Do you also receive questions under your #LinkedIn posts which sound like, as if a #recruiter is trying to collect a "reference" answer from you, an expert in your field? They seem to read the post, but their questions still sound like #BS. A strange kind of #outsourcing 😉
Dear LinkedIn recruiters - If you have a 3 mo contract, and I say "No thanks, I'm looking for full time" this is not the correct response to me:
"That said, you have been out of work roughly X months now and the holidays are around the corner, hiring will start to slow down as we go into Q4. Not a bad stop gap and then look for your next FTE in early 2024."
I am well aware of exactly how long, and I'm loving every minute of it. Seriously.
If you're a #recruiter please stop confusing understanding or proclivity to agree for good communication.
"We won't be going further with you as a candidate; you aren't very good at communicating, the conversation did not flow"
'Ok, what do you mean by that?'
"It was hard to get answers from you for easy-to-understand questions"
'I didn't find them easy to understand; and I outlined for you why it was hard. Your colleague asked a much better question - which I was able to answer immediatley, and told you what you were looking to know'
"See, I get the feeling you're trying to teach me something. I've done this 1-200 times, I'm not new at it - it's still not flowing"
'I get the feeling you just want me to agree - now you understand why I had difficulty with the question, I communucated that effectivley to you right?'
"Yes"
'and wouldn't you say it's better communication that we establish a mutual understanding so that I can give you an accurate answer, instead of a confident guess at something I think you'll like?'
"No"
...wtf? Can anyone explain why that's not a good thing? Why someone would prefer a guess?
@loops Yeah, that's how NT people work. I don't make the rules xD.
Now explaining a bit why it works like that for NT people: they live in a shared culture that fills in most of the blanks. Doing things always the same way in the same cultural context provides a most likely correct answer for most questions. This permits NT people to live their lives blissfully unaware of the complicated details of life, which we ND people are made for to fill in and fix after the NT inevitably f* it up because of this unaware communication style. You have to understand that NT people cannot just learn to communicate better, for them this is communication, period. Well, some kinda learn...
There are tricks to deal with this, and sometimes it involves asking, but asking directly triggers their sensibilities, so usually you need some forms of manipulation/social engineering to get the information you need. NT people don't like the idea of manipulation but they hate not being manipulated into giving the necessary information etc even more. NT communication is a delicate dance around their sensibilities.
It's not preferable, if you can deal with ND people around you and communicate properly with them that is always better, but it's something we kinda have to work around. The way many ND people fill in the blanks is study massively about all kinds of possible subjects so they know more than the person they communicate with. Of course that doesn't work for everyone and every subject. In those cases you first see if a correct answer is absolutely essential, then if so, ask the question with an explanation about why it is so essential to get this right. If it's not absolutely essential, you fake it. Often this means getting it wrong and learning the right answer afterwards. This is frustrating in ND context but the normal way to learn in NT context, so they don't see why you get frustrated about this.
@loops I'm a bridge/translator kind of person: speaking 11 languages, pangender, religiously Bahá'í etc. and it also includes somehow being really good at understanding NT and ND elements and translating them to each other. I have an autistic friend who often asks me why NT people do x or y and he just cannot imagine they are that stupid xD. I don't think it's really being stupid per se, it's just living in a reality where the disability is the one of the majority and treated as the default... The defining trait of being NT is basically that you think everything you do is normal and everyone else has to adapt.
"Never lie on your resume," say recruiters who mark jobs listings as "remote" when they require three days a week in the office, or use LinkedIn's "Easy Apply" feature and then email candidates who apply a link to the REAL (not easy) application in their own applicant tracking system.
@maxleibman Use #ChatGPT for your cover letters. I have a template that I copy/paste in alongside the job description and tell it to fill in the blanks.
Ex: "I'm thrilled at the prospect of working at [COMPANY] to [POSITIVE CORPORATE SPEAK ABOUT COMPANY'S IMPACT/WORK]"
@CiclistaRubio ich hab mal einen gehabt der hat mir eine leidlich anonymisierte Stellenbeschreibung geschickt und gefragt ob ich da nicht arbeiten will.
Nach drei Stichpunkten habe ich erraten dass es die Stelle von meinem damaligen Arbeitgeber war und ihn gefragt ob er eigentlich irgendetwas von meinem Profil gelesen hat?
Da hat er sich dann entschuldigt, aber dementieren konnte er es auch nicht :D