Federation between servers, especially servers using different software, isn’t always immediate. Sometimes It takes time for a post/thread in a given community or magazine to appear for users on other servers distinct to the one the community is hosted.
Kbin and Lemmy are particularly bad at federating, both being relatively new. Threads and comments take time to be visible to people on different servers. (It has happened to me personally having commenting with my Lemmy account (this one) and not being able to see the comment with my Kbin one, or vice versa)
The great benefit here is that, because the nature of decentralisation and federation, even if bigoted people exist within the fediverse, they are in their own isolated instances and we never see them; while in centralised social media "the algorithm" is designed in such way that we are forced to see bigoted posts/people
This makes the fediverse much safer for and attractive to queer people and other marginalised groups
Lemmy is an special case because people here don't seem to grasp the concept of Federation, are choosing servers that aren't for them or not defederating from bad servers (not Beehaw's case) because they think federation is people putting up with their bs or that they have to put up with other people's bs.
I'm mostly talking about mastodon, all the -key(s), pixelfed, peertube, etc. They're populated by marginalized people because the big centralised alternatives promote a hostile environment for them/us.
Also the fact that your feed in Reddit had to be curated specifically to contain only queer subreddits says a lot.
In centralised social media I had to curate my feeds that way, here (fediverse) I can follow different groups and people from different servers that I know I won't encounter bad actors because they're isolated in their own instances
While Matrix is decentralised, it's not considered part of the fediverse as it has it's own protocol and cannot federate with other decentralised platform.
But, personally, I don't think a fully federated chat/message platform based on ActivityPub is fully possible, or even a good idea
I like Lemmy aesthetic better, I find it more "inviting". But I also like that Kbin has microblogging options.
I'm also having trouble to use kbin because the dark theme (which I need to navigate as I have severe photophobia) seems to be working bad (at list for me) and there are like "flashes" of the light theme every time I click a kbin page (be the main page of a server, a magazine, whatever). The sudden change to light theme it's making it very hard for me to use kbin.
@literature how do you find new books to read? For me, it’s YouTube channels, blogs like lovely Audiobooks, the Libro FM blog and the Audible blog. I listen to audiobooks
I look up books on some topic I'm interested at the moment (Nowadays I'm reading a lot about classical composers), or a genre or some author. I search for an audiobook on youtube (I've listened to a lot of audiobooks there) or if there's any pdf/similar format of the book I can download.
I also look at what people in the fandoms I'm in like and take a look at these books/book series/comics/manga/etc