With the lastest news of AI layoffs, I’m struggling to understand how the idea of a career still holds. If careers themselves effectively become gambles like lottery tickets, how do we maintain drive and hopes in the longterm endgame of our struggles?...
OK so Putin met with Kim Jung Un last year. He met with Xi Jinping yesterday. The article is about someone spying for Hong Kong which is in China. I must be missing something, the article didn’t mention Hong Kong?
They have their own paid service now (dropout.tv). It’s about $5 a month. They have a great DnD live play show called Dimension20 if that’s you’re thing. They have some other shows too like Game Changer, play it by ear (like whose line), no laugh newsroom, dirty laundry (people try to guess each other’s secrets), um, actually (a show where contestants make pedantic corrections about nerd stuff), and a couple others.
They have some scripted stuff but a lot of their shows rely, in full or in part, on improv. So if improvs not your thing then dropouts probably not for you.
My partner and I just had a talk about it. Basically, she celebrated her birthday today. I was on her party, and it was fun, but I left after around 2 hours to get home and relax a bit. After I arrived, a friend of mine texted me and asked me if I wanted to go to a lake and see the sunset. I agreed, we went to the lake and went...
So I accidentally stumbled in here and I’m making some broad and very possibly weong assumptions that most everyone else in this story is allistic. If that isn’t true you can probably ignore this, my bad.
That said OP if your GF is allistic, and especially if this is a newer relationship, you may need to tell her that she needs to clarify her expectations explicitly with you in this area. If she is allistic there is no chance she’ll have thought she had to ask you “please don’t abandon me on my birthday to go on a classic date with someone other than me.” To an allistic bystander this whole story reads like you care more about this friend than your girlfriend who you dont seem to really like all that much. (Not saying it’s true just that that is gonna be the social impression given off). Also, if you didn’t do something romantic still leaving your partners party to go hang out with a friend will still largely be interpreted as prioritizing that friend over your girlfriend. I’m not sure if that’s what you were trying to do but that’s what allistic people who hear this story will assume. So if she was OK with you leaving the party to hang out with this friend nonromantically (which seems unlikely) you may want to include “my GF told me she was fine with me leaving her party” when telling this story. Otherwise I think you focusing in on just the romance part may be missing the point, the romance part just made it worse but wasn’t the whole problem.
Also as a side note: if the friend who asked is of a gender you are interested in and knew it was your girlfriends birthday when extending this invite (and is allistic) then your friend was knowingly being an asshole to your girlfriend. Possibly also trying to sabotage your relationship. Just a heads up.
So this is actually really important context OP. If you’ve “overstepped” with this friend before then your GF may already feel a bit cheated on. For you to leave her birthday to specifically meet this particular friend given your background info? That’s a pretty devastating blow to the trust in your relationship.
There is no socially acceptable way to tell your GF “I needed a break from you , on your birthday, so I went to hang out with a woman actively trying to get me to cheat on you with her.” Because it definitely sounds like thats what this friend was trying to do, if she’s allistic there is no world in which she wasn’t trying to take you on a date. (I understand meeting your friend wasn’t preplanned, that matters very little here.)
Honestly OP I know you said in another comment that it hurt you that your GFs friends told her to break up with you but I’m seriously surprised she didn’t. This is gonna sound mean but I really just want to be as clear as possible, so I appologize for how blunt and rude Im gonna be in this next part. I just want to make sure you understand whats likely happening in you GFs social circle. Full disclosure, if I had the information from these comments and was your GFs friend I would be telling her, “He cheated on you on your birthday, and he’ll do it again. You need to break up with him. He doesnt care about you. Hes more into his friend.” And I’d be repeating it to her every single time you saw this particular friend. It’s wild to me that you’re not single right now. I don’t know of a single allistic person who would read this story, with the added context, and not assume youre at least trying to cheat on your girlfriend. If you want this to have a chance with your GF given her history of being cheated on then you may need to put this friendship on the backburner.
On the flip side, it does sound like you might care more about this friend than your girlfriend. Given the sexual orientations that you’ve outlined elsewhere have you considered dating this friend instead of your GF? All three of you might be happier? Just food for thought.
I’ll leave you with this OP, you need to have a discussion with your GF about where the line is for both of you with how much you are prioritizing this particular friend especially given the background. Even more so since your GF has been cheated on before.
The fact that you are prioritizing your friend after already crossing the line with her multiple times, and failing to set even a single reasonable boundary, would be a massive red flag for me. Actions speak louder than words. Think about what actions your GF is seeing, that will matter more than you just telling her you “love” her. Your actions are also leading on your friend and indicating (to her and multiple people even in this thread) that you are open to a romantic relationship with her.
I’m a bit older and would have no patience for how much more care and consideration youre showing this friend than your GF consistently. Your girlfriend sounds like she’s far more forgiving of infidelity in a partner than I would be, so she may be OK with still being in a relationship with you while you continue to prioritize someone whose shown a great deal of disrespect for her and your relationship. How your relationship works with this friendship is something you two should probably discuss explicitly.
If OPs GF is really reading this: you deserve someone who will prioritize you over their affair partner.
Iranian President Ebrahim Raisi — often seen as a potential successor to Supreme Leader Ayatollah Ali Khamenei— is missing after his helicopter went down in the northwest of the country on Sunday, officials said....
I’ve had one that used baked beans in place of the pork. It was delicious. From the examples I’ve seen the cup started from food trucks where it was more convenient to had out a cup than a plate. Now restaurants are picking up the cup thing cause it’s a “trend”.
A lot of those systems suck, AI might have improved in the last few years since I got out of HR so maybe it’s not like that any more but they always crazy inaccurate. We use to see brick layers making it through the auto screens for finance roles when we just used the software. When the software makes that crazy of a mistake then HR can’t see people actually qualified for the roles their recruiting.
Honestly I wish there was a standard resume format. It would make it easier for the software and for the humans rather than everyone flexing their creativity on resume formatting.
The first Neuralink implant in a human malfunctioned after several threads recording neural activity retracted from the brain, the Elon Musk-owned startup revealed Wednesday....
Not the person you were responding too but I’d love to learn more about these toys/tech. Are there some key words that would help me search? I’m having some trouble sifting through the search results.
I feel like a lot of these parents are also doing the insidious thing of trying to justify that it isn’t “their genes” that are responsible. Like having Autism or something in your family is a dirty secret and “taints” their “family line”.
There’s a panel from the Animaniacs comic where Wakko states that his gender is “other”. It floats around the internet ever few years. The comic was, I believe, back in the 90s so I’m not sure I’d say “now”. They have always used the term “brother” and he/him pronouns for Wakko though.
I own a Vitamix, a Zojirushi rice cooker, and a Zojirushi Home Bakery Supreme. I also own the instant pot max, and an air fryer by Sur la table. Between these appliances they help me make 90% of my food at home. The food is relatively easy, especially once you get the hang of the recipes, and they taste incredible!...
Did you post in c/frugal telling people they should get a $300 bread maker just to make bread? Plus here’s 9 other things you can make with these 4 other appliances…
Because it’s a fanfic entirely written using the world that Rowling setup in her original series. You can’t just publish something that heavily based on already published works.
50 shades never actually makes reference to twilight. So while Stephanie Meyer could possibly sue it isn’t the same thing as directly using the exact characters and locations. Harry’s name is right in the title
Beer brewing was originally a field dominated by women.
The presitege associated with a position can also change the expected gender. Women traditionally cooked meals at home but “Chefs” are predominately male, especially famous or celebrated Chefs.
Among AARP survey findings: 61% of Americans 50 and up are worried they won’t have enough money for retirement. And only 21 percent of people have a retirement plan....
Honestly if your rent is only 1600 then your probably not in one of the super high COL places either which is wild. Well paid people in NY and San Francisco are going to have to die on the job while barely making their rent in 50 years. Everyone’s fucked if nothing changes.
The original magazine cover for this piece “A Man…A Woman…and 1968’s Most Terrifying Survival Siege” https://pulpcovers.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/38523666-MALE196807-600x783.jpg...
In our post-AI era, is job security strictly mythical? Or How to believe in careers as a concept worth doing?
With the lastest news of AI layoffs, I’m struggling to understand how the idea of a career still holds. If careers themselves effectively become gambles like lottery tickets, how do we maintain drive and hopes in the longterm endgame of our struggles?...
Ex-Royal Marine charged with spying for Hong Kong found dead in park (www.theguardian.com)
Matthew Trickett, 37, who was charged with surveillance of activists, was found on Sunday evening in Maidenhead park...
Gamechanger (file.coffee)
Life uh uh uh... finds a way. (lemmy.world)
I don’t even think there’s dirt in there. It’s an old birdbath with the top removed.
What are things considered romantic, to be avoided in a relationship?
My partner and I just had a talk about it. Basically, she celebrated her birthday today. I was on her party, and it was fun, but I left after around 2 hours to get home and relax a bit. After I arrived, a friend of mine texted me and asked me if I wanted to go to a lake and see the sunset. I agreed, we went to the lake and went...
Iranian President Raisi missing after helicopter goes down (www.politico.eu)
Iranian President Ebrahim Raisi — often seen as a potential successor to Supreme Leader Ayatollah Ali Khamenei— is missing after his helicopter went down in the northwest of the country on Sunday, officials said....
Parfait au pork (lemmy.today)
It do be like that (sh.itjust.works)
First human brain implant malfunctioned, Neuralink says (thehill.com)
The first Neuralink implant in a human malfunctioned after several threads recording neural activity retracted from the brain, the Elon Musk-owned startup revealed Wednesday....
I just can't even. (lemmy.world)
How can you push agendas if you don't have one? (lemmy.world)
5 home appliances that will change your life and allow you to cook tons of gourmet food extremely easily and at a low cost.
I own a Vitamix, a Zojirushi rice cooker, and a Zojirushi Home Bakery Supreme. I also own the instant pot max, and an air fryer by Sur la table. Between these appliances they help me make 90% of my food at home. The food is relatively easy, especially once you get the hang of the recipes, and they taste incredible!...
If you want a warrior main character, have them a squire or something! (lemmy.world)
'Real men wear diapers': Trump supporters wear nappies (news.sky.com)
c/unixsocks for more (lemmy.ml)
Users (lemmy.world)
Majority of Americans over 50 worry they won't have enough money for retirement: Study (www.usatoday.com)
Among AARP survey findings: 61% of Americans 50 and up are worried they won’t have enough money for retirement. And only 21 percent of people have a retirement plan....
Nine To Go - Mort Kunstler (1968) gouache on paper (images.saymedia-content.com)
The original magazine cover for this piece “A Man…A Woman…and 1968’s Most Terrifying Survival Siege” https://pulpcovers.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/38523666-MALE196807-600x783.jpg...
Catholic 'media ministry' defrocks AWOL AI priest after it told faithful you can baptise babies in Gatorade and that, sure, it can totally perform your wedding (www.pcgamer.com)