quidcumque

quidcumque, 7 days ago to random

You know what? FUCK neurotypical "empathy" that only works if they'd feel the same way, and is all "don't be upset, it's nothing" and "pull yourself together" otherwise.

#ActuallyAutistic

quidcumque, 28 days ago to random

We've been talking about kids playing with toy weapons recently, right? How lots of parents don't like them and how to deal with that?

K1 is currently carving a piece of wood they want to use to build a crossbow 🫣

quidcumque, 1 month ago to random

Long time, no reading notes from me. I did read, but it was test-reading a mutual's novel, so no notes here.

But now! I'm starting Alice Degan's "From All False Doctrine", recommended by @irina.

Ancient manuscripts, cults, and academia in the 1920s.

#FromAllFalseDoctrine #Books2024

quidcumque, 1 month ago to random

You know what - if there was a community in my city, I'd probably just give up and become an Old Catholic*. FFS.

(Yeah, I'm subtooting the Catholic church here.)

*https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Old_Catholic_Church

quidcumque, 1 month ago to random

Because I wrote it to someone today: I think "have a good time, and may there be a quiet place if you get overwhelmed" is nice autistic well-wishing.

Let's make it a thing!

"May you find everything at Ikea, and may headphones and sunglasses suffice"

"Good luck for your exam, may there be no fluorescent lighting"

#ActuallyAutistic

quidcumque, 2 months ago to random

I did not think this* boost would be prophetic 😬

*https://mas.to/@alesssia/112158067611546918

(K1, 2 pm: completely normal
K1, 4 pm: tired, 38.4 °C
K1: 5 pm: sleeps, wimpers, 39.1 °C
K1, 7 pm: a bit tired, 37. 3°C)

quidcumque, 2 months ago to random

Friend has a new position in academia.

Friend: the bad news is it's still not a permanent position according to the online system

Me: 🧐

Friend: but the good news is, the end date in it is December 31st, 9999

#AcademicLife #AcademicChatter

quidcumque, 3 months ago to random

finishes chapter well, that escalated quickly

finished next chapter well wasn't THAT a whole 'nother level of escalation

#Exordia #Books2024

quidcumque, 3 months ago to random

Playground. Two people are trying (somewhat frantically) to get their babies in strollers to sleep.

K2 (helpfully): we also have a baby. They get put in the carrying wrap and then they sleep.

quidcumque, 3 months ago to random

Still not in the mood for "Exordia" and heavy ethics, so I'll read Pleiti and Mossa's new adventures next, as @older's sequel to "The Mimicking of Known Successes" is just out!

Welp, these long titles don't make good hashtags, do they.

#TheImpositionOfUnnecessaryObstacles #Books2024

quidcumque, 3 months ago to random

Partner, apropos of nothing: "a Dutch James Bond parody would be so great. Chases by bike and through tulip fields, jumping off a movable bridge, fighting on a big RV's roof while driving 120 kilometers per hour,..."

😝

quidcumque, 3 months ago to random

Oh no, now this* really interesting article about Tolkien's reception by the far-right is making me feel bad about liking Sam Gamgee 😬

*https://literaturkritik.de/fascist-hobbits,30256.html

quidcumque, 3 months ago to random

Me: writes grocery shopping list you can tell me if you want me to cook something specific, then I'll add the ingredients

Partner: I'm more like "get inspired by the selection in the shop" and look while I walk around

Me: that's why I write the list and you go shopping, isn't it

#ActuallyAutistic

quidcumque, 3 months ago to random

The amount of co-regulation I currently have to do for my kids saps my energy for sure.

(It's just a phase. Onward.)

quidcumque, 3 months ago to random

Still life

#SilentSunday

quidcumque, 4 months ago to random

Misread the headline "Middle East increases renewable energy" as "Middle Earth increases renewable energy".

I guess by using wind and water power, eh.

quidcumque, 4 months ago to random

At the protest. My father meets an acquaintance.

Father: these are my kids, and grandkids

Acquaintance: so you're three generations of antifascists here 😍

Me: I kind of wish that weren't necessary

quidcumque, 5 months ago to random German

This U-shape babies sleeping on their back make with their arms, though. Adorable.

(That's all.)

#Baby2023

quidcumque, 5 months ago to random

K1: I know what I want to get [friend] for their birthday

Me: what is it?

K1: I want to build a bed for their doll. Can you help me with the drilling?

(I did, and K1 designed and built the thing with very little help! K1 is SO going to be the kind of partner showing their love with power tools 💙 next step: sew a blanket and pillow...)

quidcumque, 6 months ago to random

K1 fecit (made) a miniature-sized arcus (bow) and some sagittae (arrows) "for mice" from wood and string and I think they should meet @Minimus and their adventures!

quidcumque, 7 months ago to random

I knew that "was that baby planned or an accident?" is a question you get asked a lot if you have more than two kids*, but it's still rude and actually hurts a lot if there was a miscarriage before the baby.

Just leave it, folks.

*or one kid but you're old, or young, or two kids who are close or far apart in age, or whatever. It's always rude.

quidcumque, 7 months ago to random

This review* at @NerdsofaFeather makes "Spring's Arcana" by @lilithsaintcrow sound very good indeed! I think I'll try reading it next, in bits and pieces while breastfeeding and with a sleeping baby on me. Thoughts and quotes and stuff in this thread as usual.

A road trip in America, native and migrant gods and powers, oh my!

*https://wandering.shop/@Princejvstin/111215514070525181

#SpringsArcana #Books2023

quidcumque, 7 months ago to random

You get a present from the city when leaving the hospital.

Staff member: there's a onesie from [local football club] in it. Yeah, nothing for a girl, I know...

I had actually thought we were way beyond this 🙄

#RosaHellblauFalle #GeschlechtsoffeneErziehung #GenderNeutralParenting

quidcumque, 7 months ago to random German

"I think the smiles we have for new babies are special, smiles of pure welcome, pure success: in our cruel match played against Death and endless Entropy, we score +1."

(@adapalmer, "Perhaps the Stars")

Today, we personally scored +3.

💙

quidcumque, 7 months ago to random German

Dass die örtlichen Freien Wähler nächstes Wochenende zum Kartoffelfest einladen, ist ja schon irgendwie lustig.

(Difficile est satiram non scribere, nicht wahr)