lifewithtrees

lifewithtrees, 2 days ago to gardening

Hello from my little friend

#Frogs #Gardening #Nature

lifewithtrees, 3 days ago to instagramreality

We experience the world as it fades into view….like an old monitor 🤔🤯🖥️

#perception #reality #Life

lifewithtrees, 6 days ago to ADHD

Had to leave an #adhd webinar early.

It was on procrastination and little did I realize when it started that it was 1.5 hours long! 😬

30 minutes in and the speaker was still building up the great solution and STILL hadn’t got to the point so I left.

Sometimes these #adhd “experts” leave me feeling exploited more than helped.

cc @actuallyadhd

#AuDHD

lifewithtrees, 9 days ago to nature

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.”

• Lao Tzu

#spirituality #Nature #Bloomscrolling #florespondence #Spring

lifewithtrees, 10 days ago to actuallyadhd

A job post that explicitly requires someone with "high executive functioning"

Is this #ablemism?

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd #audhd

lifewithtrees, 12 days ago to random

Just learned what a natural witch is and guess what 😆🥰

lifewithtrees, 13 days ago to random

If you were to overhear another professional stating they are “anti-woke,” what would that mean to you?

What assumptions might be made?

#AskFedi

lifewithtrees, 16 days ago to actuallyadhd

“What do you want to do 5 years from now?”

🤔

😬

🤯

I am having a difficult time visioning 5 years from now, what I want to do and then how to get there.

Some of this is due to the chaos of the last few years, but I also think it could be a challenge due to #AuDHD

Also I am 42 so midlife stuff?

That all said, how do you vision 5 years from now?

@actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic

LehtoriTuomo, 18 days ago to actuallyautistic

One reason why it took me so long to self-diagnose autism is that I thought I don't stim. In fact, once I learned that I do stim, my self-diagnosis process kicked in. That was the first time I said to myself that I might actually be autistic.

The reason for this misunderstanding was that I thought stimming is stereotypical, very repetitive, compulsory movement. I guess this misunderstanding is quite common.

I've since learned that stimming, short for self-stimulatory behavior, is basically stimulating one's sensory system in certain ways. It may be a way to soothe oneself, help to focus in overwhelming situations by feeding one's brain predictable sensory input, a way to express joy, or simply something that feels nice. Movements are part of it but any sense can be used.

When googling the term, there are mentions that also neurotypicals stim but that when diagnosing autism, stimming is somehow different -- only socially unacceptable stims are "real" stims. Bah.

I've started paying attention to how and when I stim, and collect a list of stims I do. I've noticed all types of stimming behavior (soothing, focusing, joy, fun). I do it more than before -- or maybe I just notice it more often. I've noticed that I love moving my body parts, especially to music. I also love different textures.

#ActuallyAutistic #stimming @actuallyautistic

lifewithtrees, 23 days ago to actuallyautistic

The older I get, the more I find being in the city to be overwhelming. There are so many people and sounds and smells and it is all sensory overload.

Manhattan (and especially MoMA!) was interesting for the day but I’m ready to get home to the forest.

I am back in my hotel room with white noise going and ordered food I make at home for delivery to calm my nervous system.

#AuDHD @actuallyautistic

lifewithtrees, 26 days ago to random

A freeway

theaardvark, 29 days ago to Autism

#Autism #ADHD #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic
How does everyone know how, when and how much they're masking?
As a late-diagnosed #AuDHD, I struggle to differentiate between "me but masking" and "me but in a diff situation".
Now that I know I'm autistic, I even miss the person I used to be in some situations before I knew.
I used to call myself a "social chameleon" - I just changed automatically to suit the circumstances.
But who actually am I and what is just a mask?
@actuallyautistic
@actuallyadhd

lifewithtrees, 1 month ago to nature

A field coming in to spring.

#nature #lichensubscribe #Mosstodon

lifewithtrees, 1 month ago to LGBTQ

“Stop crying. Men don’t cry”

“Liking country music makes you lose your gay card.”

“You don’t want people to think you are a fish wife do you?”

These are all things I have heard to my face. What they’ve shown me:

Rigid social norms make exploiting the common person simpler.

Rigid social norms simplify having the exploited enforce being exploited.

We exploit each other AND ourselves in service of these rigid social norms.

Liberation is on the other side

Let’s meet there.

#lgbtq #Queer

lifewithtrees, 1 month ago to random

And then, one suddenly finds themselves to be 42.

🥰🤔😝

lifewithtrees, 1 month ago to ADHD

Learned a new word for a thing I do.

What do you think of it @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd ?

AGNOSTHESIA

n. the state of not knowing how you really feel about something, which forces you to sift through clues hidden in your own behavior, as if you were some other person — noticing a twist of acid in your voice, an obscene amount of effort you put into something trifling, or an inexplicable weight on your shoulders that makes it difficult to get out of bed.

#adhd #neurodivergent #audhd