So, reading the comments from my other post actually brings up some questions for me, I think we've all met people who seem to overestimate their abilities and equally we have met people who seem to underestimate their abilities. What is the difference? Is it misplaced confidence, narcissism, low self esteem? Do we need people who will just make decisions when necessary or is consensus always the path? Is Dunning-Kruger real?
I think in this post Trump Presidency era we all have questions about this, but honestly, that even started in the Bush era, are these men actually "dumb" or is this much more sinister?
@RickiTarr I think in a good chunk of cases, “dumb” is not technically the right word. What they are doing is dumb, they are simply a chameleon, adopting whatever belief they need to blend in. This is the group that includes people who mocked Trump before 2016, and then bended knee the second they had to. Dumb in the sense the they really have no thoughts of their own.
Okay, picking up from my video game post yesterday, I'm curious:
When you play video games, rpgs, ect, where you get to choose your character, do you tend to choose a character of the same sex, the opposite sex, non-binary, anthropomorphic, or a mysterious 4th option?
If you want to share screenshots of character builds I would enjoy that!
@RickiTarr oh oh oh, this is one of those things I have over analyzed to see if I could gain any small bits insights about myself. Screenshots are at home, so you will have to be patient.
While I play without sound more often than not, voice has a larger impact on my choice. This primarily affects masculine characters as I project myself onto in at least a small amount. I gravitate towards a deeper voice in masculine characters. Non-masculine characters I am less picky about.
@aetataureate as I see you like orange cat boys. Here are a few of my orange boys both past and present. Orange cat boys are very important to me, even though I no longer live with one, and I talk about them often
My Cousin Sarah and I got to stay at our Great Grandma's house together, and it was raining, and she told us we didn't have to be cooped up, we could go play in the rain. This was very exciting, because it's not something our parents would have gone for. So we twirled around and leapt in puddles and licked raindrops off rose petals. When we were done our Gran put us in a hot bath, and made us hot tea and treats. She brought out a big bag of costume jewelry and let us go through it, we tried everything on, and thought we were very fancy, and she let us keep our favorite ones.
@RickiTarr back in the mid 90s when my family had outside garbage without wheels, there was a very memorable rainy day. Now, it is important to note while it snows a ton, it doesn't rain much. So no one realized that when empty, those garbage cans float. So, when it started raining enough to overflow the curb water drainage, all the garbage cans left out for garbage day started floating away. As we lived at the bottom of several hills, there were a lot of wandering cans that day
@RickiTarr I need to ask my dad for more details as he was likely one of the few able bodied adults that didn't have to work that day. While he would laugh about it now, i remember him scrabbling to rescue them.
Weather is fun in my home town. There is a canyon wind in the fall some years. Wind was as strong as a hurricane. Destructive, but not as much. Always knocked out power. Being wandering children with access to an open playground and small enough to struggle waking in it
I find it extremely hard to ask for accommodations (much harder than even asking first help). Like, I don’t want to be perceived as arrogant and entitled, I don’t want to bother other people, I think other people don’t owe me anything, so I kinda don’t feel like I have a right to ask. Like, it’s my problem, I shouldn’t turn it into theirs.
I wonder how other #neurodivergent folks feel about that. Do you think it’s something we’ve been taught? @actuallyautistic#ADHD#AuDHD
I have this issue. It is such annoying thing. Back when I started oxygen I started it partially by choice after a passing comment from my old pulmonary doc. I had been hoping for a long time at that point that someone would finally offer the option to me because I couldn't ask for it myself. I had to essentially ask my mom to give my brain permission to ask my doc before I could.
@olena@actuallyautistic part of it seems to be a belief that if I can technically do something, then I don't have the right to ask for help. A big one for me is handicap parking. I more than qualify for a permanent handicap plate if I wanted one. I had one before I moved to Virginia. But it to me so long to ask for it then and I haven't replaced it in nearly 3 years. Why? Because technically I can get into places from other parking, it is just extremely exhausting
@olena@actuallyautistic I can't even convince myself to ask my sisters family for help on a lot of things because they already help me with so much and I feel bad that I can't help them as much in return. This is despite me knowing full well that my nephews love helping me, my BIL is happy to help me, and my sister keeps watch over me to help me when I need it.
@RickiTarr I think Dazzle the Tuxey Ladies expressions provide an accurate representation of my when I read that. The wide eyes Penguin the Crazy Black Cat are a representation of my brain screaming into a void trying to comprehend what it would take for me to say something so absurd.
I'm thinking about Willpower today! Humans seem to have decent short term willpower, but not particularly good long term willpower, for things they really want. Willpower doesn't seem to be an infinite resource, and is effected by stress, fatigue, and environment.
So what are your thoughts on Willpower? Have you given up something long term that you really loved? What is the hardest thing for you to limit in your life? What is the thing you always seem to cave for?
Just an FYI, this isn't a platform to shame people for bad habits, we all have something we struggle with, we all have different levels of stress, and grew up in different environments. Just for instance, I can smoke a cigar occasionally, enjoy it throughly, but never really crave nicotine, on the other hand, if you were going to tempt me with a loaf of homemade bread, some delicious BBQ, or a well made cocktail, my willpower is much more limited. Human brains and bodies are incredibly complex and no two people are the same.
@RickiTarr my entire social media existence is a tribute to how little willpower I have in regard to cats. I have had a reply window open to this post for a while now, but my ability to type of limited because my Penguin wanted to be pet by my keyboard and I won’t move her.
My entire bath schedule revolves around my Dazzle as she really really loves to play before my bath time for some reason.
@RickiTarr in a more serious note, having the willpower not to eat pizza all day every day is something i am working on. It is one of the few things that doesn't cause sensory issues that I also like most of the time. Stomach is also a bottomless pit that can eat a full pizza without even thinking. Most of my attempts to limit failed, usually because I can circumvent my own rules.
I have found a solution that works for me and will be in the next msg
@RickiTarr what is working for me it to turn it into an obsessive project. I recently got into carbon steel cookware and have been trying random things with it. When I get obsessed to the level that it becomes a project, I am about to look at it at a more careful pace. I approach pizza now with the same level of care that I unnecessarily give to my carbon steel. Pizza is now a minimum 2 to 3 hour process instead of 15 minutes. I slowly shifted my brain to believe that is pizza time.
Have you ever been so in your own head that when you start talking about what you've been thinking about, it doesn't make sense to other people, because they haven't been down your mental rabbit hole for hours?
@RickiTarr that is literally the story of my life. Actually, probably the story of a good chunk of my family. It is actually one of those things that i didn't know about until later in my life because it is a normal occurrence in my home.
@RickiTarr my cat allergy. In an unsurprising, but still made me laugh out loud in the middle of my old allergists office, my worst allergy is cat related. That my face is inches away from a long haired black cat right now means that even though I have been on oxygen therapy for nearly a decade, the cats aren't going anywhere. Sadly, covid put a stop to allergy shots, and I haven't been able to restart after moving
Curious, @hacks4pancakes, do you have a preferred style of pancake? I am making a list of possible pancakes styles to make it I really do end up live streaming myself telling cat stories while making pancakes some day. No promises that I will actually eat any suggested recipe, but I have some willing test subjects who have fewer or different food sensory issues avaliable to eat them if needed
@hacks4pancakes ah you just must the annual snow hours here. Probably for the best. I don't recommend wandering around the DC metro area in snow. They don't know how to handle it
@RickiTarr I bought a rain poncho this week, and it was hilarious trying to pick one. Felt like a choice between burning crosses, spectre/ghost of Christmas future, or Nazgul who burns crosses. I mean, looking fashionable in a rain poncho is not technically my goal, what with a history of looking like a burned marshmallow the last time. But, I do filter out some things
@RickiTarr I read recently that it might just be the hair styles, and I bet a bit on how it is hard to see fine details on the face. There is also simply a thinner face that was more prominent. I imported pictures of my Dad who had gained weight in the last 20 years, and his face looks quite different. My mom actually looks generally the same age, minus graying. She also hasn't chained her hair style in my entire life
@DocCarms my cats absolutely love to destroy gift related paper. Paper in general, but they will play with gift paper in their own. The noise when you drag string across it is one of their favorite things. I don't have as much of it around as Dazzle eats it and Penguin only likes it sometimes, but I used to have a large supply. My most missed Archimedes, pictured below, could never resist a fight with it no matter how serious he pretended to be
