What kind of a gift can you give your teacher out of respect, but that doesn’t get mistaken for romance?

A follow up from my older asklemmy post, saying goodbye to a teacher who helped me a lot through my stuff, was thinking maybe chocolate, but one of the dudes said that it’s not a very good idea, I was thinking maybe a perfume/cologne? What do you guys suggest? She is in probably in her early 20s if it helps, and I am in senior high, damn this is getting weirder and weirder, I just want to run away lol

Crampon,

I have gifted teachers Cognac before. Some decent bottle of liquor if they’re into that is fine. But early 20s might not be the target audience for brown spirits.

Make sure they’re not alcoholic or a recovering one.

Bwaz,

Gift certificate. That’s something that can NEVER be mistaken for romance.

BrerChicken,

As a teacher, I treasure all of the heart-felt notes and letters students have left me over the years. If you want to give something that shows them how important they are to you, write them a letter.

stoicmaverick, (edited )

SOURCE!

Edit: I guess I should clarify. I’m saying that this is the ultimate source as an answer to this question. I’m not ordering this person to cite a source. Sorry for the interruption.

WeirdGoesPro,
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Lmao at the perfume and chocolates. You somehow beelined to the most Valentines related gifts possible.

The suggestion for a letter or card saying how much they helped you is the best idea. If you don’t feel up to writing, then think about a professional gift, like a fancy pen or something to sit on their desk. Don’t spend a lot of money, that makes it weird. Less than $30.

I’m so glad we had this talk at this stage of your life before you gave your first boss a fine bottle of perfume and then had a bewildering conversation with HR, lol.

SatansMaggotyCumFart,

Fart in a jar, decorate it all pretty and shit.

SatansMaggotyCumFart,

Shout out to mods_are_assholes for your amazing comment.

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fastandcurious,
@fastandcurious@lemmy.world avatar

Damn, gonna take some time to get a good smelling one

technomad,

Try submerging the jar completely in the tub before capturing. Pure fart that way, no air.

Donebrach,
@Donebrach@lemmy.world avatar

Unless you’re living in a horny anime I don’t think you have much to worry about with what they think. However, don’t give your teacher perfume—that’s insane and inappropriate for anyone outside of a romantic partner / close friend.

Write them a thank-you note and get them a Starbucks gift card.

sexual_tomato,

A heartfelt, handwritten thank-you letter telling them they’re a great teacher and how they positively impacted your life.

charlytune,
@charlytune@mander.xyz avatar

This. My sister in law teaches and keeps all the letters she gets from her students. It’s stuff like that that keeps teachers going.

BleatingZombie,

And an apple 🍎

sexual_tomato,

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fidodo,

Coffee or tea

fastandcurious,
@fastandcurious@lemmy.world avatar

Suggestions here getting weirder and weirder ಠ_ಠ

berryjam,

Bruh, coffee or tea is way better and more appropriate than perfume. Think about it, if you gift a set of nice teabags, it’s a nice pick-me-up for your teacher to enjoy between classes

fastandcurious,
@fastandcurious@lemmy.world avatar

Perfume definitely seems worse, I have actually given some to my male teachers when I was younger and dumber lol so I thought this would work, coffee/tea seems kinda weird tbh, but I frankly have no idea anymore 🤷🏼‍♂️

intensely_human,

I’m telling you man. Homemade cookies.

fastandcurious,
@fastandcurious@lemmy.world avatar

I gotta then learn how to make great cookies within a week ¯_(ツ)_/¯, I am considering 3 options rn

  1. Gift card (Seems the most appropriate, but idk if physical ones still exist where I live)
  2. Chocolate (Easiest to get)
  3. Muffins (Seems to be the overall best, but it would kinda be a hassle)

Gonna think about this tmrw, I am tired AF RN, finals approaching and it somewhat sucks

WeirdGoesPro,
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Bro, lose the chocolate. It will be your downfall.

WeirdGoesPro,
@WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com avatar

Coffee and tea are so much more normal than perfume or chocolate that I can’t even. I’ve gotten coffee from a coworker before, and appreciated it. I could imagine giving tea to one if I knew they liked that. It’s safe, professional, and a crowd pleaser.

I wouldn’t even hazard a gift of perfume to my wife without some careful research first—too many ways it can be construed as “you smell” unless there is some sort of precedent such as knowing what she already wears.

This post has been gold. Thanks for sharing your struggles with us.

fastandcurious,
@fastandcurious@lemmy.world avatar

I have a feeling that I am even worse than ‘naive’ when it comes to this sort of stuff, thank god I decided to ask here before doing something stupid, but then again there was no other option anyway

WeirdGoesPro,
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A basic rule for professional gifts is to avoid anything that goes on the body, or anything with an effect that could be construed as “sensual”. By sensual I mean overly enticing to the senses—such as chocolate, perfume, or silk. It implies that you are seeking to make their body feel something, and as you get older, that is often equated with eroticism. Looking at commercials for the product helps too—chocolate commercials equate chocolate with sex almost every time.

People can be picky about food, or may have intolerances, so that is risky. Coffee and tea are associated with productivity, which is why they are professional to give.

If you have any female friends, they can be a helpful guide when trying to navigate how another woman might react to something. Good luck soldier! It’s hard out there.

set_secret,

a pineapple. Can never be seen as romantic.

Jarix,

Unless you are into swinging. Then it’s very inappropriate

arin,

Never say never. I’d go on a date for pineapple

AgentGrimstone,

How about just an email. Keep it profesh.

Spaghetti_Hitchens,

Red Swingline Stapler

intensely_human,

That’s a great idea. Or something else for their desk at work.

The public presentation of the gift reinforces the idea that the gift is being presented for their teacher role.

adespoton,

One thing I haven’t seen yet: if you can, loop your parent(s) in on this. They know the situation better than the Internet does, and if someone tries to turn the situation into something weird, they should have your back. And they’ve got some life experience to help you with your note.

flambonkscious,

Damn, that’s good advice.

However the sarcastic side of me is looking forward to the next post in a months time when they ignored this, etc…

“How do I propose to my old teacher?” And so on

fastandcurious,
@fastandcurious@lemmy.world avatar

I hope to god this never happens but that would be hilarious ngl

GBU_28,

Edible underwear

intensely_human,

“I’d totally chew these right off your pelvis if you weren’t my teacher. Now that I’m graduating, I want you to know you had a great impact on me. I often think about you at night. No homo”

Tarkcanis,

A thank you card and a gift certificate for food. Everybody needs food.

intensely_human,

“Good for one food”

pugsnroses77,

a genuine card and a gift card to a nice restaurant. or maybe a wine voucher

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