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ada, 3 months ago

Blahaj.zone admin here. You have had exactly zero interaction with this community or any other gender diverse community on lemmy in the 6 months you’ve had your account, and your first interaction with such a community was to passively aggressively come at someone trying to establish a new community.

If you want to offer advice to a brand new mod trying to get a new community off of the ground, you’re welcome to do so, but that isn’t how you do it.

ada, 2 months ago

I’m Australian. I normally manage a pie with 5 digits, unless it’s particularly crumbly or runny, in which case I will sometimes use 10!

ada, 3 months ago

I live in a sub tropical zone. We still get distinct seasons, but not as extreme as many places in the world.

For me, I love it. I hate winter, I hate cold weather. And the fact that nothing freezes, it never snows, and that on warm winters days, I can still go for a swim, or out to the park without adding 16 layers of clothes is something that I value a great deal!

I know people get use to where they live but I was in Australia once in my life during winter season and it just never felt like christmas

Christmas is in the middle of summer in Australia, so even if you’re further south in Australia, where the seasons are more distinct, it’s still never going to feel like a northern hemisphere winter Christmas.

ada, 3 months ago

Strictly speaking, that’s simply bisexual. Femboys are boys. That being said, there is no “correct” answer here that anyone else can give you.

The correct label is the one that helps you navigate the world and your own needs the best. If bisexual fits, congrats, that’s it. If it doesn’t, it’s not, and your search continues :)

ada, 1 month ago

The only thing I use it for is Dreaming Spanish, and it’s months since I’ve watched any of that content, so I’ll say yeah, I think I’ll be ok in a world without Youtube

ada, 1 month ago

Platypuses are mammals, but they’re weird enough that you can’t usefully generalise from them to anything else, to the point that lumping them in together could be actively misleading

I would argue that they’re “lumpable” with other monotremes :)

ada, 1 month ago

XX and XY don’t come in to it. You almost certainly don’t know yours, just like most people don’t. They assume them based on sexual characteristics. Which is to say, when “evaluating” someone’s sex, it’s just sexual characteristics that come in to it.

And they change. If you looked at my sexual characteristics, you’d assume I’m XX, but I’m almost certainly not.

And again, the fact that you are placing so much relevance on what sex is and how it’s determined so that you can categorise people according to the rules of that classification? That’s purely social…

It goes to one of my other replies then of what differentiates a ‘boyish woman/tomboy’ from a MTF transgender?

One is cis, one is trans…

It really has nothing to do with identity but more for things like someone who grew up male, with all the associated hormonal traits to that, most specifically testosterone and the typically associated muscle difference transitioning

As I said, if you don’t understand it, don’t get involved, because you end up spouting stuff like this. Content that “makes sense”, but is misleading and used to harm

You don’t understand it, so exactly why do you need to have an opinion on it? The harm done by people who don’t understand a topic, but push for exclusion because it “makes sense” can’t easily be undone. It’s going to take us decades to undo the hurt caused by people driving this conversation. Until you can speak from experience on the topic, just stay out of it, rather than being part of the harm machine

ada, 2 months ago

Lemmy started for me in December 2022. By that point, I’d been on the fediverse for 6 months or so. The Twitter implosion had just happened the month before, and I finally realised how sick of centralised social media I was. Reddit was the only one I was using, though I barely touched it because of the moderation, and so I went looking for alternatives.

I found lemmy.ml, and saw the potential of the concept. A month later, in January 2023 my partner and I were running an instance (we already ran a regular fediverse instance). The lemmy instance was basically just a single person instance. Sign ups were open, but lemmy was quiet back then, so the few people that joined left again. My partner barely used lemmy, so it was basically a single person instance.

And then the reddit implosion happened, and suddenly we found ourselves running a fully fledged lemmy instance, with more users than our “main” instance. And that was really the moment that I got more serious about lemmy too. The increase in community size and engagement transformed the experience.

I’ve never been back to reddit since I left in December 2022, but I didn’t delete my account until 2023 during the reddit exodus.

ada, 5 months ago

I run an instance focused on the needs of trans and gender diverse folk, because big instances run by cis folk tend not to deal with transphobia as well as I would like.

Centralised instances not dealing with transphobia is why I left most other social media platforms, so you can imagine I’m keen not to just repeat that experience here

ada, 3 months ago

Why would I want to use exclusive language? If I know it’s going to make someone feel worse instead of better, why would I use?

The only argument for not using it that I can think of is that you don’t give a shit about other people…

ada, 3 months ago

Do you like Yerba Mate?