Say, "Hey [insert name]? Can I have your undivided attention for a sec?" Do not proceed until they are either looking at you or giving you sure signs that they're ready to listen.
I managed to touch the neighborhood stray cat this morning. “Smokey” (named by someone else) has been a stray living nearby for at least 5 years now that I know of. She will not let anyone close to her, but I’ve been working on that for the last while now. After countless bags of treats tuna and ham, I’m the only person she trusts enough to get close to and she even comes running when I call her. (Expecting treats of course.) She still takes offense to me trying to pet her, but we’re working on that. (I can’t home her as I have several cats already, but at least I can try and make her semi-comfy as she is getting old.)
I managed to germinate a couple peach seeds, and planted them today. I’ll probably end up killing them by over or under watering, but for now I consider the fact I got this far great success.
Those are huge wins, congratulations! I have spent many hours trying to make friends with random cats too, it's so good to have your patience and bribery finally pay off like that.
Thanks! I wasn't looking for it... I had previously tried at length unsuccessfully. But at least I now have ice and memory of another "oh I should keep these tiny loose screws and things secure" box.
I regularly miss whole scenes in movies and shows and have to go back and rewatch them, even though I was sitting there looking at the screen the entire time. Drives my partner nuts.
Talking over people and interrupting them. I try to be aware of it and just listen more and talk less, but it’s REALLY HARD. My train of thought just moves way faster than the conversation.
I’ve got a good memory, but talking with my partner he will often say “I told you this before” and it’s just completely gone over my head cause I’ve been slightly distracted. I’ll be listening but things don’t seem to register and it’s worse when I’m distracted by the fact that I am having to put so much effort into listening. Edit: typo
First, maybe Godot would be easier when knowing either C or Java, since, iirc, it can use either.
But on the matter of learning, I learn when I feel like it, and when I feel like learning, I jump head on. While I can't perfect any specific subjects that way, at least in a timely manner, random subjects can some times add up to other subjects I try or previously tried to learn (possibly how I learned to use Linux quickly despite being a big learning curve).
I normally stop if I can't concentrate. And do pretty much the same as Auster to learn stuff. Also I find it easier to learn if I do it without pressure.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Learn at your own pace. Being neurodivergent means taking detours.
I like this one. I tried to explain to my doctor (who was writing a letter for my workplace) that it takes me 3x as long to get ready in the morning (causing lateness) because it’s like trying to do a series of tasks while in a tornado.
How would you explain green to someone who has no concept of colour? The basic otherness of neurodiversity is simultaneously the defining characteristic, overarching difficulty, and blocker to understanding by neurotypicals. I very much like these ideas on how to make the effect of this affliction relatable to others.
You might also ask them to play this little game (takes 5 mins) about a little adhdinosaur who is really, really trying to do his best. However, as good as this game is, it may be too whimsical for its own good as people might not take it serious. Yes, the idea is to give the player a sense of frustration, but there's not really anything there to make them think deeply about why and how this affects people like us. But at least, the game page links to a "making of" presentation by the author, as well as other games and resources for/by neurodiverse folk.
I'm not diagnosed with any form of neurodivergence (I hesitate to say neurotypical. I just manage any "weirdness" well enough to get by).
I played the dinosaur game for a little while. With the exception of the "notes" suddenly becoming a huge mess, it just feels like "Gaslighting: The Game". I get the frustration, but I agree that it doesn't help me understand ADHD any better.
Gaslighting is actually pretty close in terms of what short term memory issues are like. Except you can never be sure if it's just ADHD brain, or something is actually different.
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