Hello, cutie.city and other instances and all ships at sea!
Welcome to Tamsin's Pinned Toot. Please enjoy your stay... unless you're a fascist, a racist, a transphobe, a homophobe, or any other flavor of garbage person, in which case please step on a LEGO forever.
What follows are a few things you might want to know about me if you plan to hang around.
So, who the heck am I?
Hi! I'm Tamsin: a white, middle-aged, queer, sapphic, nonbinary trans woman who likes doorstopper novels, director's cuts, extended remixes, table-top roleplaying games, 5-string basses, double-cutaway Les Paul Jr. guitars, beaches, forests, mountains, witchy things, living places that haven't outlawed her yet, late nights, lazy afternoons, and writing down half of everything she thinks.
I'm happily monogamously married to a polymath superhero, and we share our lives with my marvelous teenaged offspring, two adorable cats, and a host of delightful friends and co-conspirators.
When I talk about #gender and #sexuality, it's probably helpful to know that I have a degree in Gender, Women, and Sexuality Studies (with a focus on #feminist history, queer theory, and trans studies) from the University of Washington. Sometimes I joke that I had to get a degree to realize I'm a gay trans girl, which isn't quite true, but still makes me laugh.
I'm exactly the kind of person who likes prog rock, punk rock, post-punk, trip-hop, house, dark folk, black metal, '70s funk, old-school R&B, early rock'n'roll, acid rock, acid folk, blues, early music, minimalist composers, anime soundtracks, and everything Prince ever recorded.
I have a profound fear of spiders, heights, and isolation.
Sometimes I make things. I craft, I cook, I play (and occasionally run) role-playing games, I play (and occasionally write) music and songs. Most of all, though, I write: essays, poetry, stories, and—when I was feeling particularly sassy—a whole-ass book about gender, sexuality, and queerness for witches, Pagans, and occultists. (If you want to check that last one out, here's the publisher's page: https://llewellyn.com/product.php?ean=9780738761329)
My politics are a simple story: I started out as a liberal in the 1980s and, flying in the face of conventional wisdom, became increasingly leftist as time went by. I support universal healthcare, universal basic income, BLM, antifa, indigenous rights, trans rights, queer resistance, sex workers, undocumented and migrant rights, disability rights, autistic people, plural folks, defunding the police, and radical inclusivity. I'm not an uncritical leftist, however, and I'm probably not ideologically pure enough for most movements. (Then again, I'm a gay trans girl, so most leftist movements don't want me around anyway.)
I have no quarter for fascism, racism, colonialism, sexism, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, transmisogyny, ableism, exclusionary gatekeepers. I think all modern conservative movements are intrinsically evil, and if that describes you, exit the ride now. You're gonna have a real bad time otherwise. (I also recommend fixing your heart or, alternately, dying in a fire. Your choice.)
I've never been one of the Cool Kids™, and I never will be. I'm just an middle-aged geek.girl: sad in some ways, happy in many others, with a messy bookstore for a brain and a whirlwind of a heart which loves fiercely, if sometimes clumsily.
#Male#Female#Naked#Nude#Sexuality#Mywords Only a man insecure in his sexuality, would deny there is much appeal & beauty in the naked male, as well as the naked female form. As a straight man, I never have an issue in recognizing the handsomeness of a man, or a good body shape & giving deserved compliments etc.
I'm Meowry, a Brazilian queer software engineer, focused mostly in #FrontEnd development.
Out of work my interests include #makeup, #goth and #cyber subculture, heavy music -- mostly #metal and its subgenres but also eletronic music and #jrock (can you guess what my handle is referencing btw? hehe).
I'm a sociologist at heart and almost got a degree on that field but that's a long story. I'm passionate about academic studies about #gender and #queer#sexuality.
I am #nonmonogamous for more than a decade now and you'll definitely see me talking about it here. I love and support many #erotica and #nsfw art and eventually I'll boost them -- always with CW and image sensitivity filter on by default!
There's a lot more to talk about so feel free to follow! I'll toot mostly in Portuguese-BR but also English.
I'm pretty well versed in the bdsm culture, but I've always wanted to read more literature on the subject. Are there any deep dives or even academic papers to look at? Specific subject matter can be whatever, but I'm mostly curious about articles that delve into WHY some people enjoy BDSM and others don't.
@valkyrie I wonder, for some of those "very closeted gays," if their anger and pain over that leaches out as anti- #LGBTQ sentiment, along with a self-loathing "Well, I managed to completely, miserably suppress my #sexuality, so, see, it's a choice" conclusion.
Our survey on friendships, sexual and romantic relationships closes soon (5/31)!
If you're 18+ in the US (& especially if you're #asexual / #aromantic / #queer),
my collaborators (Canton Winer at UCI and Hannah Tessler at Yale) and I would love to include your perspective in our study.
What I choose to do with my private parts is my right. :transflag:
Even if that means uaing my private parts to sexually gratify myself in any way I choose.
Other people must be given those same rights.
This also means if I have the concent of others, I can gratify others sexually if fhey want me to and vice versa.
No, you cannot tell anyone how they must sexually gratify themselves because of orientation 🏳️🌈
No, this also means you cannot tell anyone how they are allowed to sexual gratify themselves because of age :aam: :mapflag: #sexuality#lgbt#lgbtrights#lgbtrightsarehumanrights
Resources for reading about healthy experimentation in the bedroom?
I'm pretty well versed in the bdsm culture, but I've always wanted to read more literature on the subject. Are there any deep dives or even academic papers to look at? Specific subject matter can be whatever, but I'm mostly curious about articles that delve into WHY some people enjoy BDSM and others don't.