’s there’s paragraphs I’ll read.

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I personally am not the biggest apple fan but I find it downright disturbing how your “friends” are so adamant about this. My own dislike stems from overinflated prices, working conditions in the electronics sector in general and apple in particular (I have a fairphone and a headache about tablet use…) and waaaaaaay back I had an iPad that wasn’t compatible with a windows/linux machine.

Doesn’t mean apple doesn’t have their good points, you are most firmly entitled to decide yourself what you spend money on and anything else wouldn’t be decent behaviour in my opinion. Let alone how I’d treat my friends. Stating an opinion is nice and healthy, what they do… Not so much.

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I feel ya. But with these people I’d forever wonder what they’d do if I did something less innocuous as buying a phone.

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