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quidcumque

@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social

autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23).
agender (and white).
writes (textbooks and book reviews).
teaches math (to engineering students).
likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).

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fade, to random
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Sang myself the Chore Song while I swept and mopped this afternoon. It goes like this:

A half-assed job is better than none,
better than none,
better than none,
A half-assed job is better than none,
because half a chore's still some.

Other verses include:

  • Won't do it well but I'll do it now
  • It's already late so I might as well start
  • Entropy wants to do me in
  • Can't do it all but I can do some
  • It won't be perfect, but then, what is?

I find this song very comforting at times.

quidcumque,
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@fade and it can help you with getting started, at least that works for me quite often!

"Now that I've done stretches, I might as well run"
"Now that I've loaded the dishwasher, I might as well clean the counters"
"Now that I've sorted through these exams, I might as well start grading"

klaremitte, to random German
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Der Umgang mit ist übrigens ein Paradestück, wie Konservative aus einer inszenierten Opferrole heraus restriktiv gegen eine tolerante, offene, selbstbestimmte und gleichgestellte Gesellschaft vorgehen. Das Ergebnis ist, dass gendern in 3 Bundesländern in Schulen, Verwaltung oder beiden explizit verboten ist. Eine Pflicht zum Gendern hat es dagegen nie gegeben.

quidcumque,
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@kkarhan @klaremitte hat ein Kollege auf einer Veranstaltung mal genau so gemacht: Eröffnungsrede vom Gemeinderat, "heute verzichten wir aufs Gendern!". Kollege hat seinen Beitrag dann im generischen Femininum gehalten und das auch den Rest des Tages am Stand durchgezogen.

Außerdem meinen die alle "Entgendern"!

Orr ey.

quidcumque, to random
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On the way to a doctor's appointment. You can wish me luck for a non-transverse lie of the baby, because we're getting closer to the point when that's going to yield more appointments and trying to turn it... which is just annoying.

(Just kidding. If everything else is fine and it's still a transverse lie, whatever, maybe it'll turn on its own anyway.)

quidcumque,
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Thanks for the good wishes. Still in a transverse position 🙄 but everything else is fine!

quidcumque,
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@dec_hl now THAT's a bit creepy...

quidcumque,
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Heh, just realized that my baby is very much in tune with my gender neutral parenting approach: no one's been able to assign a gender yet because it never showed any genitals during ultrasounds 🙃

Also, I only saw just now that the doctor made a 3D image of its face and printed it out for me. And I'm just... that's just... I've never had a picture like that with the others. You can see the face, you can see that the eyes are open, it's like... a human? Whoa. 💙🥹

esther, to random

Bad Brain day. With breaking down crying in a busy street, unable to speak and everything.

Because sometimes autism likes to remind me that it is also a fucking disability in the most literal sense: not being able to do stuff.

quidcumque,
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@esther sympathy and strength. It is and it sucks.

quidcumque, to random
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Partner complains about a conversation with some friends.

Partner: they all asked what projects I'll do when I go on parental leave...

Me: ... ah yes, hunting, fishing, beekeeping, writing a book, like our finance minister said he would?

Partner: wait a minute. YOU wrote a book while on parental leave*! Technically, that makes you the Lindner** in our family!

Me: oh no 🫣😅

*I was working part-time and did it in my work hours, of course I did 50 % care work

**said minister of finance

quidcumque,
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@Firyar willst du gerne mit CL verglichen werden??! Fies ey!

esther, to random

If you go to a Nazi bar but like … ironically, you’re still going to a Nazi bar.

quidcumque,
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@esther also important to notice who CAN do that without endangering themself.

quidcumque, to random
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So. Any book recommendations? I like Science Fiction in English and German and I'll do a random thoughts and quotes thread as usual...

quidcumque,
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@Firyar thank you! Sounds like an awesome list 🙂

skye, to random German

why is it that when trans women post their“before” pictures all i think is, like. “yes that’s exactly the type of guy i’d be into”

but somehow i don’t really seem to have made the connection yet that this just means that i’m into women?

quidcumque,
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@skye there's a real need for cool queer straight people, someone's gotta fill that slot!

skye, to random German

i'm being extra fun today and using the arch install system to, uh, install gentoo. because i am too lazy to put something else on the stick and i will need it to install actual arch later this week

quidcumque,
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@skye Gods, yes.

skye, to random German

it is absolutely wild to me that redhat and suse still exist. in the 19 years since i switched to linux, i don’t think i’ve ever met a single person who uses either of them

quidcumque,
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@skye I knew a Suse user when I was in...
ninth grade or so?

weirdadmiral, to random German
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Manchmal frage ich mich wirklich, warum ich so blöd bzw. träge bin. Wurde dringend Zeit, dass ich meine Bank wechsele. Heute endlich den ersten Schritt in eine bessere (und gleichzeitig viel günstigere) Zukunft gemacht. Leute, schaut euch regelmäßig an, was eure Hausbank für Gebühren nimmt! Da gibts echt gewaltiges Einsparpotential - auch ohne zu windigen Banken im Ausland zu wechseln!

quidcumque,
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@Firyar @weirdadmiral relationship goals 😍

esther, to random

Good morning! It’s Thursday, that means a new Strange New Worlds episode. 😊

quidcumque,
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@esther hah, this gives me instant flashbacks to my youth, when my friend would greet me enthusiastically with "today's Friday! New 'Voyager' episode!!!" when we met at school ☺️

esther, (edited ) to random

If you had the time, ability and resources and got really into woodworking, would you build a …

quidcumque,
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@esther voted "trebuchet" not because I don't think one could put a guillotine to good use but because I've got small kids at home and think it would be slightly safer...

(Also, it's plain cool)

skye, to random German

wow hab gerade meine notiz von heute nacht gefunden und mich an den traum erinnert, in dem "Abfisch" aus irgendeinem grund dasselbe bedeutete wie "Abfall" oder "Abwasser". es war offenbar wichtig genug, um mir beim aufwachen den begriff zu notieren

quidcumque,
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@skye klingt für mich wie ein guter Ersatz für "Abfuck" TBH

riley, to random

You know where turtle graphics makes sense?

Drawing nontrivial PCB edges!

quidcumque,
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@riley at least that's easy to fix with the good ol' matrix theory...

skye, to random German

it is a little jarring to realise that the white cis guy nerds feel so much closer to the white cis guy normies than the queer nerdy people

privilege is always going to be the stronger connection if you dont actively seek to break it down

quidcumque,
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@skye it was SO disappointing trying to get into these circles. There I was, all "hey, you're my people, I'm so glad I found you" and the reaction was mostly "what are YOU doing here?"

Trying to fit in hurt, not belonging also hurt. I'm happy I've since found other nerdy and geeky people!

quidcumque, to random German
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Visiting partner's relatives over the weekend. I'm not up to this level of socializing, I fear...

quidcumque,
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So far, it's going fine. They have a large vegetable garden, which the kids like a lot (they could harvest a cucumber!), and everyone is nice.

Still, it's being social...

quidcumque,
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Deliver me from 40-year-olds complaining about kids these days having no respect. Or worse, people in their mid-thirties complaining about kids these days having no discipline.

quidcumque,
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@Firyar that's true. At this point in my life I have the money, but replacing things that work perfectly fine with matching sets still feels like frivolous luxury.

Regarding time, I think decorating is also a relaxing hobby for some people, something they like to do in their free time?

quidcumque,
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I'm just always amazed when people have these beautiful, stylish homes, because I have no idea where they find the time. I'd love to live this way, but it's never going to happen.

(Still visiting. But today I'm mostly doing kids duty and let the others socialize)

quidcumque,
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@Firyar It's not just that they are clean and uncluttered, but also that everything fits together in one style. I never manage that...

1oury1, to random German

Ehrlich, ich wünsche mir, dass Menschen direkt von entsprechenden Genitalkonfigurationen und oder anatomischen Voraussetzungen sprechen, wenn es um Sex oder medizinische Dinge geht, anstatt von "Männern" und "Frauen" zu sprechen!

Also ich meine, z. B. statt zu sagen "Bei Männern gibt es das Risiko auf Prostatakrebs" zu sagen "Bei Menschen, die eine Prostata haben, gibt es dort ein Krebsrisiko" o. ä.

quidcumque,
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@skye @1oury1 ich ärgere mich auch oft übers misgendert werden, aber das ist ein guter Punkt: gerade mit Hinweisen zu sinnvoller Vorsorge will man auch die erreichen, die nicht wissen, was cis, ein Uterus, oder eine Prostata ist. Und das sind halt derzeit leider einige.

Mir wäre da eine Fußnote schon ausreichend: "Vorsorge Prostata-Krebs: sinnvoll für Männer* ab...
Jahren, *außerdem für..., und..., nicht für..."

Die planlosen lesen die Fußnote eh nicht. Mit der Zeit lernen die es aber auch.

riley, to random

So, in today's strange progesteroney dream, I was supposed to catch a plane from Stanstead to Tel Aviv for some unclear reason, and when I had gotten into the taxi to get to the airport, the taxi driver broke into an ad of "This taxi is sponsored by Down Goer Five, a simple 18-month course accessible to everybody who wants to build their own submarines". The taxi driver asked me to like and subscribe, but also wanted to be paid.

quidcumque,
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@riley Down goer five 😍

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