A thing about being trans is it forces you to become aware of certain things that otherwise you might have gone your life without specifically thinking about. Cis people have bodies. Do cis people know they have bodies? Do cis people know they can change their names? Do cis people know they can decide on their fashion style? How many cis people decided on the style of clothing they wear every day, rather than simply every year wearing the style of clothing they wore the previous year?
@mcc I still have no idea how people manage to purchase clothing of a particular style. The only choice I'm ever able to perceive is between very plain t shirts and jeans, or whatever ugly nonsense happens to be in fashion this year.
@whimsy We need queer eye for the straight guy but just as like, a service you can casually pay $100 for instead of a special TV show with essentialist implications about gay people having fashion skills
@mcc@f00fc7c8
It's similar with being queer in general as well. Being “different” more or less forces you to re-evaluate everything. It forces you to engage with yourself and the world in a way that cis hetero folks have to decide to do on their own. And most just don’t because it is uncomfortable to do so, albeit freeing eventually.
I think it made me a better person than I would have been, had I been a cis het guy.
@mcc in all seriousness having trans friends and listening to their issues did teach me this. I am still not the best at leveraging the presence of my body, and if I’m being honest I still resent it a little bit, but I am at least aware that it is there and that it has various properties (including a gender) and I am not sure that would really be true in the same way if I had only ever heard cis perspectives.
@mcc i literally just had a conversation with my brother wherein i reinforced the fact that i don't go by my legal name much anymore and that im planning to change it to my real name and he was kinda just like "yeah no your name is [legal name]" kindly fuck off
@mcc We know we have bodies when it rains and our joints hurt. I generally wear what gets bought for me but I did pick out a rain jacket and pea coat (couldn't find a sack coat). No plan to change my name. I'd struggle to remember it if I did.
@mcc Given the paucity of cis folks on the Fediverse, I feel obliged to answer…
Yes.
Yes. I’ve done it a couple times myself…
Umm… Yeah, I guess, does it matter?
As I cannot recall ever making a significant broad change in my style of clothing (except for seasonal changes and the 2 years when I was required to wear a tie to work…) I have no basis for understanding this question.
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