Hello all. I am very new to this but it is all very cool to me. I ran into a problem and I am not sure how to troubleshoot it. I downloaded a simple pull string helicopter off thingiverse. After running through the slicer software, the estimated build time is 131 hours. Relative to it’s size this seems insane. If I “run the...
I’m going to be an outlier here, since I got a boyfriend at 16 I was single for about 6 months. I dated that boyfriend for 6 years, spent some time single and then started dating my now husband. We were friends before I broke up with my ex, the breakup wasn’t related at all.
I’m not perfect at it, but what helps me is that I genuinely love to learn and I like to take the opportunity to learn from people when I meet them. I just need to find an entry point (job, hobby, something the person is knowledgeable about) and then I start asking questions, and applying the limited knowledge I might already have on the subject.
With short interactions with people that are working (supermarket, bank, restaurant, phone assistance) I usually go for empathy, and overall just being nice. When one comes to me I go for a joke to brighten their day a bit.
For the Sims 20th anniversary we got a free hot tub in the Sims 4 base game. It was ugly, and before the aniversary the hot tub as a selling point for a paid pack, so the people who spent money to get hot tubs got kinda mad.
I feel the same, but one big thing I miss from reddit are the more niche hobby communities. Back when I spent time on reddit I’d interact more with those kinds of communities because they were smaller and I actually had some good information to give to other people with the same interest. In lemmy getting those kinds of communities is practically impossible, there is not enough people here to make more niche stuff more than a few individuals, and thats not enough to keep a community alive.
I was in the middle of something in another room and it occurred to me that this familiar expression could be adapted for ADHD: A watched pot never catches fire. Good reminder to exercise a little extra caution in the everyday tasks that get boring but are still dangerous if you get complacent. Driving, cooking, poking around in...
I don’t think “A watched pot never boils” was ever meant to be taken literally. The way I see it its more in the sense that if you just stand there looking at it the time it takes to boil will feel like forever.
I don’t know if this counts, but when hold my kindle and phone together and I click the unlock button on my phone the kindle turns on too. Doesn’t happen the other way around, I have no clue how it happens
I had a master plan of diminishing The Pile^TM^ of things to finish or repair, and it’s going farly well. Some of it was really quick and easy, some of it was surprisingly fun to do, some of it was a bit boring....
I have a near finished coat that I stopped working on in November that I really want to finish, but I’m having a hard time starting. I’ve been saying that I’ll do it on the weekend for months now. It’s at a tricky point of fixing a mess up and I’m nervous about making it worse.
It’s ambitious for me too, believe me! I made a big deal of it, bought some nice wool for it. I need to finish it to have something, I can’t bear to waste such good fabric. But I think I backed myself into a corner here, I put too much pressure on it and now I’m afraid to mess up.
Title, basically. I know I have issues, but I couldn’t say if it’s depression, ADD, or just general problems. Is the only reason to have a diagnosis so you know what to work on, or are there other benefits such as easier access to therapy?...
To me a formal diagnosis gives you access to try medication if you want. Even if you’re not interested or ready for medication, a diagnosis (formal or not) can make it easier to find strategies and tools that work for you. Lots of general productivity advice just don’t work for ND folks, and looking for specialized tips makes a big difference.
To me having and accepting my diagnosis helped me accept me as I am and stop thinking I’ll magically be better next week or next month or next year. I now put systems in place to help me with my weaker points and that’s OK.
I see posts talking about good BIFL items but I don’t hear much about the other side of products that are bad or products you bought but don’t even use.
I bought a refurbished galaxy watch 4 and I love it. I use it mostly for reminders and timers and it works really well for me. I put it in the charger while I shower and that basically the only time I’m not wearing it. I understand it’s a pretty unusual use case, I don’t really care about the fitness aspect of it, I just want a voice assistant on my wrist.
I’ve heard people talk about asking for accommodations at work for their ADHD but I have not really heard of any examples of accommodations that have been given for this reason....
I work full remote, so I can’t give you options for in office specific stuff. For myself I always have a notebook and post it notes to replace short term memory. Also, silent fidget toys help me sit though meetings.
Working from home itself helps me work because I can control the environment around me to have less distractions. Also I can get up and sit weird and fidget in my seat without fear of getting called out or judged for it.
I’m not much for siting sideways, more for putting my knees up and my feet on the seat, whitch I can luckily get away with without it showing on camera
Recently I feel like I’m working, sleeping, or waiting for work to start. I hate it, I can’t figure out how to break this waiting mode. Does anyone have any advise?...
To me waiting mode is caused by not trusting myself to not loose track of time if I start doing something else. So I count back the time it will take me to be ready and in the right location and put a bunch of reminders/alarms.
For example, I need to be at the dentist at 4pm. I check Google maps on the time estimate for me to get there (I even put in the arrive time to account for traffic), then I add the time for me to be ready to leave, to park my car, to be there early, adding a bit of a buffer on every step. Then depending on what I want to do before the dentist I put in alarms. If I can stop any time I put an alarm for the time I need to get ready. If I need a bit of a buffer to finish something I put one half an hour early and one at the time to get ready.
Adding some extra times to the estimate is good because we are notoriously bad at estimating times. You get better the more you do it
Is you’re open to not white noise options, I always recommend Nothing much happens podcast. I’ve been a big fan since 2019, I recommend it to anyone to at least try a couple of times
I have this nice heavy winter coat that I accidentally tore a small hole in the shell near a chest pocket. It’s a tiny rip, but I don’t want it to get any larger. Any advice for how I should go about repairing it? I want to try a visible mend instead of a simple patch. The tag says the shell is listed as 61% cotton 39%...
There are some embroidery reinforcement stitches that might look good in there. There’s a bunch of tutorials on YouTube, see if some of those catches your eye.
Edit: a quick search in YouTube did not give me what I was thinking of. The term the you should use is “embroidery mending stitches”
Percy Jackson is written as having ADHD, because the writer’s son had it. I liked it, but maybe the “it’s actually a super power” thing might rub some people the wrong way.
I agree, hence the disclaimer. Although there’s one ADHD lesson from that book that I liked: ADHD people struggle with the way the modern world work and school are structured, but if put in the right environment we thrive.
We can’t fight mithology monsters like Percy does, but I think if we find the right environment to live and work in our ADHD will me more an advantage than an hindrance. Easier said than done, of course, I’m lucky enough to find a work that I love.
Dating is odd to me. I do not really know what my motivations are. If I actually find someone. What then? What will we do? How different will our relationship be from a regular friendship (besides you know what). And should it be?...
In my eyes that distingueshes a “normal” friendship and a life partner is the planning for the future and being a team. You make big life decisions (moving house, career changes, medical decisions) together thinking of the best outcomes for both as a team. You could be a life partner with a non romantic totally platonic friend, but that’s usually not the case you see represented.
In my parents’ house similar to what you said, knifes and forks adjacent and spoons to one side (I don’t remember the exact order). When I moved in with my now husband he said it made more sense to him to have spoons in the middle and I didn’t care that much about it, so we have it like that. I have to say though, I do see an advantage to having the fork, spoon, knife order: when grabbing several pairs (fork and knife) it’s easy to just take each with one with different hands and count them out. And it’s easier once you have knives on the right hand and forks on the left to set a big table with one on each side of the plate.
Quick disclaimer, I don’t have a tidy house at all, and I get lots of help to keep it livable.
With that said, one thing that helped me be better is to just embrace the randomness and half finished tasks.
When moving from the living room to the kitchen I look around for stuff that belongs in the kitchen and take what I can carry. Once in the kitchen I just set it down and do what I meant to do in the kitchen (if I remember what it was!).
During idle times in the kitchen (waiting for the microwave, water to boil, stuff to cook) I start putting away the stuff that is there already. I can stop whenever I’m done with the main task, but at least some progress is made.
When going back to the living room I take stuff from the kitchen that belongs there if I can carry it.
Just a few examples, I know it doesn’t work with every household task, I use podcasts and my husband for the tasks that don’t fit into this.
What do you do to cheer yourself up ?
Question about printing times (www.thingiverse.com)
Hello all. I am very new to this but it is all very cool to me. I ran into a problem and I am not sure how to troubleshoot it. I downloaded a simple pull string helicopter off thingiverse. After running through the slicer software, the estimated build time is 131 hours. Relative to it’s size this seems insane. If I “run the...
How long have you gone without being in a romantic relationship?
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Rockstar didn’t even acknowledge GTA IV’s tenth anniversary. Only by removing several songs from its radio stations....
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A watched pot never boils
I was in the middle of something in another room and it occurred to me that this familiar expression could be adapted for ADHD: A watched pot never catches fire. Good reminder to exercise a little extra caution in the everyday tasks that get boring but are still dangerous if you get complacent. Driving, cooking, poking around in...
What is the strangest tech related bug you can't resolve?
Note: this is not a request for troubleshooting help....
Any week end sewing plans ? How are you doing ?
I had a master plan of diminishing The Pile^TM^ of things to finish or repair, and it’s going farly well. Some of it was really quick and easy, some of it was surprisingly fun to do, some of it was a bit boring....
Is there any real benefit to getting mentally diagnosed?
Title, basically. I know I have issues, but I couldn’t say if it’s depression, ADD, or just general problems. Is the only reason to have a diagnosis so you know what to work on, or are there other benefits such as easier access to therapy?...
What Are Some Things You Regret Buying or Bought but Never Used?
I see posts talking about good BIFL items but I don’t hear much about the other side of products that are bad or products you bought but don’t even use.
Accomodations?
I’ve heard people talk about asking for accommodations at work for their ADHD but I have not really heard of any examples of accommodations that have been given for this reason....
Waiting mode for work
Recently I feel like I’m working, sleeping, or waiting for work to start. I hate it, I can’t figure out how to break this waiting mode. Does anyone have any advise?...
Staggered cadence, rhythm generator?
Problem: I’m being driven mad by voices speaking to me thru white noise. Need white noise to sleep...
What is something small that you do that confuses other people whenever they see you doing it?
Mine is that I pour the milk before the cereal. people are always extremely confused by that.
[Request] How Should I Repair this Coat?
I have this nice heavy winter coat that I accidentally tore a small hole in the shell near a chest pocket. It’s a tiny rip, but I don’t want it to get any larger. Any advice for how I should go about repairing it? I want to try a visible mend instead of a simple patch. The tag says the shell is listed as 61% cotton 39%...
I read the Murderbot Diaries series of books, and the main character, a robot, seems to have major ADHD… (www.goodreads.com)
Are there any other books where the main character seems to be neurospicy?...
How does a SO feel different from a very good friend?
Dating is odd to me. I do not really know what my motivations are. If I actually find someone. What then? What will we do? How different will our relationship be from a regular friendship (besides you know what). And should it be?...
How do you organise your cutlery drawer?
I like having knives, forks, spoons left to right as that is how I say it “grab a knife and fork”....
Organisation, tidying, and clearing techniques?
I need some help when it comes to clearing out, organising and sorting my stuff....