I didnt know I was capable of excitement about a cup of tea but on reflection it's only logical. I love tea, and I want to be happy. so wanting this thing I have, which makes me happy, well of course it should work this way.
I am loving this new outlook I got from a therapy session, which reached me through hearing this fact:
my behaviour and my identity do not have to be consistent with my past behaviour and identity; they have to be consistent with my values.
for me, having this pointed out like that has improved my life. I now find it much easier spotting reactions I dont want to be having and determining what reaction my values would prefer, and doing that instead.