lemmy deleted my completely finished post right before posting so let’s try this again. I find it so annoying that I have to sugarcoat everything. I feel like I’m coddling people. I understand being polite to strangers, but it’s so annoying when my family, who knows I’m autistic, gets upset at my bluntness. I’ve...
Your intention isn’t really in play in this situation imo. You behave in a certain way and people around you behave a certain way in reaction and so on. Usually when you need to explain that you didn’t intend to be hurtful or rude it’s accompanied by and I’ll do my best to learn from this and take a different approach next time. Why? Because it’s so common to hurt people unintentionally! You might think “why should I adapt to them” and the answer is just that those are the norms that exist where you live. As you’ve discovered, functioning outside those norms causes general discomfort for both parties (they feel hurt by the bluntness and you feel annoyed that they’re making something out of nothing). To eliminate the discomfort, you adhere to the norm. It’s also fine to refuse to adapt, but I think it’s nice to understand that that’s what you’re doing.
Of course, your family and friends should also understand (if you’ve spoken with them about it) that, given your brain anatomy (or whatever), you don’t share their instincts in some situations, so it’s a bit harder to learn the norms. For example, if staring doesn’t make you feel awkward, you might not instinctually avert your gaze when you find yourself staring like someone who feels awkward in that situation would.
Idk your life, but something practical you might consider is moving somewhere where niceties are less of a norm. They say Germans don’t like small talk! But a much easier option might be to just play along and add “would you mind” before things even if it feels stupid.
Giving a small group of people guns and putting that group in charge of enforcing a set of rules (that they’re not even required to know) for everyone else seems like an approach that totally lacks common sense in the first place imo.
Some people suggest the idea of a multiverse with each universe having a unique set of laws of physics governing it, but not many delve deeper into this. I was wondering if it was even possible to imagine a universe that is different to ours in this regard....
My partner is pursuing their PhD in Philosophy and studies history and phil of science and has dealt with this question a bit, so I’ll take a stab from that perspective.
My answer will rely on the possible worlds framework (a la Lewis) along with a tiny bit of knowledge about Newtonian mechanics.
Is it possible to imagine our world with different physics? Yes. Prior to discovering special relativity and quantum effects, we had newton’s Classical Mechanics, which was able to precisely and accurately describe and predict the movement of bodies in Euclidean space. So, if we can imagine our physics without the complications of curved space and quantum effects, we can imagine our world with an alternate physics that has been somewhat rigorously tested.
Additionally, we can easily imagine the world without the curvature of space and quantum effects (which should be clear by the fact that it’s not too long ago that we thought that was the best picture).
Classical Mechanics offers a working physics that just didn’t turn out to be correct in our (curvy) world. However, relying on the possible world’s framework, it would be easy to stipulate a possible world where Newtonian mechanics was true, or even a possible world where physics shifted from one set of laws to the other.
If we believe the evidence that physics could be otherwise, we might conclude that the laws of physics are relative to a world and a time (and, importantly to metaphysicians, not more fundamental than those two things).
I think a working physics lacking space-time or motion might be impossible to imagine.
A divided Supreme Court has struck down affirmative action in college admissions, declaring race cannot be a factor and forcing institutions of higher education to look for new ways to achieve diverse student bodies.
I'm currently reading the Wool omnibus by Hugh Howey. It's pretty decent I've been making very rapid progress as it's been too hot to sleep here recently now the summer has arrived....
I’m enjoying it! I love a solid premise and the references to modern science appearing as obscure archeological nuggets are perfect. There are some bits I’m guessing that I’m missing some symbolism or something (I’m not an expert in Catholicism).
I've never been a breakfast person, and I don't wake up hungry. I used to go a few hours without eating anything and then have a breakfast of two scrambled eggs, 1/2 cup of brown rice, and a sliced avocado with some salt or soy sauce. That's a very tasty and healthy breakfast, but I get hungry again within a couple of hours....
I do an egg sandwich (English muffin toasted, egg whipped and then fried in an egg circle, cheese). My trick to continually enjoying my sandwich is that I buy fancy chedder for it from the cheese store. I usually put a little Italian dressing on the English muffin for flavor.
I met my partner in school, which is supremely unhelpful for people outside of school!
If I were you I’d keep doing similar things. Join an exercise group, a hobby meetup discord, a volunteer project. Go to the bar at the same time every week. Meeting people through doing things weeds out all the app drama.
What are cis and trans alternate types of? I don't think it's "gender identity" because wouldn't that just be man, woman or nonbinary regardless of whether they're cis or trans? Cis/trans just being a qualifier?...
At first I was thinking that this would make cis and trans properties of gender, but I think we’re specifying a a set of properties or maybe a state of affairs (assessor,world,time,gender,etc)
Hi yall after being on disability income for years and job searching for months I finally got to step two of the job search process: a job interview....
Great job scoring an interview! Having worked in HR plus had a couple jobs, here’s my advice:
look at the tasks you’ll be completing if you get the job and think about any experience you have that would help demonstrate that you’re experienced and able to do that thing. Think outside the box! Your examples don’t need to come from the workplace if you use clear reasoning. Interviewers love examples.
Pull a sample interview of common questions offline and write down how you’d respond to each question.
Don’t take things personally if things don’t go well. There are SO many reasons that you might not get a position that have absolutely nothing to do with you. One big one is that companies often already have someone internal in mind but have to meet certain job posting requirements. Just keep trekking and the chips will fall your way eventually.
Personally, I prefer Lemmy over Kbin because I hate karma and reputation points. I do not want to worry about downvotes, and Lemmy feels so fresh. I can post things that will receive lots of downvotes and not need to worry about losing karma.
From reading an earlier thread, I believe the boost feature makes more sense when you think about federating with Mastadon which has a reblog thing going on. So you’d get a boost to your rep if someone shared your content on mastodon.
Additionally, Kbin is planning to change the rep system to be based on up and down votes instead—it just isn’t a priority right now. Something something check the GitHub for details.
How do you guys celebrate personal wins while being sensitive to those in your circles who might struggle with that area?
For example, posting your ab gains when friends struggle with weight loss, posting about children when friends struggle with fertility, posting about your WFH gig when friends are working 70 hour weeks.
My friends seem to have no issue sharing their wins, but when I want to celebrate meeting a personal goal etc. I always hesitate to share because I don’t want to seem like I’m belittling anyone or behave like I’m better than anyone. I’m curious what others do to strike a balance.
That sounds lovely. My mom worked in a long term care home for adults with disabilities and one way they cut corners was by puréing ALL of the food instead of catering to individual patient needs.
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France is banning the sale of fireworks on its biggest national holiday after protesters used them as weapons against police (www.businessinsider.com)
The ban is in effect through Bastille Day in order to prevent “serious disturbances” to public order, the French government announced Sunday.
I don't understand why I can't be blunt.
lemmy deleted my completely finished post right before posting so let’s try this again. I find it so annoying that I have to sugarcoat everything. I feel like I’m coddling people. I understand being polite to strangers, but it’s so annoying when my family, who knows I’m autistic, gets upset at my bluntness. I’ve...
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Is it possible to imagine a universe with a different set of laws of physics?
Some people suggest the idea of a multiverse with each universe having a unique set of laws of physics governing it, but not many delve deeper into this. I was wondering if it was even possible to imagine a universe that is different to ours in this regard....
Supreme Court strikes down Biden's plan to wipe away $400 billion in student loan debt (apnews.com)
Divided Supreme Court outlaws affirmative action in college admissions, says race can't be used (apnews.com)
A divided Supreme Court has struck down affirmative action in college admissions, declaring race cannot be a factor and forcing institutions of higher education to look for new ways to achieve diverse student bodies.
What books are you reading at the moment?
I'm currently reading the Wool omnibus by Hugh Howey. It's pretty decent I've been making very rapid progress as it's been too hot to sleep here recently now the summer has arrived....
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Every damn time smh (lemmy.world)
What do you eat in the morning?
I've never been a breakfast person, and I don't wake up hungry. I used to go a few hours without eating anything and then have a breakfast of two scrambled eggs, 1/2 cup of brown rice, and a sliced avocado with some salt or soy sauce. That's a very tasty and healthy breakfast, but I get hungry again within a couple of hours....
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Romance in the 21st century
Hello friends, if you'll allow me, I would like to rant for a moment about the state of dating in an urban setting....
"Cis" and "trans" are different types of a person's.... what?
What are cis and trans alternate types of? I don't think it's "gender identity" because wouldn't that just be man, woman or nonbinary regardless of whether they're cis or trans? Cis/trans just being a qualifier?...
What's your Sci-Fi unpopular opinion?
It's a slightly click-baity title, but as we're still generating more content for our magazines, this one included, why not?...
I got a job interview! Any tips??
Hi yall after being on disability income for years and job searching for months I finally got to step two of the job search process: a job interview....
What is your opinion about Lemmy not having karma but Kbin having reputation points?
Personally, I prefer Lemmy over Kbin because I hate karma and reputation points. I do not want to worry about downvotes, and Lemmy feels so fresh. I can post things that will receive lots of downvotes and not need to worry about losing karma.
This is the "food" a 3k per month serves its residents (lemmy.world)
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