pathfinder, to Autism
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@actuallyautistic

For me, knowing I was different was just something I grew up with. As I aged and progressed through school, it was only ever amplified as those around me grew in ways that I didn't and that I couldn't seem to either, no matter how much I tried. In fact, my attempts to do so were often met with ridicule and contempt, more than any real sense of encouragement or accomplishment. In fact, so many of the judgements I received never seemed to be based on the effort I was putting in, the progress I was making, but on where, or how, I should be instead. Praise only ever seemed to come from excelling, even if for me it was simply what was expected, the point of the whole process, or because it was, in fact, easy. Either way, it always seemed meaningless.

Is it any wonder, then, that I have always had a problem with judging myself fairly. I grew up in a world that was not made for me and judged and expected to conform to its standards. I can see that now. But, back then I had no such understanding. I had nothing to compare myself to, no guide to follow. What understanding there was of autism was biblically bad and certainly nothing I could see myself in. All I knew was that I was always misjudged, or blamed for things that were outside my control. That all too often I was underappreciated for the progress I was making and blamed for the progress I couldn't make. Is it any wonder, then, that in the end all I could come to believe was that I was broken somehow and that this was why I was so obviously to blame and at fault all the time.

Or that my sense of self-esteem suffered. It's hard to judge yourself fairly, when you are doing so against the wrong values. It's even harder to judge yourself when you have no true mirror to see yourself in. Or, when others never to seem to see you either. It's easier to fall into the trap of believing that only perfection will do, that it's your only chance, and only the sort of perfection that can never be attained.

Even now, I'm prone to doing this. That always improving, is the key to eventually value. To judging myself against impossible standards and expectations. To dismissing where I am, because it's never enough and seeing praise as unwarranted because of that. It is a hard habit to break, a response trained into me by a lifetime of feeling wrong and of that wrongness being pointed out. It is, perhaps, one of the hardest things about realising that I am autistic. Because, whilst I do have a mirror to see myself in now. Actually getting myself to look fairly, after all these years, is really hard.

#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic

CultureDesk, (edited ) to Travel
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Many autistic children thrive on routine and predictability, which can make vacations challenging for them. Here's a story from USA Today with tips on how to plan a trip, choose an airline that provides accommodations for autistic children, and details on what to expect from an autism-certified resort.

https://flip.it/dnzdjW

@kkffoo and others highlighted to us that the puzzle piece originally used to illustrate this story is an offensive analogy to some autistic people. Here is an explanation as to why. The publication has now changed the image in response to this feedback. Thank you all.

https://theabilitytoolbox.com/autism-puzzle-piece-alternative/

thereaders, to disability
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My gofundme has launched! The goal is $600 with all the details included. Please let me know if you feel I've left something out, and share on any platform you feel comfortable. I would appreciate it SO SO much ❤️

https://gofund.me/03b2a7ca



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br00t4c, to Autism
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Eye-opening video shows how a simple train delay is experienced by someone with autism

https://www.upworthy.com/an-eye-opening-video-on-autism-shows-why-one-train-delay-can-be-a-big-deal-rp3

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LEAD_Coalition, to mentalhealth
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Sharing our stories fights stigma, enlightens others and gives them permission to enter our world, and helps people on a similar journey feel less alone.

#Alzheimers #dementia #mentalhealth #autism #caregiving #quote

AceyAngel, to Autism
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I created this graphic and logo the beginning of April for Autism Acceptance month.

(posted on my IG, but only now thought to post here as well.)

Happy Autism Acceptance month.

#AutismAcceptanceMonth #Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Art #MastoArt #Mastodon #Health #Disability

Ilovechai, to Autism
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So, I am trying to accept I cannot keep up w/ posting on multiple platforms. It's so
mntally annoying. 😑 Somedays I post here, other days on IG. I don't think I can really add Threads to it and FB only gets the things IG sends it. I'm going to go back to my reading 📚. I love all the beautiful shares here, but today's spoons are spent for social media.
@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd @actuallyaudhd

adelinej, to Autism
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From @Autie Comics

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#ActuallyAutistic #Autism #AutismAcceptanceMonth

adelinej,
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From @Autie Comics

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#ActuallyAutistic #Autism #AutismAcceptanceMonth

adelinej,
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From @Autie Comics

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#ActuallyAutistic #Autism #AutismAcceptanceMonth

adelinej,
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From @Autie Comics

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#ActuallyAutistic #Autism #AutismAcceptanceMonth

adelinej,
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From @Autie Comics

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adelinej,
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From @Autie Comics

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#ActuallyAutistic #Autism #AutismAcceptanceMonth

adelinej, to Autism
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From @Autie Comics (there are so MANY that I want to share)

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#ActuallyAutistic #autism #AutismAcceptanceMonth

meredithw, to ADHD
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alexisbushnell, to Autism
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I'm watching the Jubilee "middle ground" episode (https://youtu.be/9FCixSEjUJ8?si=DuChJz4SMpmWVCYn) about #Autism and something the mum of one of the Autistic folks said sent me off on a "maybe I'm not #ActuallyAutistic" imposter syndrome spiral, so I'm gonna vent my issues with it here.

Basically she was talking about Autism being "trendy" now and "the spectrum" including anybody whether they only have sensory issues and nothing else, etc.

Tooden,
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@alexisbushnell Josh Susser has said that this is one of the things he hates about AutisticAwarenessMonth...all the tired tropes about #Autism get trotted out, and pretty much drown out the positives.
That you suffered any time at all with Imposter Syndrome, is bėcause of this. It harms Autistics, and AuDHDers, and those who are trying to banish the myths. @ScruffyDux

smote, to disabled
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please help my friend Tasia! she's got nothing left to eat, also out of garbage bags, toilet paper, and tampons. needs just $50!

paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/ourinsatiabesouls

@mutualaid @mutual_aid

freemo, to asd
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Did this textbook seriously just use a furry to represent ASD, lol.

Ilovechai, to Autism
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Training lunch break & watching vids as a brain palate cleanser of sorts. I found this fascinating. Such parenting supports weren't available 20 yrs ago. It's wonderful to see #autism #parenting #pda communities offering validation, support & education. This video reminded me of a time I visited my sister when my niece was a baby. She couldn't stop playing w/a toy that was frustrating her, she cried every time she hit it but kept doing it. #cognitivepsychology
https://youtu.be/1ozg_e2XHvI?si=c_CebRLvpPZMvjOr

dorgaldir, to Autism Dutch
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I feel this so hard. Why can't people just be clear about what they want?
#autism #actuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic
#feels

jeffowski, to Autism
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https://youtu.be/gyuP7Q1fk9g
What Is the Autism Spectrum?
#autism

ianRobinson, to science
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What is the Autism Spectrum? - Sci Show. Presented by Hank Green.

https://youtu.be/gyuP7Q1fk9g

#Science #Biology #Autism

tashasounart, to Parenting
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I think we found a good middle school for my son, now hoping he gets accepted 🤞 Then all of my problems forever will be solved 😆

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