Well, I just recently got married in July. We'd been together for 5 years before that point, we survived COVID in a rather stress inducing state.
My wife works in banking, with secrecy requirements. I work in AV, testing equipment that records everything it sees and hears. We couldn't even be within earshot of each other. She was forced to work in her bed and I was forced to take up half the living room with 2 baker's racks of AV equipment. Still went through those two years being able to look back fondly at being able to take a five minute break to scream into a pillow and get a hug after a particularly stressful problem, meeting, or office politics.
I completely understand where you're coming from, but just like how you can't imagine a partner you want to spend the rest of your life with. I cannot imagine someone ever replacing my wife, and I don't even want to entertain the notion of losing her.
well what if it's insert_celebrity_crush_here?
-- that's not my wife, not interested
well what if it's your wife but she never says no to you?
-- that doesn't sound like my wife at all, I'm not interested
We just mesh incredibly well. We both grew up in problematic households with a disdain for our parents. We both grew up poor. We both care more about financial security and safety than trying to get it all. I feel like we're a team, at all times. Not having her beside me would be like playing football with only half the players.
I will say, this is gonna sound weird but stick with me. Don't... don't chase a monogamous relationship.
I think too many people get hooked on this idea that you must have a partner. You must marry before you hit 35. You must fuck before you hit 19. Just don't think so hard about it. Geography, life events, mistakes, opportunities, are all at place with literally everyone at all times. COVID especially through a wrench in every life plan in America. I feel so bad for anyone who hadn't gone through college yet. Just... find enjoyment where you can and balance that with building your future and if both those points can be met with the same activity. DO IT. Whether it's a partner that you can't live without and you wanna keep, or a group you can't live without. You need both those points in life. Do whatever makes sense.
A house
-- Just purchased, closing is closing in soon.
two cars
-- completely mandatory. We couldn't possibly bus, we have two used cars approaching two decades old and we're dreading the day they croak.
a healthy relationship
-- married in July
a career
-- For me, finally started the career I wanted two years ago, after a decade of trying to become a programmer I finally am. Wife might be in a career now, she's not quite sure. She's happier where she is than Target, but that's a low bar.
livable wage
-- livable with the ability to go on vacations (mostly anime and comic conventions)
2.5 kids
-- don't want them at the moment.
a dog
-- ... two cats
I do NOT in any way feel like I've earned this. I have been saving to buy a house EVER SINCE I paid off my student loans. I dumped all my money for YEARS to get that debt off of my books and after I did, I immediately started saving. Didn't even change my living habits because they were habits at that point. I didn't even have a GF at the time. I just knew that I wanted to be ahead, because I knew that it was going to be a slog when I was finally ready to buy a home. Just like it was a slog to get into my career, just like it was a slog. I wanted to be AHEAD I wanted a good home. And after all that effort I got...
half a duplex for $305,000... Cheapest we could find if you don't count badrealestate suggestions on lemmy.
All that effort and I barely have a home. barely. We could've taken a larger loan but, shit happens. We could've been laid off, One of our cars could've needed to be replaced, We could've been disabled, We could've had our identity stolen, We could've been scammed, We could've been robbed, We could've come across a cop who didn't like our faces, We could've missed payments because Wells Fargo SUCKS and have our credit killed.
All of these things DIDN'T happen to us, so we got to purchase a house. Because if any of those things happened to us, we would've dipped into savings and we wouldn't be purchasing a house in our 30s. All of those things that could've happened were completely out of our control. (except for Wells Fargo, you can choose to not be fucked by Wells Fargo by LEAVING Wells Fargo)
You know, there's genuinely a LOT less butterflies in my life nowadays.
A good chunk of that is probably the fact that I moved from the country to the cities, but man, I see much fewer butterflies. I could easily understand if you end up not seeing a butterfly in person until you're 17, I can see that being spooky. They're spiders with wings, they're moths but skinnier, like the Nightmare before Christmas.
If your kids grow up with an ipad, they try to touch every screen. I've seen multiple kids pantomime a phone not with a pinky and thumb, but a flat hand like a smartphone. Sheep aren't scary but if you've never seen one in your entire life and get the chance to pet one you're gonna be apprehensive, and you're gonna be scared if one runs towards you without a fence between you and it.
He’s being called a neanderthal because he seems to agree with a lot of fringe opinions.
I mean that's just a symptom of the biggest complaint about him. He's really gullible. He's not malicious, but god damn he does not notice a liar when a liar is in front of him. Genuinely I do love his long form content, I love how people can go off topic with him, but some of the people he brings on really should be going in front of Jon Stewart instead.
Like... here's an example of someone clearly lying, dodging questions, and genuinely being sketchy. He's gotten a bit better but would Joe Rogan push this hard against somebody? If someone dodges his question, how well does he bring the topic back to it? Joe Rogan is great when everyone is there in good faith, but would you want him in your corner if you're stuck in a timeshare conference?
... man I never made that connection. I thought it was because there was never an explosion smaller than somebodies head. If it doesn't cause a boom it's a gun that shouldn't be in a boomer shooter.
farmhand fits your description, but they pay less because they don't need skilled workers, anybody with a working body can do it. Can't just drag in a random guy to do your writing, acting, or VFX.
So far it requires a spellcheck, a grammar check, An entire paragraph spends way too long setting a premise and then an example that does nothing to its premise. His entire intro was a ramble that confuses me to what the hell this was supposed to be a thesis about.
Like there's a single line that says this essay is about "a set of right-wing intellectuals who have come to be labeled the “Conservative Revolutionaries.”" It took you 2 and a half pages to communicate that to the reader, but I still have no idea
Why should I care about this group?
Why do you care about this group?
"Who have come to be labeled" implies this label has come recently. This was a group from WWII. Why can't you just say called?
He then moves into those questions, briefly, again with just galling grammar scattered around. Acceptable in a first draft but certainly NOT a final.
I had to stop reading about a quarter of the way in. It just reeks of padding. I'm not surprised it's plagiarized, it's entirely quotes and trombone speak.
What the hell did he get as a grade? Even if it wasn't plagiarized it couldn't have been a C.
wandersong is a super simple game that she might be able to play. You play a pacifist bard who just is naive, friendly to a fault. The bard is a male, but the villain, supporting cast, it's quite diverse with some strong females cast in. It's got a pretty good story and a lot of sesame street level lessons on life in there too. Even starts a conversation on what strength truly is. Totally something you should look at.
Slime rancher is another super chill, might actually be able to play herself, game where you do play as a female protaganist, but much lighter on plot than wandersong. You basically farm cute adorable slimes and it's genuinely pretty addictive and super relaxing after a shitty day.
Mirror's Edge you play as a female protagonist. Plot might be a bit steep for her.
If you haven't played through portal 1 or 2 yet, I bet it could be fun. Glados is silly, Chell (who you play but doesn't talk) is female and she can help you with the puzzles a bit.
The whole point of a Minnesota flag is to have an easy way to display you're Minnesotan. Literally half of the state flags look the exact same as ours if there isn't a wind blowing, and genuinely that number doesn't go down much even WITH a breeze.
If we have something more iconic, noticeable at a glance, it's marketable. Think about Britain's flag on all their tourist merch. Think about the MOA star on everything to do with the mall, think "I <3 NYU" mugs, shirts, hats.
Make it even better, instead of keeping it a flat surface, cut a slope down towards the stairs. Then you get to wander around the model. See it from not just several, but dozens of points of view both vertically and horizontally. Really turn it into a unique part of the house.
I know you can play the game at chrome://dino, but it doesn’t evoke the same nostalgic feeling of a 10yr old me turning on aeroplane mode and spamming space bar to try and beat my brother’s high score. Good memories.
Disney's Haunted Mansion world premiere saw its actors replaced by theme park characters in the first red-carpet event since the SAG-AFTRA strike began.
That's not true at all. If 20% of people wrote in Mickey Mouse for their vote, you can be damn sure both parties would be announcing their presidential runs at Disneyworld.
Even if a third party doesn't win, it's in the major party's best interest to adopt policies from that party in order to snipe voters from that third party because:
That party knows those voters will show, it's a good investment.
The other party might snipe those voters instead.
If neither party adopts anything from that party, the party might grow.
Voting isn't just a form of choosing a candidate, it's a form of protest as well. One that takes far less time than a week of picketing. One that's very powerful as well. 20% of people willing to show up to the polls, and vote nothing... that's 20% of people willing to vote for the right person should they come along.
Like, at this point the absolute most rope I can give him is that he's the living embodiment of that Mitchell and Webb sketch Are we the Baddies
How do you NOT know that white nationalists aren't just nationalists who happen to be white? If he's not racist then he's dumber than the congressman who was afraid an island would capsize if people evacuated to one side of it.
... I dunno. Screen replaceable with 8 screws? it's always the easiest thing to damage. Same with the USB C port. That was the only reason I swapped out from my original pixel last year.
Also depending on how easy that battery is to remove... that's an audience right there. Throw in an external charger, now you have swappable batteries. That's been a feature many have missed.
I have very limited background in programming. I quite want to develop the game myself, or with only minimal help. Is there one language that is better than others for game development, or is more versatile?
Trolley Dilemma (lemmy.best)
'One Piece' review: Netflix does the impossible (mashable.com)
How does anyone believe in monogamy nowadays?
Not talking about being with one partner at a time. Talking about the idea of finding “the one” and being with them your whole life....
Does anyone feel like their life is going according to plan?
A house, two cars, a healthy relationship ,a career, livable wage, 2.5 kids, a dog. ya know, the expectation many children were told in school....
Picnic (64.media.tumblr.com)
A post from Pizza Cake Comic
Anon talks about Joe Rogan (lemmy.ml)
"What do we do now?" - LMG's response to the recent controversies (youtu.be)
At least, some of the recent controversies.
OK Boomer Shooter: How indie games breathed new life into a dying genre (www.inverse.com)
'Suits' Was Streamed For 3 Billion Minutes on Netflix and the Writers Were Collectively Paid $3,000 (nofilmschool.com)
The sorry state of streaming residuals shows why SAG and the WGA are striking.
Caravan Palace - Lone Digger (Official MV) (youtu.be)
GOP Congressional Candidate Got Into Law School With ‘Wildly Plagiarized’ Thesis Lifted from Wikipedia: Report (www.mediaite.com)
Looking for games with strong female leads for my daughter (even just to watch as I play). Came across this link, but they're a bit age-inappropriate. Any suggestions from the community? (gameranx.com)
Edit: Daughter is only 5 so she’s unlikely to play much but she watches me and as long as it’s not too violent, it should be fine
Minnesota is in the process of proposing a new state flag. Here are some proposals, circulating online. Many feature the North Star, a symbol of the state. (files.catbox.moe)
The current flag looks like this, which obviously needs changing: SoB Minnesota flag...
“Beautiful balcony looking over the palatial entertaining area”. (lemmy.world)
Stationary Bike Air Compressor/Energy Storage - Low Tech Magazine (solar.lowtechmagazine.com)
"X.com now points to https://twitter.com/"
https://i.imgur.com/blYSnyR.jpg...
3 browsers (lemmy.world)
I know you can play the game at chrome://dino, but it doesn’t evoke the same nostalgic feeling of a 10yr old me turning on aeroplane mode and spamming space bar to try and beat my brother’s high score. Good memories.
Disney Uses Theme Park Characters In First Actorless Red Carpet Since SAG-AFTRA Strike (www.ign.com)
Disney's Haunted Mansion world premiere saw its actors replaced by theme park characters in the first red-carpet event since the SAG-AFTRA strike began.
Manchin, Huntsman team up to talk platform for 'unity' ticket that could run in 2024 (abcnews.go.com)
[article] The Hyperloop was never meant to be built. Elon Musk admitted it was all about fueling opposition to California’s high-speed rail project so it would get canceled. (mastodon.online)
Tommy Tuberville says he can’t be racist because he’s a football coach – after white nationalist comments (www.independent.co.uk)
Fairphone 4—the repairable, sustainable smartphone—is coming to the US (arstechnica.com)
Not much to add. Saw it in another technology forum and thought it also belonged here for the solarpunks
YSK that Kbin can subscribe not only to magazines and communities, but entire instances.
This may be useful for folks looking to expand their feed. I discovered this on accident and it completely revolutionized my experience on Kbin....
What programming language would be the best to learn to develop a game from scratch?
I have very limited background in programming. I quite want to develop the game myself, or with only minimal help. Is there one language that is better than others for game development, or is more versatile?