One of those that is a bit hard to talk about. I am also not sure how to put it into words.
We spent last week doing "the family holiday". This year, just like last, it got to a point where there was a big pile-on @ me due to, well, just me trying to be me.
I was told things like "you seem unempatchetic to the woes of the middle class when you point out the systemic things and how they will be ok more than the poors". I was told a lot more than this. I was told I don't understand what a safe space means (safe space for bigotry etc.)
The same happened the summer before. Similar has happened very often, ever since I was little. This time the icing on the cake was the way my sister looked at me with the "she is autistic" look. Now that they have a handy explainer to why I am "so difficult".
I just ever so slightly tried to unmask. I learned my lesson, again.
There is no point to this rant. Just that it again broke me a bit, the same way it always has. Nobody sees that. #adhd#autism
@I_Like_Books Well said, that rings true. They got on my case so hard and it felt very emotional and dramatic to them, like the defence of something very personally touchy. I wanted to ask them why that is, but didn't want to fuel the flames. Would have turned againts me even more. @gdinwiddie
I was going to say my life has “to go into hard mode” in the previous toot, but that’s not accurate.
Meds help, but they’re not magic. They get you closer to on-par with what the average person can do.
Don’t remember where I read a good metaphor where everyone has to hold 100 marbles. Most people have a bag to hold them, and take for granted that “everyone” has one. But I don’t. The meds give me a bag, but there’s a hole in it. You can do a lot better, but things still slip through. #ADHD
the statement "#ADHD isn't real" is only true only in a very narrow sense: when a child's nervous system is maturing a bit slower than other children their age, but they'll catch up eventually.
there's a slight tendency for ADHD to be diagnosed more often in children who are born later in the same year. they're being compared to the older children in their age cohort. if you're 6 years old, 12 months can make a big difference.
it's much easier to diagnose an adult over 25, since the brain has finished developing at that age, or at least should have done so. but at that point, it's a little late to intervene.
apparently, animals can get hyperkinetic disorder / #ADHD too. dogs are fairly intelligent and are capable of highly organised behaviour, so it makes sense that they can have a genetic condition that impairs that ability, analogous to the one found in humans.
discovering in your 30s that #adhd is why you have had so much trouble with your job, finances, relationships and housekeeping isn't ideal. that's usually when people are building the foundation for stability and security later in life. you've lost a lot of time.
whenever i see #ADHD symptom lists, i'm just like "yup, yup, yup, also yup, all the time, yup, yup..." - lived for 30 years without knowing what was wrong with me - terrible self esteem
i had a cup of coffee to give myself an energy and concentration boost before leaving for the vet. it's quite stressful to transport an animal through a busy city.
the problem with coffee is that it doesn't make me better at remembering things. might actually worsen that part of my #ADHD symptoms because you become so focused that you forget to concentrate.
@Nomad_Scry i would describe meditation, for example, as being more about concentration than attention. the related concept of mindfulness is about having an awareness of your surroundings. situational awareness. if you have #ADHD, you're prone to not having that, because your mind drifts off.
@thor This makes a lot of sense. When I mentally wander off following a rabbit trail of thoughts, I would have said I was concentrating, but you're right that I'm not being intentional.
Ook mensen met #ADHD kunnen introvert zijn. Dat ik hyper word en een gebrekkige filter in gezelschap, wil niet zeggen dat ik sociale situaties prettig of makkelijk vind. Quite the opposite. Projectie, noemen we dat. #misconcepten#misvattingen
My toxic home owner trait is doing my own lawn mowing once I got annoyed with people bothering me about doing my lawn while I’m working. I have the tools I just forget I have an actual lawn thanks to #adhd