My new test of even having basic engagement with anyone on any level is: Do you think Trans women should be in sports? Do you believe in vaccines? Do you think genocide is bad?
Any discussion on those topics at all except “yes, of course” and you are more than likely going to be an enormous waste of effort for me to even engage in small talk with.
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For the first question, would you accept "Yes, if they want to"? I'd hate to force anyone to play a sport in which ey had no interest. (:
@ryanhoulihan my only caveat on your first question would be "who defines Trans?" Is there a stage in transitioning before which it would be inappropriate? Is there a body that can manage and monitor that without medical info that is private to that person being disclosed and becoming a topic of discussion for every armchair wannabe coach?
"Who's trans enough?" Is a really scary road to start going down and seems fraught with perils that I at least have no right or basis to weigh in on.
Can the current hopefuls of the Russian men's weightlifting team decide they're trans, convince the military that it's true and that they shouldn't be conscripted to Ukraine and try to compete as neutrals in next year's Olympics? Only if they're taking antiandrogens? Who decides what the appropriate levels for those are? Do they need a history of therapy to prove that it's not just an attempt to avoid drone dropped grenades?
@ryanhoulihan Had this exact conversation with a loved one just the other day. "I understand the logic of that, but it just doesn't feel true and correct to me, so I'm not going to do it."
@ErosBlog But give them time. They get all the arguments rationally, that's a good thing. The arguments will work their magic in their brains, they will check reality against them and finally they will comprehend. Changing an opinion or changing someone's feelings about what is right or wrong needs time. Support them in this process, don't push, don't accuse. Let them take the time they need. I know it's hard. But that's what it means to convince someone. @ryanhoulihan
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After I did some light lexohistoorical reading, any time anyone plays this card around me ey will thenceforth only be addressed as 'thou', since 'you' is a plural form of address and using it in a singular context is obviously incorrect after all.
@ryanhoulihan@DopeGhoti I like to point out that in German the pronoun “sie” can mean she, they, or you, and literally no German speaker is confused by this, so are English speakers just dumb?
@ryanhoulihan@DopeGhoti I admit that singular they felt awkward to me when it became common, but I am old, si tha5s my problem. actually complaining about it is the 21st century version of “gay used to mean happy, dammit,” and omg who wants to be that person?
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