Instead of looking at yourself, for what you enjoy, perhaps look at a career that benefits from how you are wired. I would encourage you to look at the start up world, where learning new things on behalf of the team that you’re in is how you all win. Solving problems is super fun, and changes constantly. Good luck!
I felt like that a majority of my life. Now, I kinda accepted it. I have limits, but I use everything I have to make everything work, and by miracle it work
I always have trouble with sleep. I feel like I have a routine and BOOM a week later I’m staying up until 3 a.m. This drives me crazy. My ADHD ass can’t hold on to self-imposed routines for very long.
Edited to add: after reading (ok, skimming - It’s long!) the article, maybe I’ll have to try using my SAD therapy lamp year-round to get my sleep rhythms a bit more regulated.
I’ve got a good memory, but talking with my partner he will often say “I told you this before” and it’s just completely gone over my head cause I’ve been slightly distracted. I’ll be listening but things don’t seem to register and it’s worse when I’m distracted by the fact that I am having to put so much effort into listening. Edit: typo
Talking over people and interrupting them. I try to be aware of it and just listen more and talk less, but it’s REALLY HARD. My train of thought just moves way faster than the conversation.
I regularly miss whole scenes in movies and shows and have to go back and rewatch them, even though I was sitting there looking at the screen the entire time. Drives my partner nuts.
I got diagnosed at 36. Not super responsive to the meds, but I also can’t take a high dose. It did help my anxiety a lot though, both the meds and also knowing that I’m not just lazy.
I’m also finding it a bit overwhelming but liking the community here so far. I rarely commented on Reddit but feel inspired here to support the posts I see.
I’m testing the Memmy app (for iOS) and slowly adding new communities as I find them.
I’m fed up with Reddit and it’s kind of exciting to be part of something new.
Therapy was a great help in framing in my brain what I wanted to get out of a job. I then started looking at fields that are constantly changing and evolving as well as ones where there would be a fair amount of research and learning. Tech, medical, marketing, journalism, etc
Day to day style jobs didn’t work for me. Essentially doing the same thing everyday was like pulling teeth.
I landed in tech/marketing and my day to day tasks are so varied and the digital marketing field has so many options for what you can focus(or not) on that it keeps me changing, learning, and researching. With all that, at the end of the day I don’t love my job… but it pays for my hobbies.
I'm not sure if this is an answer as much as reassurance but I have the same issue as you. However, I'm luckily in a job I like. It's not because of the actual job. It's just a desk job where I fill out forms and maybe make some phone calls and do some money movement requests.
But I like it because of the people I work with. My boss treats me like a human. It's a small office (5 people including me and boss). My co-workers are nice. And it just has a good vibe. I never get stressed because we can always fix everything. That's the motto my boss has.
And before that, I worked at Walmart. Honestly. It was mixed. I really liked a few of my coworkers. We really got along and it really helped me enjoy going to work. But also I would have stress at night that I might have forgotten to wipe crumbs off one table which would be cause for write up after a couple times.
Its not like I planned for any of those. They just kinda happened. I'm not passionately writing programs or creating art/logos with lots of love or stuff like that. But I do feel fulfilled because I can do that stuff on my time off. And it doesn't matter that my hobby changes every month since it's my hobby and not something tied to my employment.
And if you do get a job where you're actually miserable at, don't be afraid to move. Some people I've seen seem to think you can only change jobs if you're fired or let go. But you can always look around until you find a place that works for you.
I'm chronically ill and I have ADHD. I can't work right now, but I suspect that if I ever get to work, I will probably do a lot of different things over time. Sounds fun. If I had to do the same thing my whole life, I'd be more depressed.
You might do well being self-employed in some way. That way, you have greater flexibility in changing "fields".
To echo @_Rook_, I think therapy would also be useful here. Maybe even some kind of medication adjustment.
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