I’m on kbin too. If you’re ever wondering where someone is commenting from, you can tap their username and their profile will show the instance name. If you’re ever wondering what platform the comments are hosted on, the sidebar (where it says magazine) is the easiest way to see that. I pay attention to that because I know some instances have different moderation rules - for example, Beehaw (which uses Lemmy) is a community that tries to create a safe and productive discussion environment, so I try to be mindful of my actions there to help make sure I’m not interfering when I visit. :) I like to think of it like traveling from my home country to other countries. Norms and customs might different, but we all have some commonalities in how we’re built and communicate at the end of the day.
Lemmy and kbin are just different types of software for communicating, kind of like how you can use an Outlook account or a Gmail account for email. They use the same protocols, but have different interfaces and features. Personally, I like kbin. But either is just fine. Technically, you could even use Mastodon to read this, though that would kind of be like using a terminal for email. It’s possible (I’m sure), it’s just not fine tuned for this type of content or use case.
You’ll get the hang of it quickly. Welcome, be nice, and have fun!
Deleted my account of 11 years just now as well after verifying PowerDeleteSuite didn’t miss anything the past few days. I thought this would be my hardest non-federated social media account to delete, since it was the last one standing and the one I used most. After what I’ve seen this month, it’s an easy delete. My time there is done.
Fuck /u/spez, and more importantly, welcome to everyone coming in today. It’s been amazing watching the growth of kbin, and I’m super thankful for the developers who have kept me connected to my communities - first Christian, now Ernest. I’ve never been in on the ground floor of anything and this has been absolutely wild.
Kinda mad I didn’t grab a short handle while I could, but I wasn’t thinking and just used the same as I had on Reddit. sigh
I wrote a short goodbye post on Reddit as we enter the last hours of Apollo. Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for the support over the years, it’s truly been the journey and dream of a lifetime building this app and meeting so many people. 🥰💙...
@christianselig Thank you for an amazing answer to the Reddit app from a former AlienBlue user. It was difficult to lose AlienBlue and the sting is familiar with Apollo. I used your app near exclusively on an iPad and adored it, so I can’t imagine what you must have had cooked up behind the scenes. I’m excited to follow your next chapter from my new home on kbin. :)
most of the time you'll be talking to a bot there without even realizing. they're gonna feed you products and ads interwoven into conversations, and the AI can be controlled so its output reflects corporate interests. advertisers are gonna be able to buy access and run campaigns. based on their input, the AI can generate...
I was wondering about this myself. If a bot presents a good argument that promotes discussion, is the presence of a bot automatically bad?
I don’t love that right now, the focus is on eliminating or silencing the voice of bots, because as you point out, they’re going to be indistinguishable from human voices soon - if they aren’t already. In the education space, we’re already dealing with plagiarism platforms incorrectly claiming real student work is written by ChatGPT. Reading a viewpoint you disagree with and immediately jumping to “bot!” only serves to create echo chambers.
I think it’s better and safer long term to educate people to think critically, assume good intent, know their boundaries online (ie, don’t argue when you can’t be coherent about it and have to devolve to name calling, etc), and focus on the content and argument of the post, not who created it - unless it’s very clear from a look at their profile that they’re arguing in bad faith or astroturfing. A shitty argument won’t hold up to scrutiny, and you don’t have the risk of silencing good conversation from a human with an opposing viewpoint. Common agreement on community rules such as “no hate speech” or limiting self-promotion/review/ads to certain spaces and times is still the best and safest way to combat this, and from there it’s a matter of mods enforcing the boundaries on content, not who they think you are.
Raised Catholic, not my jam. But as I understand it, if you go to confession without being truly sorry and having a sincere intent not to sin again, it doesn’t work. So if you’re going in with the attitude that confession is basically insurance against hell and you can just use it to get everything fixed up at the end of your life, but you’re also knowingly neglecting your soul and have the intention deep inside to be a jerk and keep sinning, God’s gonna be like “sorry, we don’t cover that” and deny your claim.
I actually really appreciate this as a kbin user, especially with regards to Beehaw because I know their goal is to specifically promote a friendly, safe community. It’s like visiting another country - I don’t get mad at newspapers with headlines directed at Brits if I’m a visiting American. With how easy it is to “travel” to another community with different rules, these types of cues help me be a better and more respectful visitor when I’m interacting in that space.
I think it would actually be beneficial to have some sort of sign or pop up reminder that you can mark “don’t show again” that helps explain this and shows the instance’s basic rules when you join a discussion from another instance. I saw a debate in Beehaw get kind of ugly earlier, and I was really surprised by it because I know how hard the folks at that instance work to keep the space kind and welcoming. Took a look at the usernames, and it turns out it was two kbin.social users name calling and arguing with each other in a Beehaw space without thinking. Totally rude, but I can see how you might not know that if you’re a new user and you’re just walking in with the expectation that all instances have the same norms, and it’s not even necessarily easy or clear at a glance what community a link in your feed came from unless you’re thinking to look for it.
Whoa - I’ve been reading this discussion and I went to look at what community it federated from, and I was really surprised to find it was Beehaw. I think this discussion has gotten very heated on both sides (which I understand, I’m vegan myself), but name calling doesn’t move the conversation forward. I notice you’re coming from kbin.social too - this is just a gentle reminder from a fellow kbin visitor to keep Beehaw’s community guidelines in mind as you’re visiting, and participate in debate with respect. I love the content and community here, and I would hate for our instance to be defederated from Beehaw because we’re not practicing awareness of the community we’re participating in and their guidelines.
Whoa - I’ve been reading this discussion and I went to look at what community it federated from, and I was really surprised to find it was Beehaw. I’m sorry you are encountering this here, but I notice that it’s largely not Beehaw users who are continuing interactions that do not meaningfully engage in this conversation. I think this discussion has gotten very heated on both sides (which I understand, I’m vegan myself). I notice you’re coming from kbin.social too - this is just a gentle reminder from a fellow kbin visitor to keep Beehaw’s community guidelines in mind as you’re visiting, and participate in debate with respect. Although you make awesome points, they aren’t being heard right now, except by folks in Beehaw, since they have community guidelines that promote this type of discussion in a respectful manner. It may be better to call this off and restart the conversation in our instance, or choose to respond only to folks who are practicing respectful debate.
Please don’t take the downvotes seriously, especially in Beehaw. Beehaw has downvotes disabled, so what we’re effectively having here is a kbin conversation following kbin rules in Beehaw. If you want to engage with folks who are downvoting you, I think it’s best to do that in our instance or elsewhere to be respectful of Beehaw’s guidelines.
I love the content and community here, and I would hate for our instance to be defederated from Beehaw because we’re not practicing awareness of the community we’re participating in.
On one hand (heh) there's apparently evidence to suggest that handwriting activates parts of the brain which aren't typically activated by just typing something out. I can see how that would be the case and why it could sometimes be useful....
I do handwritten notes for anything fast paced where I also have to respond in real time, because handwriting is a less mentally demanding task for me to explain or capture a concept than typing. I can star, I can draw, I can make up any word I want without squiggly lines, lists are instantaneous. I do design work, and noting a design change through typing is a nightmare when I can just squiggle the layout and put an arrow, cross out, annotate, whatever. I also find I remember handwritten notes better. The notes are a incoherent, illegible, squiggly mess, and I usually know exactly what they mean at a glance.
I actually have a reMarkable and love it. I don’t really use the notes to text or cloud functionality often, but the few times I have, it’s been really helpful. I like it better than a notebook because I don’t feel like I’m wasting paper, so I take notes a bit more freely as a result. It’s also helpful in situations where it’s impractical for me to use a keyboard. For example, I teach, and when I’m grading a presentation or explaining a concept to a student who already has their own laptop in front of them, I don’t want to muck with trying to make sure they can see my screen and it’s the proper size when it’s faster for me to sketch out the concept.
I’m also trying to learn Japanese, and having a way to freely practice writing as many times as I need to without having to print over and over again is really useful.
That said, I can’t think of a reason I would ever write anything with actual grammar or sentence structure involved longform. If it’s just me and the computer, no other interruptions and I can focus on my inner voice, typing is much faster and more natural. I’m able to type closer to the speed I can think than I can write, but that’s because I’m used to typing like I think - in full sentences. Trying to type shorthand is like sludge for me the same way trying to write longhand is like sludge. I use both because they serve different purposes for me :)
Basically for most of my adult life I've struggled to have a life that I truly wanted. Not comparing myself to anyone else, but going from job that let me go to job that let me go. Not making ends meet. I never felt "normal." I always felt like an anomaly....
MSG. My favorite use for it is in soups. It only takes a small amount and it makes a significant difference.
Slow cookers are awesome for preparing dry beans, infused oil, and roasting beets in aluminum foil.
Know your emulsifiers and keep them handy. I always have a nice mustard as well as soy lecithin on hand, and if I’m ever worried about an emulsion breaking or I want a nice even sauce or dressing, I have at least one neutral and one savory option. Soymilk also works if it works for your recipe.
The arbitrary 8.5-9 hour workday drives me nuts, because a lot of the time, I really only have 3 or 4 hours worth of work to do. I generally work quickly and I value my time. Can I make a decent living doing something that gives me this kind of flexibility?
Very possible in tech. You want to look for somewhere product-focused (no agencies), large, and well-established that will give you a WFH position. I do design work and have this type of schedule, though I am always very responsive and available between 9-5 if someone needs something from me so I’m not holding anyone up and making anyone annoyed. I keep up with my deliverables comfortably and have flexibility to have both really productive and really meh days without it being problematic.
I've been wanting to check out Mastodon and a good app helps me be more engaged. My issue is that there are lots of interesting apps so I don't which one to pick! Which one do you like and why?...
Toot! for iOS. It lets you add servers you don’t have an account on, and then you can interact easily on that server with any server’s account you’re logged into. I have 2-3 accounts based on different things I’m interested in so my followers don’t get a complete mishmash from me if they don’t want to, and this setup makes it so easy for me to interact and browse as if it’s all the same account.
I used to be an avid reader, but years of high school and depression completely ruined that. I haven’t been able to complete a novel since senior year six years ago. It’s frustrating to me and I want to know how I can overcome my lack of focus and anxiety. I’ve heard I’m not alone when it comes to this sort of thing at...
Honestly, I thought it was a focus problem for me, but what it turned out to be is that now that I’m older, I can’t tolerate shitty books, and it turns out there is a lot of junk material out there. When I get the right book, I read it no problem and turn pages just like I used to. If it’s not a good book, I’ll abandon it pretty quickly. And with eBooks, that’s a whole different level of stuff to pick from than I ever had as a kid. My reading material at that time always had some sense of curation to it - a librarian or my parents had to think it was a good enough book to buy. Now, we’re our own librarians. I think that’s why it feels so much more difficult to pick something up, and it only multiplies as we become adults and other things are vying for the time it takes to find a book.
I find I read best when I’m on vacation, camping, or when I’ve set aside time and a quiet place to do so. I like to make tea so I feel extra cozy, and it helps get me in the right mindset. To work through the challenge of finding a book, you could go to a physical library - everything is free, it’s a smaller selection, you don’t have to charge any batteries or anything - or if you’re lazy like me, see if your library offers eBooks through something like Libby. I use a combination of Libby and Goodreads to find new books.
And if after a chapter or two, you can’t get into it? Turn it back in and try again. It’s okay to put a book back. Not all books are good and there’s no reason to force yourself through something that isn’t clicking for you.
Just saw this and thought it was a really cool idea for a game. You basically make your own oracle deck as part of the game, but the deal is that whatever you draw comes true and your friends’ future. I wonder what the customization aspects look like and how they plan to keep conflict going in the game with this approach? It...
Rainbow punk is probably the best way I can think of to describe it. If it’s candy colored, glittery, or black (because black helps colors pop) I’m all over it. I recently got a pair of magnetic glasses covers that is printed to look like a slice of watermelon, and it’s my favorite because I have pink hair at the moment and between that and the deep green lipstick I have I can get an awesome watermelon look going. I’m a big fan of mixing patterns and textures as well. I love figuring out how to get a good alt look going that makes people smile. 😁
Ahhhh I have a flannel I live in when I teach, they’re so comfy and cute! (I teach design/web dev classes at a university in the evening). I’ve never heard of a football kit before but I think I got the idea from a quick search. I’m not on Matrix at the moment, I’m usually more a forum person because of my schedule 😁
The admin of sh.itjust.works has been approached but as of yet has failed to reply to concerned Lemmy users. I’m glad Beehaw admins look out for us by cutting off instances that host communities like this.
Defederation opinions aside, free speech should be protected from a legal standpoint, and the ACLU is all about that. I’m glad you pointed this out, sorry about the downvotes - free speech is an important legal right.
To add my perspective - in terms of defederation, I’d say that is an example of a healthy boundary, which needs to be respected as well. If folks collectively want to create a personal boundary that they don’t want to discuss antivax theory in their space, that’s also cool. We set up boundaries like this all the time as communities - churches are a good example. Sure, you can legally swear in church, but the community set a boundary that they don’t want that there, and they might punt you out of the community if you disrespect it. One of the nice things about the Fediverse is that free speech is “legal”, as is you can use the software freely for whatever you want to say or discuss because of the open source license, but there are also tools like defederation to create reasonable boundaries among communities.
I hope more folks start to think of it this way as federation catches on and that this concept helps make room for nuance in discussion again. Healthy boundaries that keep you psychologically safe are good and necessary. In real life, we wouldn’t think it’s good or healthy to let someone constantly badger or berate us or talk about things we don’t want to discuss anymore. We’d say “end the conversation and walk away”. I think it’s okay to bring those boundaries to the internet too.
I always hear that you want to be in a good space and place before doing a tarot reading - so let’s hear what your favorite way to get into that space is!...
Hello and welcome! The main goal of m/tarot is to create a space for people to discuss tarot, oracle decks, and related topics. Casual conversation related to these topics is encouraged!...
Welcome Suedeltica! I love reading about other’s approaches and philosophies too. The different perspectives really help me out. :D I don’t identify with any particular religion, but I do like some of the nature-focused perspectives of Wicca, so I’m thinking of learning a bit more just to be more familiar with the ideas. I noped out of Catholicism pretty hard as a preteen - it just wasn’t for me, no judgement if it’s your jam - but the unfortunate effect of that was I closed myself off to learning about any religions as a result. I might see if one of the universities has an intro to religion class in their offerings.
Welp, I just deleted my 12 year old, 240k+ karma Reddit account
I was sort of holding on to hope, that something would change. Unfortunately, nothing did and so, here I am....
Fuck Reddit u̶p̶v̶o̶t̶e̶ boost party!
The apps have all gone offline, welcome aboard to all the other refugees, fuck /u/spez!
Christian Selig’s Goodbye to Apollo (mastodon.social)
I wrote a short goodbye post on Reddit as we enter the last hours of Apollo. Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for the support over the years, it’s truly been the journey and dream of a lifetime building this app and meeting so many people. 🥰💙...
Hot take: 18 years of user contributions to reddit will serve as a base model for an AI that generates content and conversations. the reddit experience continues as a simulation, to harvest clicks, sales and ad revenue.
most of the time you'll be talking to a bot there without even realizing. they're gonna feed you products and ads interwoven into conversations, and the AI can be controlled so its output reflects corporate interests. advertisers are gonna be able to buy access and run campaigns. based on their input, the AI can generate...
ELI5: If you're a Christian, why do you have to be good if Jesus will forgive you no matter what?
I grew up going to church but I'm not religious now and I never really understood this part....
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Twitter's new TikTok copycat is filled with animal cruelty videos. Elon calls content "Edgy" (www.nbcnews.com)
How do y'all feel about writing things by hand?
On one hand (heh) there's apparently evidence to suggest that handwriting activates parts of the brain which aren't typically activated by just typing something out. I can see how that would be the case and why it could sometimes be useful....
How am I supposed to make sense of my life getting BETTER during the pandemic? Anyone else have that experience?
Basically for most of my adult life I've struggled to have a life that I truly wanted. Not comparing myself to anyone else, but going from job that let me go to job that let me go. Not making ends meet. I never felt "normal." I always felt like an anomaly....
Why has Mastodon adoption stalled? (blog.bloonface.com)
Pretty interesting opinion piece on some of the UX hurdles open source and federated software faces.
What are the best cooking hacks you've learned over the years?
What are the best practices you've learned to save time or make a meal better.
Are there any good jobs out there where you can show up, do your work, and then just leave when it's done?
The arbitrary 8.5-9 hour workday drives me nuts, because a lot of the time, I really only have 3 or 4 hours worth of work to do. I generally work quickly and I value my time. Can I make a decent living doing something that gives me this kind of flexibility?
What app do you use for Mastodon?
I've been wanting to check out Mastodon and a good app helps me be more engaged. My issue is that there are lots of interesting apps so I don't which one to pick! Which one do you like and why?...
Need help learning how to read books again
I used to be an avid reader, but years of high school and depression completely ruined that. I haven’t been able to complete a novel since senior year six years ago. It’s frustrating to me and I want to know how I can overcome my lack of focus and anxiety. I’ve heard I’m not alone when it comes to this sort of thing at...
The Cosmic Wheel Sisterhood lets you design your own tarot deck and seal your friend's fates (www.pcgamer.com)
Just saw this and thought it was a really cool idea for a game. You basically make your own oracle deck as part of the game, but the deal is that whatever you draw comes true and your friends’ future. I wonder what the customization aspects look like and how they plan to keep conflict going in the game with this approach? It...
L.A. is due for a transformation. This three-card tarot reading will reveal what kind (www.latimes.com)
What is emerging? Where are we headed? What is in the future? Listen to artist Edgar Fabián Frías and what will be will be.
How tarot can be used to understand ourselves: An interview with social worker Jessica Dore (www.latimes.com)
Jessica Dore, a licensed social worker and author, discusses blending psychology and spirituality through tarot.
It would be cool to have Lemmy pen pals. Asklemmy, what are your hobbies and what's your life like?
I posted something similar before, but it did not gain too much traction, possibly due to time zones....
Defederating was the right call. The_Donald is being hosted on sh.itjust.works. (i.imgur.com)
The admin of sh.itjust.works has been approached but as of yet has failed to reply to concerned Lemmy users. I’m glad Beehaw admins look out for us by cutting off instances that host communities like this.
OC What’s your favorite way to get ready to do a tarot reading?
I always hear that you want to be in a good space and place before doing a tarot reading - so let’s hear what your favorite way to get into that space is!...
OC m/tarot Welcome thread
Hello and welcome! The main goal of m/tarot is to create a space for people to discuss tarot, oracle decks, and related topics. Casual conversation related to these topics is encouraged!...